Females seeking Males, but also females?

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ClosetSinner -> Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/10/2007 10:57:13 PM)
I've been browsing a lot of profiles lately, and I've started noticing a few things that left me pondering for quite some time. I really don't care too much about the second thing, but the first one is what puzzles me. Why is it that a woman looking for a male Dom has a selection under the "seeking" list to meet a female Domme? The profile specifically states that she is looking for a male, but yet the option of female is selected. The other thing I've noticed is Dominants looking for other Dominants, but that doesn't puzzle me too much as I figure they are looking for like-minded friends. Why does a submissive/slave who wants to speak with a male have the option checked to seek a female? That's my biggest question.

HutchGarahl -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/10/2007 11:04:36 PM)
Maybe they checked the wrong box or might be confused to actual sexes?

Trampler -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/10/2007 11:11:46 PM)
prolly bc they hadn't paid much attention to what they were selecting, or maybe because even though their primary goal is searching for a male dom, but would accept a female dom, maybe they are switches and want to learn for a femdomme, oh gods the variables are endless. Why not just ask?

MistressNoName -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/10/2007 11:13:10 PM)
Why not just ask the sub in question? Maybe Hutch is right and she just checked the wrong box...you could be helping her out, if so. MNN

ClosetSinner -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/10/2007 11:13:32 PM)
That's the other thing. When I ask, I usually get rude replies. That's another thing I don't understand. I don't say anything rude as I believe respect has to be given to be received.

HutchGarahl -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/10/2007 11:32:50 PM)
That's just a chance a person takes. But you won't know unless you ask.

Totalmaster4you -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/11/2007 2:18:06 AM)
Closet Sinner there a number of females that post on here so they can be bitchy plain and simple. As to why do they check that box check and see if they're bisexual. Anyway the one that confuses me is a sub/slave seeking sub/slave men.

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/11/2007 4:47:23 AM)
sub slave, seeks sub slave men. Cor, you find that confusing? go figure, i find that hot. Have you seen some of them? gorgeous. Aesthetics are aesthetics. pansexualswitchserialmonogamist seeks just about anything, hows that? labels schmables

MistressNoName -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/11/2007 8:38:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ClosetSinner That's the other thing. When I ask, I usually get rude replies. That's another thing I don't understand. I don't say anything rude as I believe respect has to be given to be received. I've gotten rude replies, too and some not-so-rude. It's all gonna depend on the person, and how well they are about giving another person the benefit of the doubt, how quick they are to assume that the person asking is being rude, how the question is actually asked, and whether they are correct about the person doing the asking...Every action on CM is subject to some kind of scrutiny. Bottomline, if someone gives you a rude response that you know is undeserved, and there is no way to communicate that to the other, then your work there is done. Nothing else to do but move on. MNN

GeekyGirl -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/11/2007 2:26:23 PM)
My primary goal is finding a male dom for an LTR. But I would accept a female domme as a play partner. I've recently broken things off with all my male dom play partners because I find I get too emotionally attached towards men. Women don't inspire that same feeling in me.

slaveish -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/11/2007 2:28:32 PM)
There is a "friends only" box as well. Perhaps they checked every single box, not to single out an opportunity to meet like-minded people / play partners.

Celeste43 -> RE: Females seeking Males, but also females? (5/11/2007 2:53:20 PM)
Some are bi, they may prefer a male dom but would get into a relationship with a female dominant if the chemistry was there. Dom/domme couples can be successful. If only they both agree that since neither has consented to a power relationship with the other and they both have the maturity not to try to force someone into a role they don't want. Sometimes they simply service bottom for each other and other times they seek play partners to bottom. As far as sub/sub couples, they can be very successful also if they are both honest about their needs. They can service top each other or they can seek play partners to top them. They can even seek out D/s relationships as long as the parameters of the relationship are explained and agreed to by husband, wife and dom/me. Successful sub/sub couples say they rarely fight and they each go out of their way to do things that please their partners. I know such a couple who have been married over 25 years. Sometimes the relationship is closed and sometimes it is open, either one can close the relationship with no repercussions. Amazing what happens when intelligent and mature people talk openly and honestly about their needs and desires without having hidden agendas.

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