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RE: Does size matter? - 1/13/2009 5:43:57 PM

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I've seen guys so small it was like sucking my thumb to suck on their dick, and forget being able to tell they were inside me dureing sex. One guy was so tiny he was only like 2 inches.

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Yes.. it matters. I've seen too small, and been with too small...and when I mean small, I mean less than 5.. and I can't feel it..which sucks.
I'm happy with average, I really am. And I'm probably not going near anything bigger than 9 inches...and even that is stretching it (no pun intended).

And I'm totally down with the whole v-shaped pants thing. I love looking at a bulge, I can't help it. You know how some men are 'breast' or ass men? I'd definitely be a bulge girl. Bulge cleavage...creepy or sexy? *LOL*

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/13/2009 6:31:43 PM

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Overly big cocks are only good for one thing in my opinion and thats porn movies.

Porn movies are funny when the guy looks like he is lowering an engine into her. E-A-S-Y, E-A-S-Y.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/13/2009 6:38:13 PM

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The more time I spend in this lifestyle, the more I realize how little of it involves my dick.

Actually I have a problem with that mindset. In fact as I recall that was the thing that always bothered me about bondage porn-there was never any real sex, just buildup. Maybe it's me.

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Yes, size matters and so does the aptitude of the owner of said appendage. Large and inept is bad enough but at least you got something to build on. Small and inept is just...um...well, is just a raw deal.

The perspective one (male that is) takes depends on which side of the matter one's equipment lies. I have this notion that no guy who is well endowed has a problem with it. So does that mean it doesn't matter or that it's a non issue?

I totally agree that visually and logistically more is better, but I also know that it's the technique, as well as the instrument that makes the music sweet.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/13/2009 10:14:54 PM

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The more time I spend in this lifestyle, the more I realize how little of it involves my dick.

Actually I have a problem with that mindset. In fact as I recall that was the thing that always bothered me about bondage porn-there was never any real sex, just buildup. Maybe it's me.

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ORIGINAL: blacksilk

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Yes, size matters and so does the aptitude of the owner of said appendage. Large and inept is bad enough but at least you got something to build on. Small and inept is just...um...well, is just a raw deal.

The perspective one (male that is) takes depends on which side of the matter one's equipment lies. I have this notion that no guy who is well endowed has a problem with it. So does that mean it doesn't matter or that it's a non issue?

I totally agree that visually and logistically more is better, but I also know that it's the technique, as well as the instrument that makes the music sweet.

Italicized are the statements which this girl finds contradictory. Not all well-endowed men have the technique to make sweet music: some just scrape the bow back and forth hoping for something that sounds remotely tuneful, depending solely on the size and strength of said bow instead of any aptitude for playing. But at least they have the head start of a decent instrument and can learn to read music. It is agreed that the technique is important and some (very few mind you, but some) smaller musicians do have the skill to make the whole contata harmonious. Again, it boils down to "the aptitude of the owner of said appendage".

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/13/2009 10:17:29 PM

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IMHO...yes, it can. Not that I'm thinking horse proportions here, but if you can't feel it, what's the point?

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/13/2009 10:29:47 PM

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To the OP.
i have had large men, the larges a young man who was at least 11inches. Damn, that hurt, hitting my cervix, had to do anal. my bf is about 9 inches but too thick, i can't work my muscles around His cock like i love to do and He isn't getting no where near my ass and i love anal. Sad.
Perfect for me, about 7-9 inches and about thick enough for my fingers to touch when i wrap my hands around the manhood.
Size does matter, for comfort and pleasure.
Too big or too thick is a waste. Just like too small is a waste, better have good tongue skills then, lol.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/14/2009 4:02:30 AM

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Depends on what you wish to use it for.

You got it Cloudz. I've been telling them that while it is 12 inches long, I don't use it...as a rule.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/14/2009 4:07:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

yes and no

It might matter if one is a size queen.

It might not matter if one can't orgasm from penetration alone.

It might not matter if one has no interest at all in the cock.

It might matter if I want to do a ladder with 12 rungs and can't fit 6 between the top and bottom...

It will matter to someone who is looking for a cock.

It will not matter to someone who is looking for a person.

Wait a minute now...I LOVE big TITS and for just about any pleasure I find.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/14/2009 4:14:59 AM

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The more time I spend in this lifestyle, the more I realize how little of it involves my dick.

Some men go their entire lives and never figure that out.

Yes, but it is problematic that when mommy told me these things down there, were not my brains...yet. Why is it not good that I now got a whole lotta brains ?

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/14/2009 4:55:36 AM

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if size mattered i would be in a depression era soup line for the rest of my life.thankfully,i have found a Mistress that doesn't care about size but cares more for my well being and hers as well.she is willing to take on the responsibilty of training me to be the best possible submissive i can be.all she does truly care about is if it works...thankjfully,it does.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/14/2009 6:47:56 AM

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IMHO...yes, it can. Not that I'm thinking horse proportions here, but if you can't feel it, what's the point?

Isn't this the truth!!!!!!!!!

6-7 is perfection.

Who wants to have sex with a thumb?

What a disappointment - a man with a puny sore spot.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/14/2009 7:22:56 AM

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Actually I have a problem with that mindset. In fact as I recall that was the thing that always bothered me about bondage porn-there was never any real sex, just buildup. Maybe it's me.

Just goes to show there's no accounting for taste. The thing that almost always bothers me about most so-called femdom porn is that it usually spends an inordinate percentage of the footage showing the guy receiving sexual gratification, and somehow that's supposed to be "femdom"? Most of it is virtually indistinguishable from vanilla porn; the guy's receiving a blow job, or having intercourse with the "domina", with only a very small portion of the material vaguely resembling a female dominating a male for her own purposes.

On the other hand, I'm not particularly excited by pure bondage, with no further purpose in mind but the bondage itself. I love bondage a part of a scene, but to me what makes it exciting and erotic is the control it gives the dominant person, and I want to see that control demonstrated by the dominant's further use of the sub.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 6:25:46 AM

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One guy was so tiny he was only like 2 inches.

I thought that was our little secret?

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 8:23:36 AM

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It matters in as far that it should be big enough to do what it was designed to do. Big or small, both have different advantages.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 4:45:33 PM

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No. My ex husband had a pretty small penis, but he was amazing in bed. Bigger ones can be a plus, but not mandatory for gratification.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 7:25:21 PM

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To me the length is not as important as the girth. i like them thick so that i feel full. i agree with pompeii that by the time a guy gets intimate enough with me for me to see it, it doesn't matter.

i've had many sizes and shapes, from pathetically small to about 9 inchs... i was always more interested in how they acted in bed and out than in what equipment they were born with.

I agree--girth is waaaaaaay more important. My beloved is blessed, and it's a very nice perk, but half his size would be ok too. Smaller cocks are great for anal, right? ; ) There is such a thing as too small, but that's pretty darn small. (Dominican guy, size of my thumb, true story. ..)

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 8:13:40 PM

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One of my friends told me she came across one that was big it hurt.

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 8:38:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: blacksilk

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Yes, size matters and so does the aptitude of the owner of said appendage. Large and inept is bad enough but at least you got something to build on. Small and inept is just...um...well, is just a raw deal.

The perspective one (male that is) takes depends on which side of the matter one's equipment lies. I have this notion that no guy who is well endowed has a problem with it. So does that mean it doesn't matter or that it's a non issue?

I totally agree that visually and logistically more is better, but I also know that it's the technique, as well as the instrument that makes the music sweet.

Italicized are the statements which this girl finds contradictory. Not all well-endowed men have the technique to make sweet music: some just scrape the bow back and forth hoping for something that sounds remotely tuneful, depending solely on the size and strength of said bow instead of any aptitude for playing. But at least they have the head start of a decent instrument and can learn to read music. It is agreed that the technique is important and some (very few mind you, but some) smaller musicians do have the skill to make the whole contata harmonious. Again, it boils down to "the aptitude of the owner of said appendage".

actually my thoughts are not contradictory. I fully realize that even the finest instrument in the hands of a hack, is a waste. on the other hand with a fine instrument and a skilled hand, the music will flow and the song will surely strike a sweet chord.

I do ask though is it the aptitude of the appendage's owner or his attitude?

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/15/2009 8:46:50 PM

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I am lucky enough to have a husband that is perfect in girth, though a touch longer than I would prefer. Cant have everything, so the idea isnt to get a guy with a huge or small penis, but to teach them how to use it to your-- and his-- benefit. That makes for some interesting nights too! :D

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RE: Does size matter? - 1/16/2009 7:20:19 AM

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Reading all these responses made me think that size does matter, perhaps, at least a man's physical size (i.e., his height & weight).
Since that is OT for this conversation, I opened a new thread for that over at
http://www.collarchat.com/m_2397679/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2397679

I suspect physical size for a Top/Dom does matter, at least in proportion to the size ratio to the bottom/sub ... but I'll see what we learn over there.

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