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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I'd be interested in any stories that stem from experiences regarding travel.  A lot of male submissives say they are willing to do anything for the right Domme.  How often have you seen them 'go the distance'?  Do you have any experiences with those who have traveled miles just to see you?  How often do you find 'willing to relocate' to be true?  (Sorry for the use of the word.  I know it gets some to have the hair stand straight up on the back of their neck.)   Who has been willing to go the distance?

Good question LadyPact!  I have experience from both sides of the fence.

With my former spouse and Mistress, I closed a business and moved from the Detroit area to Dallas.  Now that we're no longer a couple, you might saw that wasn't a wise decision.  But, I guess that's part of life.

The first Domme I was with following that lived about 7 hours away by car, and yes I made the trip without any hesitation and considered it well worth my time.

I've corresponded with women here on CM and up to a point was making plans to fly to Canada from Dallas to visit a woman who seemed to have potential for a relationship when it suddenly became abundantly clear to me that it would not be a good match.  Yet, until that point, I was prepared to make the trip.  Likewise, she was considering making the trip to visit me at a later date as well.

My new Mistress lives a few hours away from me.  She's not "next door" and for a number of reasons usually prefers to drive to my place and usually takes care of other things as well while she's in town.  While in the early "dating" stages, I've driven to meet her near where she lives as well.  Because my unmentionables are located here (ages 7 and 10), I'm not at all free to relocate at this time.  For that reason and because she has extended family in my area, she's ultimately planning to move to where I live instead of it being the other way around as she's had a desire to move here for some time.  I suppose in time, we'll see how that works out as well.  In the mean time, the primary drawback of course is that we don't see each other nearly as often as either of us would like.  

So for me, with the right connection and circumstances, I don't see distance as being a problem.  I have read and understand the things which have been written by others about long distance relationships.  To me, it's all relative and when one finds the right connection, I think if they know themselves well, they really know it deep inside. 

I fully expect there will be things two people will learn about each other that can only come through familiarity that happens when face to face and are learned only when together at the times they're not on their best behavior of the sort that's limited by windows of opportunity.  With communication, tolerance and compromise, I think those things can be worked out if the basic things are there, including the right connection I spoke of along with the desire to make things work.  But that's perhaps just my idealistic perception.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Great input so far.  I hope to hear more.
 
The 2-3 hour drive idea I actually consider reasonable.  I think of that as drive one way on Saturday, do the hotel, and return on Sunday.  I've had a few that have done that, so I don't see that as too outrageous.  To date, I haven't had the experience of anyone willing to hop on a plane just to see Me, but I think it would be great for the ego!

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ORIGINAL: Aimtoplease101

I've always had reservations about individuals, of any orientation or bent, who are ready to proclaim, in advance, that they are "ready to relocate."

It seems to indicate that they don't have much of a connection to the place in which they live-- friends, family, career, interests, etc.-- and that seems to me be a danger sign in a person. 

Our society today isn't as nearly stationary or "close knit" as it once was.  In my own particular situation, after having moved to Dallas from the Detroit area 4-1/2 years ago in support of my former Mistress' career, if it weren't for my unmentionables still being here, I'd be chomping at the bit to move.  I'd have put that I'd consider relocating on my profile in a flash and not at all limited myself in any way regarding wanting to stay in the local area where I reside at this time as I don't feel as though I've put down hardly any roots until recently for a number of reasons that I'll not address here at the present moment in time.