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AmazonLady -> When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 2:05:56 PM)
When you found it was time to collar your sub/slave. - How did you decide it was time for You? - How did you feel? - Was ceremony an important part of it? I have a curious mind and I ask this for pure curiousity sake of wanting to know what goes on in a Dominant's mind when these super important things happen in a D/s life. I know the intencities of feelings I, the submissive woman go through, and it is amazing. I would love to read about the other side of the collar, if you'd like to share.

MstrssPassion -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 2:25:54 PM)
I knew right away that I would collar my current partner but I waited a bit before I actually acted upon my feelings. I trusted my instincts but there was just something about waiting to hear her beg for it. Our ceremony was private, just between the two of us. I had a previous ceremony some years prior that was very public, very high protocol & in the end, it was way to much stress.

abelard -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 4:03:26 PM)
I knew I wanted to have some kind of symbolic gesture about 2 weeks after our first date. She raised the possibility of me collaring her someday, and it seemed like a good idea. It took another few monthes before we actually went shopping for one, though. There was no real ceremony attached. I'm more of a casually minded person. But I CAN tell you that when I saw her wear it for the first time, it felt....right.

RavenMuse -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 5:17:58 PM)
I know I will be placeing a formal collar around the neck of My girl in the near future, there are just a couple of issues that a little time will sort, once they are out of the way and I find the right steel collar then the 'occassion' won't be long in coming.It isn't changing anything in the way we are but more a milestone, a marker that all the initial issues have been resolved. A symbol of the comitment (On both sides.... yep I've made a commitment here too) We have made. How will I feel... content, proud of My girl, happy It will be something for us both to remember and to celebrate each year... much as we will on the anniversary of the day I eventualy place a second metal band on her (On her finger that time rather than around her neck). So yes, I feel a sense of occassion is warrented :)

puella -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 5:52:49 PM)
What a gem you are RavenMuse... I wish you both all the best,all the luck and so much happiness.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 5:57:05 PM)
I knew more or less right away that I was going to collar Angel. I had originally planned on waiting until I moved down here, but becasue he asked, I moed the collaring up to my second visit in September. We didnt have a ceremony, he knelt in front of me, and I asked him if he was sure this was what he wanted. He said yes, he was sure. And I collared him, and he kept his collar on for 24 hours after, but he doesnt wear it regularly. For us, the collar was a symbol and something he felt he needed while we were separated for so long. A comfort, and a connection for the long months between when we separated in September until we were together again in January. DV

MasterFireMaam -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 6:17:10 PM)
It was time after she petitioned me. For whatever reasons, I felt it was important to wait until she asked. I'm coming to see that has extreme value. I felt proud and happy. We had a simple thing between the two of us very close to the anniversary when we first connected. Basically, I wired a necklace on her. We later discovered that the chain wasn't going to work long term and we found a different one. she also has a formal collar that has a beautiful piece of amber on it. Master Fire

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 6:48:17 PM)
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earthycouple -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/10/2007 8:47:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam It was time after she petitioned me. For whatever reasons, I felt it was important to wait until she asked. I'm coming to see that has extreme value. I felt proud and happy. We had a simple thing between the two of us very close to the anniversary when we first connected. Basically, I wired a necklace on her. We later discovered that the chain wasn't going to work long term and we found a different one. she also has a formal collar that has a beautiful piece of amber on it. Master Fire I never thought about being petitioned....until now. I completely see your point...when your sub wants something enough to ask for it...she really wants it and isn't accepting because of any other reason than the right ones. Petitioning means thought and contemplation and serious consideration on the part of the slave and not simply because Master said so, and now it is. Thank you for your words, MasterFireMaam. I'll come back here and post the answer to the OP when I collar my lovely Robert. Edited because I thought something in my mind and my fingers typed it completely wrong!

RavenMuse -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 1:28:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: puella What a gem you are RavenMuse... I wish you both all the best,all the luck and so much happiness. Many thanks sweetie. I don't see that I do anything special... I just do it 'RIGHT' [;)] The formal collar will come first, then in a couple of years time, when she is no-longer tied to where she is now, I move her down, we finaly get to go 24/7 where she belongs and society gives a special legal status and protection to a wife, protection I want for My girl just in case I ever get hit by a stray bus or something. And she is the rare little jewel, not I . (you are pretty special yourself sweetie, a number of us have seen that for quite some time, looking past your words to the person behind them)

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 6:27:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AmazonLady When you found it was time to collar your sub/slave. - How did you decide it was time for You? I wieghed her value vs what I find to be undesirable and found that one far outwieghed the other. quote: - How did you feel? I felt she had earned and deserved it. quote: - Was ceremony an important part of it? No. I find ceremonies to be cute but ultimately trival and useless.

LadyPact -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 6:59:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam It was time after she petitioned me. For whatever reasons, I felt it was important to wait until she asked. I'm coming to see that has extreme value. I felt proud and happy. We had a simple thing between the two of us very close to the anniversary when we first connected. Basically, I wired a necklace on her. We later discovered that the chain wasn't going to work long term and we found a different one. she also has a formal collar that has a beautiful piece of amber on it. Master Fire Funny that you mentioned that. I have only ever collared after being petitioned. There's something in Me that says, if they want it, they will risk having to have to ask for it.

SimplyMichael -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 7:26:23 AM)
quote: (you are pretty special yourself sweetie, a number of us have seen that for quite some time, looking past your words to the person behind them) Motion seconded and moved the floor for a full vote!

Archer -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 8:30:01 AM)
Yay for petitions. Didn't use one with Elegant but my boi, Lane petitioned me and I now require pettions for any relationship that may turn long term. It's not the petition itself that is so great it is the thought process it forces them to go through. (I say the same thing about contracts, the value is not in the paper, but in the negotiation you have to go through to reach the agreement.) Elegant was collared on the dirt floor of a pub at a Renn Faire.

ownedgirlie -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 8:41:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Archer It's not the petition itself that is so great it is the thought process it forces them to go through. I would agree with this, Archer. I begged for my collar, and then was sent off to think about some very serious questions he asked me with regard to being collared by him, before he granted it. A slave will always have to beg/petition him for his collar. This way both he and she are very clear about what it is she asking for, and about her desire and willingness to take that step with him. He does not want a slave who is not fully aware of what slavery to him requires, and who does not absolutely want to be there. This process makes both parties certain of that. I for one am grateful for that opportunity. If he had "asked" me to wear his collar, that would have put me (a) in the drivers seat as to what direction we were going in; and (b) in a position of possibly accepting it as an effort to give him what he wanted, even if I was uncertain. His process protected us from that. Edited to answer some of the OP's questions: He expressed pride in me that I had earned it. There was no ceremony. He used the hell out of me and as I was recovering, he put it around my neck and gave me a pat on the head. And then he took a few pictures of me with an exhausted smile on my face. :)

Archer -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 8:53:48 AM)
Beg= an emotional desire to have the collar Petition= a mental desire to have the collar Petition + beg = JACKPOT LOL

ownedgirlie -> RE: When You Collared Your Sub/Slave (5/11/2007 8:57:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Archer Beg= an emotional desire to have the collar Petition= a mental desire to have the collar Petition + beg = JACKPOT LOL I SCORED!!! [:D]

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