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EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 5:53:00 PM)

Let me try again to solicit some information. Anybody know about any great Web sites or books about ass play that go beyond anal sex?  BTW, one of the most talked about books on anal sex was The Surrender by Toni Bentley. It received book reviews in the New York Times and the New Yorks Book Review. Toni Bentley was a New York City ballet dancer who experienced an intense year of regular anal sex. She said the experience transformed her spiritually and emotionally. Having been given the gift of ass play - and initially being repulsed and rejecting that it would make a difference - I found out that it is a spectacular erotic experience. It takes a few weeks to a month to get your ass to kick into gear as most people are out of touch with their anal area.

Again, if anyone has any experience providing ass play to a Dom/me as a gift of service, I would be interested in hearing about it. I am not interested in the details. I am more interested in whether the Dom/me broached the subject, or if the submissive offered. It is more about the approach to getting started with someone. 



mstrjx -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 7:09:26 PM)

Not that I would know a THING (cough, cough) about anal sex (choke) or rimming (more coughs) or enemas (more choking), but this might be what you are looking for.

Anal Pleasure & Health:  A Guide for Men and Women by Jack Morin

And for what it's worth.... I clean out usually once a month or more just out of principle and fun.  Just 'cause.

Jeff



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 9:45:13 PM)

I know that some people use Saran Wrap. I have read about dental dams but have never seen one. I am VERY inexperienced. In fact, one of the submissives on the site saw my profile and sent me a note. I was reeling from something that happened to me with no one to speak with about it. Sometimes God places the right people on your path. I have spent the last two years reading, but for personal reasons could not be active in a community. The one thing that I did learn about personally was ass play. The friend (Dom/mentor) that taught me faced a very hostile audience, because I didn't want to do it. I did it on faith because he asked me to try it. I kept doing it because he wanted me so badly to comply. If I could preach the gospel of ass play, I would be out there telling the world, hehehe. I am not sure the world is ready.



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 9:47:12 PM)

Oh, yes, I am familiar with the Morin book. I haven't actually read it cover to cover. Thanks for the reminder. I'll have to pick up a copy and do some leisure reading.



Aimtoplease101 -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 10:12:26 PM)

In my experience, many of the dominant women that I have been with have been uncomfortable with allowing me to perform much in the way of ass play or ass worship (analingus sp?) upon them. This often seems to be the case even with Dommes who otherwise enjoy forms of oral worship. One of the holdout "hang ups," for many it would seem.

Regards, ATP



Pezzle -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 10:45:23 PM)

I am very uncomfortable allowing ass play of any type. My previous lover (not so much of a lover now that I think about it) actually damaged me internally as he did not know what he was doing. Though he is the one who physically opened me up to BDSM instead of me just thinking about it, he was the type of manipulative dom types that plays off your fears and (lack of) self worth. I don't mind giving analingus but recieving anything including insertion or penetration would be very hard for me. I still have to see a surgeon to make sure I'm not screwed for life, but I haven't summoned the guts to go back.

Moral of the story: be sure to have ABSOLUTE trust in anyone you present your ass to, seriously. Don't end up like me.



FelinePersuasion -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 10:46:40 PM)

Aimtoplease, I'd be delighted if someone wanted to rim me, I got to try it twice years and years ago and it was a delightful experince. But most partners I have had recently are not into or willing to rimm.



kinkyviolet -> RE: Ass Play (5/10/2007 10:56:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Anal Pleasure & Health:  A Guide for Men and Women by Jack Morin



That's a good book; at least I think it was the same book. I read it just for fun (as I already had plenty of experience playing with my own ass), and it was a pretty interesting read. The author seemed to have a bit of a scat fetish thing going on (IMHO), but it was barely perceptible, and thankfully the book didn't go there! (just not my thing, no offense) What I found particularly interesting was the anatomy of the rectum. "So THAT'S why I keep feeling like I'm hitting a wall in there!" Hehehe! Ok, so it wasn't exactly a turn-on, but educational nontheless.



Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 5:23:09 AM)

i love ass play, giving, receiving. so does he.
depending on how heavy we wish to play, dictates that amount of prep required by the bottom.
He's kinda practical sorta guy. Would rather cleanse inside, than have to change the sheets at the end of the session.
little1







malloves69 -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 10:44:03 AM)

love ass play as well [:)]  always take multiple enemas for my mistress before she takes my ass with her strapons and then her fist [:)] so i am clean on the inside as well as the outside is very important to me [:)]  i also love to lick and rim her ass as well because i know she is nicely fresh clean after a shower ..love to lick her ass ..i think a womans ass was made to be licked and if you have to use saran wrap or a dental dam why bother ? when she fists me and is inside of me that feeling is unreal,a very powerfull exchange of power i give to her as she opens me up and cums inside of my body ..can you tell i love ass play [:)]  mal



slavemaia -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 1:01:57 PM)

no worries, EvaLass - i'm just one to be a bit skeptical when someone poses imho a rather erotic type question and then has no profile. Comes across as a possible wanker to me is all. As for your question - i don't enjoy rimming or being rimmed. Don't feel it's a sanitary thing and not into using anything on top. Yet i do enjoy anal at times, more for the humiliation of it, although in the right position, the stimulation is incredible as well.



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 1:46:24 PM)

Too bad. They are missing out. You might want to read Nancy Friday's books. She talks about why women have a problem getting to know their asses. Dealing with the cultural and social barriers is a significant issue.



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 1:52:39 PM)

So sorry that this man hurt you. The ass is a lovely place of sensation. Gentle, gentle, gentle is the rule to avoid tearing tissue and hurting someone. This is not a process that takes place in one day. It takes care and sensitivity. Reading some good books and preparation help too. The muscles around the anus are controlled very much by the emotional centers. You have to manipulate and play with those muscles to get someone to relax. Once they relax, and this can take days, weeks, months, then the rest is easy. A high quality silicone butt plug that has plenty of the right kind of lubrication can be inserted easily if a person is calm and relaxed. It can be left in for about 30 minutes before the lubrication starts to dry up. The butt plug makes the blood flow more freely around the entire pelvic area. In another half an hour, the person who received the butt plug may feel a huge erotic sensation that flows through the genitals and their ass. It's almost like another realm of consciousness has been opened.



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 2:09:01 PM)

No, I am not a wanker. I placed my profile on here and then mentioned to someone I am getting to know that I had an online profile. That certain person was getting ready to come in search of the profile. I'm not collared, but decided to pull the profile for a while until some relationship issues get decided. I really wanted to know if anyone had actually "opened up" someone's (Dom/me) ass, not just rimming but helping them learn about and experience the sensations that are available. I see it as a form of profound service if the sub and the Dom/me can both deal with it.  I would like to get my hands on one Dom's ass. Gloves are a necessity. Being clean is vital. Doing everything slowly and gently is necessary. Most men are far more aware than women of the sensations in the anal area. I was surprised to meet a Dom who is sexually sophisticated in most ways who has no awareness of his own ass.



stella40 -> RE: Ass Play (5/11/2007 8:57:33 PM)

I have a donkey which I think is submissive. Does this count?



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/12/2007 2:29:07 PM)

A few years ago, someone ran a post on this topic. Quite a few submissive women reported inserting long-necked bottles into their rectal area and maniplating them to entertaint their Dominant partners. The discussion was a very lively one. Then, someone  pointed out that you can creae a vacuum in this kind of play. If that happens, it may be difficult if not impossible to remove the bottle because there is no oxygen available to ease it out of the rectum. A trip to the emergency room would be necessary.

Well, it appears that someone needs to write a great book on ass play. Rimming and anal sex are only part of the story. Maybe I need to move on and ask the Masters and Mistresses what their thoughts are. I think some of them weighed in here with some good comments. Thank you, everyone. This is all I have to say for now, unless I see something really great added to this thread.



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/12/2007 2:31:07 PM)

I would be most interested if the Donkey were dominant! Hehehe. Thanks for the humor.



Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Ass Play (5/12/2007 4:50:04 PM)

Being a ass play fan. Ive introduce ass play to every partner ive had. Ive yet to see someone say no thankyou, not again. [:)]

With my Sir. He's um, tight shall we say. I have a strap on, but have yet to be able to use this comfortably for him, loadsa lube is not the only trick, patience is. I know that some people consider this not domly. But im not with that somebody thank god! In the meantime, the strap on gets plenty of use, double penetrating me
[:D]



EvaLass -> RE: Ass Play (5/12/2007 8:35:34 PM)

Cool to hear about your experience, Siandlittle1. It is especially great to hear that they are willing to try it again. One Dom told me about going somewhere and having someone try to shove a strap on up into his anal canal. He said it took hours to get it in there.

Butt plugs are a great way to loosen someone up. Maybe your Dom should read The Surrender by Tony Bentley. That book is all about letting go.

There are two bands of muscles around the anal area. You have to get the person to relax both of them. It is entirely emotional. If the person can give up control, then those muscles fall wide open. The minute the person gets tense, the muscles clamp down again and get tight. We're not talking about Domly control here. We're talking about opening the door to another physical experience by giving up control over the part of the mind that regulates the anal muscles. We are taught that what is inside there is so awful and dirty and we have to keep everything nice and tight...and under control.

Well, heck, speaking as a convert...ass play is a terrific experience. I am going to go forward with enthusiasm to teach others who will listen.





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