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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/20/2013 12:17:36 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		OH! Much better profile. Beautiful picture that, to me at least, says, "I'm a lady and expect to be treated as such."

Only thing I would add is maybe a little vanilla information about you. Hobbies, favorite movies, what you enjoy doing for fun.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/20/2013 3:31:35 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I love when people take advice. I did not see the old profile, but this one appears much different.

As everyone has said, don't fuck around on a first meet unless you want it to be your last meet. And yes, I know many people say they are in a long term relationship and played right away, but I still maintain that is more unusual than standard.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/20/2013 6:02:38 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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Status: offline 		OP, I agree that your profile update was a massive improvement and a big step in the right direction you want to go in. Would love to see a bit more about who you are and what interests you. When I was looking for someone, I found myself just as interested (maybe even more) in the vanilla things about a person as I was about the D/s things about them. For me, I have found that I can tell a lot about someone based on the passions that they have in life. But all in all, you did really good with the new profile stuff.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/20/2013 6:05:24 PM   
openlove312005


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Status: offline 		Just wanted to dip in here. Ive also had the same experience....they all seem real but after the first meet/session- Boom, theyre gone...even when it all seems to go great. It is discouraging, to say the least.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/20/2013 6:06:29 PM   
openlove312005


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Status: offline 		Just wanted to dip in here. Ive also had the same experience....they all seem real but after the first meet/session- Boom, theyre gone...even when it all seems to go great. It is discouraging, to say the least.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/20/2013 6:09:14 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		This from someone who's profile *starts* with 'make all my holes hurt.'

Please go back and read this thread from the top. If you still don't get it, seek help in finding assistance for those who have ZERO reading comprehension.

TY, you have a great life now, kk?

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 12:44:28 AM   
TAFKAA


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Status: offline 		You're displaying two out of three. Look, how hard can this be? If you don't respect yourself, then no man will either.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 12:52:36 AM   
LafayetteLady


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From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline 		Just to add to what Chatte has already said...

Have you read the advice given to the OP or just her initial post? Because the same advice we gave to her would apply to you.

You lead with your sexuality. You have a very nice face pic, but then follow with all of the ways you are an "accomplished sex pot." Your profile talks about (as already mentioned), "making all your holes hurt."

Do you really expect great guys looking for a relationship to be emailing you based on that profile?

If you want someone to see that there is more to you than you being able to suck dick, eat pussy, take a large butt plug, and the myriad of other sexual activities you show in your pictures, then you need to have a profile that says there is more to you than those things. Right now, that is all your profile says, "I want to get laid." Apparently, it is working just fine for that.

If you want something else, you need to look at what YOU are doing wrong. Reading this thread could be very helpful in that regard.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 1:00:51 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: scottishgirl

Great advice, thank you all so much.

It was a hard lesson to learn, but now I can see the truth: I was asking for the treatment I got. Silly me....

Time to change and get real, then!

Elle


My God. That is one of the sexiest, most enticing profile pics I've ever seen, all without flashing much flesh.

Are you SURE you live in France, and not in Colorado?

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 3:52:23 AM   
EligibleOwner


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Status: offline 		What brilliant advice people have given on this thread! It's great that you've been listening. I didn't see your original profile, but (speaking as a dominant man who's interested in relationships rather than sex or play - I'm in your "target market" I think) the profile that's up now is classy and interesting. It could tell us more about you, though.

I think for a submissive woman who wants a serious relationship with a dominant man, it's a good idea to avoid sex or any sort of play not just on a first date, but for quite a while. I'm male, so I'm interested in sex, I admit. But I'm actually much more interested in dominating a woman, ultimately. It's the prospect of that that would really attract me to a woman like you, and it's that idea that would make me want a relationship with you. So I think that sort of attraction (and not sexual attraction) is the best thing for initial meetings to concentrate on, and doing enough talking to work out whether we'd be compatible in a relationship as dominant and submissive (and in other ways).

If you focus on those things, and stay non-tactile for several dates, then you'll definitely have lots of disappointments and non-repeat dates, because you'll weed out all the men who just "aren't that into you" or who are just after sex. But the disappointments will be less frustrating, and the few who you see on a third date are likely to be have real potential.

I honestly don't think the sort of man you want will have the slightest problem being "patient enough" for that. Being impatient about sex is (I think) the mindset of the sort of man who's interested mainly in sex with you; it's not the thinking of a man who's mainly interested in dominating you in a relationship.




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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 6:35:16 AM   
LafayetteLady


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From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline 		Look at that, you are not only her target dominant because you are relationship minded, but you could be close by.....

Perhaps you two should meet? You sound like a gentleman, and she certainly needs a date with a gentleman (who is also dominant of course).


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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 7:36:13 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		watches the matchmaking take place...aaawww



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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 9:02:50 PM   
Duskypearls


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ORIGINAL: EligibleOwner

What brilliant advice people have given on this thread! It's great that you've been listening. I didn't see your original profile, but (speaking as a dominant man who's interested in relationships rather than sex or play - I'm in your "target market" I think) the profile that's up now is classy and interesting. It could tell us more about you, though.

I think for a submissive woman who wants a serious relationship with a dominant man, it's a good idea to avoid sex or any sort of play not just on a first date, but for quite a while. I'm male, so I'm interested in sex, I admit. But I'm actually much more interested in dominating a woman, ultimately. It's the prospect of that that would really attract me to a woman like you, and it's that idea that would make me want a relationship with you. So I think that sort of attraction (and not sexual attraction) is the best thing for initial meetings to concentrate on, and doing enough talking to work out whether we'd be compatible in a relationship as dominant and submissive (and in other ways).

If you focus on those things, and stay non-tactile for several dates, then you'll definitely have lots of disappointments and non-repeat dates, because you'll weed out all the men who just "aren't that into you" or who are just after sex. But the disappointments will be less frustrating, and the few who you see on a third date are likely to be have real potential.

I honestly don't think the sort of man you want will have the slightest problem being "patient enough" for that. Being impatient about sex is (I think) the mindset of the sort of man who's interested mainly in sex with you; it's not the thinking of a man who's mainly interested in dominating you in a relationship.



What he said ^^^^^times infinity. Well said, my good man!

BTW Eligible, your words imressed me enough to make me perv your profile. I appreciate how specific and explicit you are. Good luck finding your fit.

< Message edited by Duskypearls -- 2/21/2013 9:08:59 PM >

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 9:13:11 PM   
ServosCor


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Status: offline 		Good advice all around!  More newbies should take a peek at this thread before writing their profiles!

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 9:40:44 PM   
Duskypearls


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ORIGINAL: ServosCor

Good advice all around!  More newbies should take a peek at this thread before writing their profiles!


You said it, Sister!

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/21/2013 11:16:06 PM   
LafayetteLady


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

BTW Eligible, your words imressed me enough to make me perv your profile. I appreciate how specific and explicit you are. Good luck finding your fit.


No, no, no, Dusky. We have found his match! The OP and he are somewhat close to each other. He is obviously what she needs, and based on the new picture and profile, I can't see what there is about her for him not to like.

I so hope that he does write to her and they go out. It would be so cool to see how a match was made simply from this thread.

So Eligible, how about dropping her a line and letting her see how a real gentleman approaches things?

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/22/2013 1:39:57 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		LL, you could start a whole new thing here matchmaking, love it!

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/22/2013 1:59:08 AM   
MsGypsey


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Status: offline 		Could this possibly be one of the best advice threads ever? Someone wanted advice and feedback. They got it. Then they took that advice and implemented it. I can't wait to see the outcome. Hope it's a positive one.

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/22/2013 2:51:07 AM   
EligibleOwner


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Status: offline 		Gosh, LL (and Dusky) it's very flattering to hear those nice things (and be matchmade!). The OP is in another country to me, though, and at the far end of it ...

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RE: One date wonder doms who never return - 2/22/2013 7:15:19 AM   
Duskypearls


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


quote:

ORIGINAL: Duskypearls

BTW Eligible, your words imressed me enough to make me perv your profile. I appreciate how specific and explicit you are. Good luck finding your fit.


No, no, no, Dusky. We have found his match! The OP and he are somewhat close to each other. He is obviously what she needs, and based on the new picture and profile, I can't see what there is about her for him not to like.

I so hope that he does write to her and they go out. It would be so cool to see how a match was made simply from this thread.

So Eligible, how about dropping her a line and letting her see how a real gentleman approaches things?


I'm with the program, LafayetteLady, and would love to encourage them. Hear that you two?!

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