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Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 4:45:08 PM

SavageFaerie

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I am a person that enjoys Random acts of Kindness...
A person that is a tad short in the grocery line..I will throw the difference their way.
A homeless person I will buy them lunch or something.

I think you get the idea...and I am not here to toot my own horn.

But I just went to the corner store and was short a dollar....the person behind me threw the dollar on the counter.

So in essence I just got a Pay If Forward.

I feel pretty damn good right now....my day is complete.

Have you done a Random act?
Did you get a Pay it Forward?

I think its time for a feel good thread.

Maybe it will get some people thinking how little things can just plain change a persons day.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 5:11:13 PM

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don't ya just love when stuff that happens..lol

I've given change to people in lines before when they were short. Its a nice feeling.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 5:20:09 PM

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I let someone I met who needed a place to stay live with me for over 6 months.
Because I remembered that someone once helped me find and apartment when I "ran away from home" due to a knock down drag out fight with my mother when I was 19 (I was in college and living w/my parents). I left and didn't return for a good long while.

This person I knew only a short time let me stay with them for a few days and also helped me rent the apartment across the hall from them (I had 90% of the money, just needed about $75). We became life-long friends - but he died, sadly, of AIDs a few years ago. I miss him, he was so much fun. He was a great guy - one in a million. I miss him every day.

So anyway - years later, I met a gal who needed a place to live - her room-mates were really hassling her, and making her life miserable. And, even though I didn't know her that well, I knew she was a good person. And she didn't know anyone else in town - she was new to my city. And she'd had such a rough life, too.
So she moved in, and we had so much fun, and she was responsible as a room-mate, too - we went everywhere together. Then I met my husband ,and he wanted to move in with me, so she graciously moved out. She is getting her Master's degree now, and is engaged.

- Susan

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 5:34:35 PM

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I agree Faeire, thats the best ! Serendipity,,,Karma...i believe we create it for ourselves by the way we treat others.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 5:37:27 PM

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Im the same way Id give the shirt off my back to a stranger but I dont often have it happen to me... but one time a few months back in school i was getting a soda $1.25 I put my only dollar in and started searching through my purse for a quorter the girl sitting to the side saw me and without saying anything put the quorte in the machine.. I was speachless this made me happy for the rest of the day and i couldnt stop smileing... see it doesnt take much to make others happy!!!! we should all try it

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 5:54:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

I agree Faeire, thats the best ! Serendipity,,,Karma...i believe we create it for ourselves by the way we treat others.

I like alot of people dont have the perfect life...far from it..

But I never lost sight of the way my mother taught me how much better it is to be a giving person and her mother taught her that.

And when things are crappy....I feel so much better when I can just give a little time or effort a day. I really dont care if it comes back...it fullfills me when I do it...and to me that is enough to enrich my life....even on the worst of days.

People anymore get so angry about little things...if they would direct that anger into something positive....the world would be a much better place.

At least that is my take on it. It works for me.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/30/2006 8:14:46 PM

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a lady sent back one of my peices of glass and the hotel credited her credit card.

i went into the studio today and rebuilt her peice that was broken, and she will be so surprised that i have no desire for her to give me money, but i am thrilled at the idea at her having the peice back and that she will think fondly onf her experiance with my art .....

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 9:08:53 AM

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A few months ago we were out to breakfast and when we asked the waiter for the bill he said those people that just left paid it. We were shocked, we hadn't talked to them or ever seen them before. Just yesterday we paid it forward by giving someone who had no gas money $20 and we told them to do something kind for someone soon.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 12:57:32 PM

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Its is all a feel good thing. I will give a huge generous tip if a service person was good or even funny interaction when we are out. I have at times tipped more than the dinner itself if it wasnt a expensive upscale restaurant.

Several months ago was at a gas station...girl came up and asked if she could possible have anything for gas...the person that was in the car with me said dont she is probably panhandling, she said she was trying to get to houston to get her grandmother in to see a dr, the older woman was in the car and didnt look that well. This area being hard hit by Rita people are short....heck even the panhandlers.....so I had her pull up and filled her little car up with gas and gave her a ten so she could at least get beverages and something.

Even if giving doesnt go for what is intended I figure who cares...its the thought in the long run and I feel better.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 1:09:54 PM

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I was getting out of my second relationship. I was 18 and had NO street smarts, but i'm always one to pull over and give someone a lift ( when i was able to drive) or throw in some change, etc. I was hitch-hiking from Maine to NY and it was cold. It was the very end of February and i was near frozen. I wasn't dressed in much, just my flannel PJ's and a coat- because it was the warmest thing i owned. I was walking through a small town and i was soo cold. I stopped to rest on a bench out front of one of those home town diners. A waitress, her name was Cyndy, came out and pulled me in. Gave me somehting to eat and some hot coffee. I slept for awhile in the back, and when i woke up, she was bandaging the cuts and scrapes i had. The 'Dominant' in my life had decided that a baseball bat would be a fun S&M toy. I had my arm tied up, because it was broken in four places. Cyndy drove me to the hospital. She also got in touch with my family- something i hadn't wanted to do yet, incase they didn't want me.
My family came up to get me, and were there when i got out of surgery for my arm, and so was Cyndy. That woman saved my life. And now every year, she gets birthday, Christmas, and Easter cards from me.
Thank God there are still people in the world that aren't so jaded they can't see their own feet in front of them.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 1:13:13 PM

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Oh My... this is great timing for this thread.. thanks Faerie..Just this past weekend I met someone and we talked for quite a while, and it just so happens that I have been through a similar situation that he is now going thru and I gave him some advice, just a few tidbits about what I been thru and learned about the experience.. and he was so happy, he thanked Me profusely and I said to him.. This to Me is a "pay it forward" situation... ~smiles`.... So I do believe that it only takes a moment to let someone else know that you do care

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 1:47:52 PM

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A while ago when I was in a serious relatonship, my significant others cousin got leukemia. Insurance covered a lot but the family really couldnt afford much more than the very very basic anti-emetics.. And the basics were not working. I was doing really well dancing and Domming at the time, so I went in and paid for a couple months of really high grade stuff. Didn't tell anyone about it either. I did it until he finished treatment, and to this day, his family just thinks their insurance came through. Hehe, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 1:55:49 PM

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These are examples of the old expression: What goes around, comes around..

so much nicer than i normally hear it used..lol...

my thought is usually something along the line of..there, but for the grace of God, go my kids, my friends, or even me. i'd like to think when i need help someone will be there for me or mine as i am there for others.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 2:05:41 PM

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I could "preach a whole sermon" on this subject but I will spare y'all!

Let's just leave it that I believe that everyday we need to live with kindness and empathy for others. You can give someone a genuine smile or a kind word and never know that it was a really huge thing for them. A genuine thank you can mean everything. A word of encouragement or even a "get your shit together" for the right person at the right time, can tell someone at the end of their emotional rope that it's worth trying to go on, that someone just might give a damn about them.
Just a concentrated effort to not be rude is a nice thing in todays world. It always amazes me the reactions I get by just being myself and using the manners I was raised with.
There are several woman in a small and very poor town near where I live that pool their unique resources to make sure that EVERY single child in that town gets a Christmas present that they wanted. One knows everyone and digs up the info and sets up the town's Christmas party and the other finds the $$ to buy the gifts and sneak them into party central. The looks on those kids faces is so fantastic I cannot even describe it.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 2:55:51 PM

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Savage,

What a great thread! I try to pay it forward every day, even if the only thing I have to give is a smile or an act of respect. One of my favorites is to pay the toll for the next few cars.

Blessed Be

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 3:09:36 PM

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enigma, I love your Mastercard ad!

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 3:14:37 PM

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I agree. What a great thread.
It inspires me to go out and do something nice for someone. And I shall.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 5:36:33 PM

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I try to go out of my way and go the extra mile for people everyday of my life. Sometimes it is small...a friendly smile or a kind word...sometimes it's bigger.

I used to work in Substance Abuse counseling. The facility I worked in was in the inner city. We were one of the few places that would accept the indigent. I can't begin to tell you how many came through our doors. We were overwhelmed really. I tried to give all the best that I had to give but once you start doing it for awhile, although it's cold to say, you really concentrate your efforts on those you know really want help and have the best chance at success.

This past March I had to have major surgery. I was in a room with another woman who had been the victim of a robbery/assault. Over the course of that 10 or so days we became kind of close. My room was always full of family and friends.....in all of the time that I was there she had no visitors. My heart went out to her.

On the third day after surgery I had a bit of a problem crop up. It seems that when they put the tube down my throat in surgery they scratched down the back of my throat. It wasn't really a problem...until they removed my morphine drip. Within an hour I began to cough...the kind of cough you get when you swallow something wrong....uncontrollable, can't breathe, tears streaming down your face kind of coughing. Well with an incision that started at my ribs and went to my groin I have to tell you that coughing was not a fun experience. These coughing fits would hit every few hours when the pain meds started to wear off for the next three days.

Each time one would start, the woman in the next bed would get out of her bed and come to my bedside. She would summon the nursing staff and take my hand and encourage me to hang in there and reassure me that help was coming.

On the day of her discharge I went to her and gave her a beautiful lighted glass box that I had in my room that she had been admiring. I told her that I wanted her to have it because she was so wonderful to me and she helped me so much. She was just thrilled. She went on to tell me that she was just paying me back for all I did for her. I told her she must be mistaken...I had been far too ill to have been helpful to anyone. It was then that she said that she recognized me as soon as they wheeled me in. I had been her counselor 15 or so years before. She said..."it is because of you that I have been clean and sober all these years. Everyone else had given up on me as a lost cause...but you believed in me. You saved my life". I was immediately reduced to tears. Most times you never know of your impact on the life of another....I feel so blessed for having the chance to know just this once.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 5:43:49 PM

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I pay it foward every day. I moved back home to help take care of my ailing grandparents and mother. I believe in close family and those that I consider family.
Would give the shirt off my back if it means it would help out another.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 6:54:50 PM

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I have always wondered just what the term "Pay it forward" means. I do not understand the phrase at all.
Since you all seem to agree that it means being on the receiving end of a common courtesy, perhaps you can explain the term to me...why does "Pay it forward" mean that?

P.S. I am not being a jerk...I really don't understand the term, and would love to

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