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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:03:16 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Is there a sugestion that if a hedrosexual woman decides to be a Dom or Sub, she wants her man to take care of her?

Is there Female Dominant who bought dinner or drinks for there male submissive?

Is there a Male Dominant who ever had a female sub pay for various outings and expensis?



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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:07:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I actually lke the idea of taking a man to dinner, and paying the bill, bringing him flowers, and plying his innocent, unsuspecting self with alcohol so I can then "just use" him. I think it's cool. Plus - I'll respect him in the morning, too (I promise. Really).

I will demand sex as repayment for my financial support. Fun for all (seriously - it would be fun, dontcha think?). Wow. I can't wait. When do I start? He. hehe.

- Susan 

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:08:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, I have  paid for My boys and when I have them here for a weekend, the groceries, drinks etc are provided by Me---when I went to Canada to get a boy, the whole trip was paid for by Me and the 6 disaster months after---

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:12:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		As far as the "money" aspect when I have someone come to visit, its their responsibility to get here and my responsibility after that. And since its my responsibility, then I have control over what and when things are bought. I like it like that.


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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:26:37 PM   
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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:30:46 PM   
Aswad


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

I believe that women tend to be more nurturing with their power but less flexible in whom they will bestow that power on. I think men are more likely to be willing to mold someone to what they seek and tend to be more forgiving of errors.


Just a quick comment on this. Kimveri commented in another thread that she has found that women more readily adapt to circumstances, while men more readily change circumstances to suit them, and that this is a rather complementary skillset in a way. Regardless of how far that generalization holds, it would seem to be rather in line with what I have quoted here, and much of the rest you said in your post.


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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:34:02 PM   
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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 4:54:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well from reading this thread, I can see that *some* male and female doms sure do like making a lot of generalizations.  

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 5:34:57 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

How about lucky "Hooked on Phonics?"


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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 5:40:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		When it comes to who pays for what, remember that men do earn much more on average than women do for the same job. Obviously if one person earns significantly more, than it is only reasonable to expect the person with the higher earnings to pay for more. This isn't a BDSM issue, it's a matter of economic reality.

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 5:43:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think that we'd all agree there's a wide separation between male and female submissives... as a result, the difference between male and female dominants really shouldnt be so surprising.

At the risk of sounding clinical, I'd propose that we all do what's necessary to "get the job done"

Male and female submissives have different needs, well... for the most part... so we tailor what we do to best fit our match.

I do not want you to think that I believe one is somehow better than the other, they are both... well, what they are, frankly.

Truth be told, both male dominants and male submissives are the least in demand, and as a result, female submissives and female dominants can and do enjoy much more latitude in terms of expectation. It's a capitalistic world, no matter how you try and approach it. Does it make it right? Not really. But if male dominants were in the same demand as female dominants, I am very sure it would make for an interesting counterpoint.

As long as expectations are discussed prior to any arrangements, then really, that is all we can hope for.

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 5:43:23 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		it really is about what two people bring to the table. but remeber it is a we thing not a me thing..

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:02:52 PM   
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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:10:05 PM   
MadRabbit


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ORIGINAL: Aswad

Find something better to do than to stalk MadRabbit with these crap wordgames.


So you are saying that he can form words? 

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:22:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I find it as hard to relate to the general template of female dominance in the OP as he does. So maybe there's a problem with the template, but I find my inability to find a lot of FemDom friends in the scene as possibly telling that the template is an expectation across the board.

In my relationships the people who have more income pay for the fun stuff, though I'm known to take them out for fun once in a while just 'cause. In my case that means my slave and my Bull pick up the tab usually, and my husband and I trade off.

My relationships may involve general deference, but aren't predicated mainly on sexual denial. Except with my slave, because humiliation and denial are hot wired little triggers of his, and therefore - fun. It's about fun, not suffering. Or fun suffering if that makes sense. We laugh. A lot.

My experiences trying to switch with men on the other hand, were miserable, because if I'm gonna submit I want to *submit and be used*  not dick around endlessly. Blowjobs aren't *service* in my personal world, I got out of a vanilla relationship for a reason.

I found that I still basically ran the show because the pussy runs the show.  I'm sure somewhere out there is a Dom who isn't that easily manipulated, but I think he's Gay. I like to Dom, I didn't wanna work that hard on relationships that I may crave once every couple of years, so I just muddle along without.

Blatant generalization, yes, but you wanted to know the differences, that's one I notice. If you are not into "precious little girl" dynamics and generally soft treatment, you are going to have an infinitely harder time of it as a femsub. I feel for them, I think it's really hard to find what you need.

Women were a little more effective with me, femme women the most effective on the whole. Because the pussy ran the show and I was made to sweat for it.

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:24:03 PM   
Aswad


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Status: offline 		MadRabbit:

I acknowledge his ability to form words, even sentences, and sometimes paragraphs.
The semantic cohesion, however, is inversely proportional to the potential utility of what he says.

Michael:

Quite agree. A pity he's so vehemently opposed to drugs, as I suspect a bit of dex would do a world of good.
The possibility that he might consider that at some point is what keeps me from using the Red Hand for the first time.


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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:25:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aswad

MadRabbit:

I acknowledge his ability to form words, even sentences, and sometimes paragraphs.
The semantic cohesion, however, is inversely proportional to the potential utility of what he says.

Michael:

Quite agree. A pity he's so vehemently opposed to drugs, as I suspect a bit of dex would do a world of good.
The possibility that he might consider that at some point is what keeps me from using the Red Hand for the first time.



I think the monkey typewriter hamlet theory goes out the window is all I know.


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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:35:48 PM   
MadRabbit


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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

as to the op I doubt you could dom your way out of a wet paper bag
critcal people never get anywhere but in their own mud... it is like watching someone sink slowly in quick sand yep totally cool.. need a branch rofl na it is to much fun watching you sink in your own garbage.. if your going to be someone of substance.. sugest you start getting your head out of the net.. learn what a true a dom is. Not the bs in the ds well maybe a Domme could show you.. i bet you read every ds book in the world yep your an expert..   



Hmmm....


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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:46:26 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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LatexBaby:

Yeah, I'm a real asshole, for all the world to see, and I couldn't dominate a wet paper bag.
Now, please consider mastering yourself before you bitch about it.
There's not an ounce of ad hominem in what I've said.
Your posts have been 150 proof.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have a video game to play.



see how much you read things. last part of that was not even directed at you but as they say if the shoe fits.. lol  

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RE: Difference between male and female dominance - 8/19/2007 6:49:31 PM   
MadRabbit


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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aswad

LatexBaby:

Yeah, I'm a real asshole, for all the world to see, and I couldn't dominate a wet paper bag.
Now, please consider mastering yourself before you bitch about it.
There's not an ounce of ad hominem in what I've said.
Your posts have been 150 proof.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have a video game to play.



see how much you read things. last part of that was not even directed at you but as they say if the shoe fits.. lol  


Well, since the common majority of us have been unavailable to figure out who or what you are talking about in most of your posts, its an understandable error.

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