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Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 12:06:03 AM   
LuciusAestus


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Status: offline 		First a little backstory on why I made this thread, feel free to skip, I just like talking about myself:
I see myself as a very dominant person in many ways. To kings and queens alike, I'll never see myself bowing out of anything else than respect. I base many of my plans for the future on my unwillingness to serve anyone, be it the boss of a major business that I could earn millions working for, or just the society as a whole. But there's one urge I've had for ages without an explanation: I wish for there to be a girl in my life who I can make an exception for. Now that I've found a girl who I think could do well in that position, for now, things aren't exactly as they used to be. I'm used to keep my back straight no matter who I face and seeing the horned guy as a hero when facing the bearded man himself and saying to his face the famous words "non serviam", needless to say, it's a bit unusual to have somebody call me 'pet' and like it. I feel that for this girl, I should change my behavior pattern a bit. I've heard that many people don't like a sub who will just wait to be played with, just taking and not giving, and I feel like this kind of sub right now. Being blessed with awereness of it, I have the chance to do something about it before I can regret not doing it.

So bascially I need to know how a sub should act in order to not bore their partner. Some other girl once told me that the ideal sub would come over with a collar and leash in his mouth when he wanted to play. Give me more examples like this. Tell me how you like to please your Masters or Mistresses. Or if you're a dom/me yourself who doesn't mind answering questions for subs once in a while, I'd also love to hear how you like your sub to act to make you happy. Go ahead, educate me in your ways, I'm dying to hear your stories.
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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 3:17:56 AM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		Probably the single most important thing I do is to not feed the imaginations of people outside of my relationship with details of what is a very special and intimate relationship to me. And I do so enthusiastically.

Hope this helps.

juliet

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 3:43:29 AM   
LuciusAestus


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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

Probably the single most important thing I do is to not feed the imaginations of people outside of my relationship with details of what is a very special and intimate relationship to me. And I do so enthusiastically.

Hope this helps.

juliet


I'm assuming you mean that sharing those details would be silly, as they're supposed to work for you and not others? Or is it just a personal preference to keep it private?

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 5:07:59 AM   
temptressofsouls


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Status: offline 		Why dont you ask her? This lifestyle thrives on open communication, and everyone is different-things we suggest may not work for your relationship. "I feel like Im not doing enough for you. Is there anything you'd like me to do?"

That being said, there are times when I'm eager to submit and itching to show it. Sometimes, if I cant think of anything to do, I'll come right out and ask: "Master, is there anything I can do for You?"  It pays to be observant-if I notice His glass is empty, I'll ask if He wants a refill. Last night, I saw His feet were cracked, so I got out my lotion and massaged His feet. Sometimes its the little things.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 5:17:11 AM   
LuciusAestus


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Status: offline 		Thanks, that advice helped. It's just that I've been unsure how I should put it if I were to just ask her directly. And it'd be nice if I could surprise her once in a while too.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 5:26:07 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		The first thoughts I had when reading the questions at the end of your post, was that I don't even think about whether I bore M. If he wants something he'll ask for it or he'll just make it happen.

The difference here is that I assume that M likes me the way I am ......I doubt he'd be terribly happy if I began acting in ways I *thought* would please him out of fear of losing him or his interest. He isn't interested in me *acting* at all and I have zero interest in being anything other than myself.

agirl



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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 6:39:39 AM   
LuciusAestus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl
The difference here is that I assume that M likes me the way I am ......I doubt he'd be terribly happy if I began acting in ways I *thought* would please him out of fear of losing him or his interest. He isn't interested in me *acting* at all and I have zero interest in being anything other than myself.


That sounds like quite the ideal situation, but I'm afraid I can't say the same for myself. I do have a fear of losing her, and the way I see it, the only thing to do about it is to make sure it doesn't happen.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 8:38:31 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: LuciusAestus

Thanks, that advice helped. It's just that I've been unsure how I should put it if I were to just ask her directly. And it'd be nice if I could surprise her once in a while too.


It's fairly simple. Just ask, "Tell me something I can do that pleases you each and every time I do it."

Master Fire


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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 8:43:16 AM   
robertolapiedra


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Status: offline 		That sounds like quite the ideal situation, but I'm afraid I can't say the same for myself. I do have a fear of losing her, and the way I see it, the only thing to do about it is to make sure it doesn't happen.

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Hello LuciusAestus. Anything motivated by fear is bound to get you in trouble. You better have a talk about this. Don't try stuff out, it won't alleviate anything in what you are feeling. When you feel insecure, just talk about it (or write a nice letter?) with the person 'concerned'. RL.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 11:26:01 AM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		In my opinion, boring your partner has very little to do with a D/s dynamic and everything to do with the people in the relationship. From your other threads, this seems like a new relationship...nothing you do will seem boring. Maybe it's time to pick up a few books or read some other threads for ideas, because this is not the sort of question that has a general answer. The person you are trying to "entertain" must have her own desires, as far as that is concerned. Other than that, the only thing I can tell you is to be attentive.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 11:38:59 AM   
Ericus1


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Status: offline 		Trying to serve out of fear will end things faster than anything. 
Pay attention to the details.  The little things are everything in the end.  The big events and play sessions are cool, but temporay.  It is the everyday details that i have found make the difference.  Mistress rarely cleaned her house.  Only when she not me she specifically wanted to do it herself.  Cooking dinner, cleaning up, taking care of the animals, doing those things made her life easier.  She was happier, and in turn i was happy.  Seeing her smile was what motivated me.

ericus

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 12:28:27 PM   
agirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuciusAestus

quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl
The difference here is that I assume that M likes me the way I am ......I doubt he'd be terribly happy if I began acting in ways I *thought* would please him out of fear of losing him or his interest. He isn't interested in me *acting* at all and I have zero interest in being anything other than myself.


That sounds like quite the ideal situation, but I'm afraid I can't say the same for myself. I do have a fear of losing her, and the way I see it, the only thing to do about it is to make sure it doesn't happen.



You can't make sure it doesn't happen. You can spend an inordinate amount of time trying to find ways of *being* in the hope that it'll stop you from losing her but it's better in the long-run to be yourself. If you want to be pleasing, the only person that can really give you the insight into how to be, is her, herself. As MasterFireMaam said.......why not ask?

agirl

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 6:30:00 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		i cn't help you with idea what works for us may not work for you.  The more you obess on losing her the more likely you will be  to mess up.  I would say as other's said relax be yourself and be attentive to her needs that is all the advice i can offer hope it helps.  Good luck.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 8:21:58 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Well, he wants more out of me than to just show up when I feel like playing. But the only person who can tell you what she wants is your domme. If she is worth her salt, then she won't be upset or angry that you are asking for information which will help the relationship run smoother. And then use what she tells you to surprise her happily.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/9/2007 8:24:10 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		i used to be enthusiastic about my submission about 10 years ago...that lasted about 3 years...until i realized just how many players there are out there.

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/10/2007 1:43:27 PM   
earthycouple


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quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

Probably the single most important thing I do is to not feed the imaginations of people outside of my relationship with details of what is a very special and intimate relationship to me. And I do so enthusiastically.

Hope this helps.

juliet


Ditto

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RE: Enthusiastic submission - 5/16/2007 5:36:20 PM   
stella40


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Status: offline 		Me being myself and openly being myself both pleases and interests my Domme. Sure if there was an opportunity which came along where I could do something to please her I would take it, but I wouldn't look for something to do to please her. She's not artificial, neither am I. She's the Domme, I'm her sub, her example is the only one I follow.

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