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What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:00:59 PM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		Aside from the wannabe's that bring all sorts of merriment to the forums, what do you as a Dominant or a submissive bring to the table?
 
What keeps you outside of the box, so to speak?
 
I know the question is ambiguous, but it's meant that way...to really answer an ambiguous question without the same answers that we've all practically memorized by rote.
 
I bring a love of puppies, caramel, and a new-found fondness for growing things. All of these things, as silly as they might sound, do have a place in our D/s relationship. Daddy permitted me to adopt puppies after being on my best behavior. He's also known to show up with something caramel if I've done something extraordinary, or if He just feels like spoiling me. And the growing things...well, it gives me my own space to really get away from the world for a minute and remind myself that I have helped something thrive.
 
Okay, not sure how I should end this, but I hope ya'll get the idea.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:09:15 PM   
Stranger1


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Status: offline 		Love of God's creation,and respect for it.

A few skills in making things.

Some artsy ideas.

A wild imagination, and humor.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:13:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Stranger1

Love of God's creation,and respect for it.

A few skills in making things.

Some artsy ideas.

A wild imagination, and humor.


And, you incorporate those things into your D/s dynamic? How fabulous...I wish I was just the least bit artsy...I'm definitely jealous.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:14:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

quote:

ORIGINAL: Stranger1

Love of God's creation,and respect for it.

A few skills in making things.

Some artsy ideas.

A wild imagination, and humor.


And, you incorporate those things into your D/s dynamic? How fabulous...I wish I was just the least bit artsy...I'm definitely jealous.


Of course!

Exactly how always depends on who.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:22:39 PM   
jaunty1


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Status: offline 		Hello
 
With my girl's work, she is always pretty stressed by the time she gets home. We always take the time for some trainging; she gets to beat on me as much and as hard as she wants. Let's the stress of the day out.
 
Live well
 
Alex

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:23:22 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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service skills!!!

http://www.collarchat.com/m_789802/mpage_1/key_skills/tm.htm#789805
the submissive brag thread

Reposted:
Good question, and there's no possible way I can include them all:

Good working knowledge of pop culture and classical cinema, theater, music and literature.

Excellent background in debate and contextualizing, excellent research skills.

Quick learner, follows directions well

Fastidious organizer, excellent relational memory and trivialist

Offline friendships and contacts to the scene on many levels

Young and in fairly good physical condition, no diseases

Sexually educated and experienced

Computer literate with moderate level of experience in average office programs and database management

No children or sick relatives currently needing daily attending

Independent means of transportation

Excellent shopping and styling skills

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:27:42 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		The things that are semi unique to me all are things from the Nilla world, some transefer.
I am very level headed.
I am able to function daily with little to no direction and thrive.
I can cook.
I am able and do work, I even like it most of the time.
I am visiual, fairly articulate, interact well with others and have been told I
give a pretty good blow job.........  LOL



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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:36:54 PM   
daddysblondie


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Status: offline 		Okay, I couldn't pass this one up.

Quick learner, as well as having a love for learning.
Have a job with lots of available time off.
I can bake.
Know how to act appropriately in any number of environments.

Oh and according to Daddy, I make a great "target" for the remote controlled helicopter...

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:44:17 PM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		As an artist, I offer my creativity, the sharing of skills in my field. A desire to learn from each other to see things from another perspective.
A committment to my principles and ethics, and a trusting, caring friendship. A dislike for drama, Oh, and I'll bring the Dessert. Just to name a few.
Edited to add~ I'll teach how cook real Hungarian food.:)

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:49:56 PM   
MsBearlee


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Status: offline 		Well, actually, as a submissive I come fairly spoiled.  I’ve got a lot to offer an experienced, somewhat sadistic Dominant…in the arena of hard, edgy play.
 
For the Dominant man who’s newer to BDSM, I can offer experience and mentoring.  He’d have to be pretty dominant in the first place, however.  Still, it’s hard to find a girl who likes to play hard.
 
For either…I also bring loyalty, honesty and enthusiasm.  I’m an excellent cook with a good knowledge of wine; I love to entertain, design and maintain gardens and ponds…and participate in just about all things sexual with my partner.  I have experience with animals (no, not THAT way) and enjoy working with them, I have designed and delivered computer training and am a pretty good little techie, I have a working knowledge of good nutrition, and while I’m not so much a sports enthusiast, I do love to fish and camp and hike.  I like research and I write fairly well. 
 
I believe the first duty of a good submissive is to make the Dom/mes life easier.
 
For submissives & slaves…I offer a pretty damn good beating based on their level of pain; and again…experience.  I have little interest in role-play or fantasy, but could certainly offer the same loyalty, honesty and enthusiasm to a submissive who wanted to serve me in the manner a Knight serves his lady. 
 
I believe in celebrating a partnership…regularly.
 
B



Oh yeah...and I got LOTSA toys...    
 
 

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:55:12 PM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		The question was what do I bring to the table?

For starters, the table itself.  I'm willing to provide the home and all that goes with that.  Include with that a place to feel safe (not just physically, but emotionally as well), security, and all the things that make a house a home.

Throw in some adventure.  I love life, I love living it.  Half my childhood reads like a Tom Sawyer novel.  I may be older now, and the adventures may be more "grown up", but I'm still that same kid at heart.  Life has at times knocked me down, but it has never been able to beat me down and it will never, ever, ever, break me.  You just never know what's around the next  bend of the road with me, but whatever it is, it'll be interesting.  Boredom is not a problem.

Add a lot of creativity... I'm an endlessly creative person.  Creative in business, creative in art or music, creative in bed.  To quote Frank Dobie, "conform and be dull."  I'm not a dull person.  Creativity is important in my life, its necessary to my own happiness and it does have a way of keeping things interesting.

I bring leadership, integrity, honesty, personal strength, dependability, compassion, boundaries, structure, ambition, drive, and goals to the table.

I bring experience, a considerable knowledge of psychology and human nature, the ability to manage people, the ability to push without going beyond what you can do or handle.

I bring a love of life, to quote Will Varner, "I like life, I like it so much I just might live forever!"  And you know, I just might... you can be damn sure I'm going to give it a good long try.

Oh, and I can quote volumes of poetry on a whim.

But.... you knew there was going to be a "but" right?

The catch is I'm picky as hell.  I've a lot to offer, and I'm not going to accept someone who doesn't bring something to the table herself.  Nobody rides for free, and everybody in my house contributes something to the pot.  So I expect a submissive to do her bet to impress me, because otherwise... well... I'm a patient man and I am not going to give up, back down or settle.  I'm playing for keeps, and I always play to win.

What keeps me outside the box?  When was I ever "in" the box?

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 2:56:14 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Commitment, integrity, honesty, talent, dedication, experience, passion, intensity, humor, toys.

Quirks and foibles.  I'm not entirely without faults.

Overall, a prize.

Jeff

edited to add:  There's no vegetables at the table waiting for me, is there?

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:01:03 PM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		I suck great cock.  Other than that, not a damn thing.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:02:07 PM   
spanklette


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I asked this question, because I'm enjoying each of the answers...it makes you all become just a little bit more than pixels on a screen to me. I'm making this post due to a message on the other side...but, I figured everyone would like to know my motives, as well. This isn't some sort of experiment...just a chance to be an individual in a "community" circumstance.
 
And, by the way...all of your answers have been wonderful and have made me rethink what it is that makes a Dominant or submissive attractive to one another. It's not just the persuasion or role. It's the intricacies that bring it all together.
 
Okay, I've officially talked too much.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:05:47 PM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: spanklette

Okay, I've officially talked too much.

Now you'd never hear an Irishman say that.

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A stern discipline pervades all nature, which is a little cruel so that it may be very kind - Edmund Spencer

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:08:55 PM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		Come to think of it...Daddy has never said anything resembling that...and He's Irish.
 
I should ponder my Native American roots...mostly my tribe would tell me that bringing any sort of attention to oneself is unbecoming. Of course, they won't pay for my college...so, I'll talk all I want.

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"The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become. " Charles du Bois

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:15:42 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Thank you so much for this thread. I've noticed that I've been discouraged lately as we've talked to possible betas for our house. It seems that many want the "golden ring" so badly that they forget that a D/s relationship is still a relationship and will need more than sex and obediance to survive. I always ask them what their goals are, and so many of them have none other than to be submissive rather than be A submissive. We ask who they are and they talk about sex and obedience. What we want to know is exactly what you posed here on this thread.

Me? I'm a problem solver. I test extremely high on logic problems. So, Master tends to put that to his use.

I can cook pretty well. I love football, cars and skiing.

I have a very quick wit and it matches Master's, so I get to make him laugh which just makes my heart thump.

I'm a cuddler. I like to hold hands, touch shoulders and curl up with him. I'm a dog lover and his dog has become my guardian.

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:16:31 PM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		Aye... the problem is never getting us to talk...

... its getting us to shut up!

A certain young lady can attest to that, kept her up til 4 am last night (this morning?).  I was up this morning, busy, wheeling, dealing, while she slept til noon.  Poor girl is half my age and I wear her out.  Guess I need to get a couple more.

So add boundless energy and endless conversation to my list.

"Turn it up... you're not working hard enough... and your little bit is not enough... you got to find yourself some day."  Turn It Up -- Silver

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:26:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

...It seems that many want the "golden ring" so badly that they forget that a D/s relationship is still a relationship and will need more than sex and obediance to survive. I always ask them what their goals are, and so many of them have none other than to be submissive rather than be A submissive. We ask who they are and they talk about sex and obedience. What we want to know is exactly what you posed here on this thread. ...



Bingo!!!    Well said!   Perhaps I'll send 'em to this thread with a link to your post! 
 
Thank you,
B

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RE: What do you bring to the table? - 4/30/2007 3:27:30 PM   
Calandra


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I love to cook, and always yearn to find new and unique recipes to tease the tastebuds. My home always has delicious aromas to greet those who come through My door.
 
I love to sew and design - have often used that knowledge for everything from kinky crafts to costumes. I've made harnesses, diapers, sissy clothing, lingerie, etc. I also use those skills to create a beautiful and relaxing home environment.
 
I love reading and whether it's the newspaper or a novel or a cereal box, I always have something to discuss. I often suggest that a slave read the newspaper (or at least two articles from every section if time is an issue) EVERY DAY, so they are a good companion for their Mistress/Master. I would expect that a Dominant aso be well read for the same reason.
 
I love animals and plants. We have six boxers, two cats and oftentimes a hedgehog in residence. One of My biggest disappointments is that I have a black thumb. When a plant sees Me coming, it loses it's will to live. LOL
 
I love games of all kinds. D&D, board games, video and computer games. Keeps Me sharp and interesting.
 
I love People, and I try to help others who are not as fortunate as I am when I have the opportunity. My slave has done brake jobs for others, and done construction projects for people - free of charge. My other slave does massage and holistic treatments for those who are in pain or stressed out. We raise money and sponsors for benefit shows and donate time to causes. We open our home to those who have hard times and feed people when they don't have groceries.
 
And, of course we love to teach and share a lifestyle that has made us very happy. So we all actively Mentor when asked.

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