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Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 8:49:37 AM   
RobertCloud


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Status: offline 		It is said that misery loves company and I for one tend to believe this is true. For over the years I have been online I have often seen when someone has had a wondrous event occur in their life that those who are miserable have sought to tear down their happiness and make them miserable as well.

In my past there have been many times that I have found someone and would start a relationship. I would introduce the person to all my online friends and within a matter of hours those of my "so-called" friends were backstabbing me. They were telling the new one things about me that were half-truths or outright lies, or they were trying to steal them away. Sometimes they succeeded in what they wanted to do. Always it ended the relationship as it was, a few times we remained friends, but mostly we parted ways completely because of the hurt that was caused by these misery lovers.

Then there are those that are attached to me... and no I am not talking about one here... I am talking about six others in other places that do want me, they make it well known to me, they tell me they love me, they tell me they will never be happy with anyone but me, and even though there is no hope for us they will never look for anyone else. One lives across an ocean and says she will never live the lifestyle unless I am her Master. She will live a vanilla relationship but not the lifestyle because in her heart I am the only Master for her.

I don't want this. I never did, and I hate it. No, I am not seeking attention... In fact, I am trying to move on with my life and my happiness but everywhere I turn I get hammered by someone attacking me for that happiness.

This time I have not revealed the screen name of the girl that is mine for good reasons. I know the moment I did she would be hounded by emails from about a dozen sources. I have not taken her to my favorite chat venues because if I did they would try to steal her from me the moment they got the chance. Oh, I know this girl better than the others, and I know she would not leave me like the others, but I don't want her to have to deal with those trying to cause misery either. Why have her deal with that pain when I can help her to avoid it?

Why is it that people cannot let go of the past and just let you be happy and wish you well?
And why is it that people who are miserable must drag everyone down to wallow in the mire with them instead of trying to find a high place to join the happiness?

Yes, I know there are some that hate me here... some that will try to drag me down... so be it... but I am not seeking attention for my sake, just an answer to a question.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:02:37 AM   
kittinSol


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Status: offline 		Oh dear, RobertCloud... you're looking for what, exactly? For other forum posters to commiserate with you? It's not going to work.

PS: ever encountered the UK comic strip, 'The Pathetic Sharks'?

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:07:45 AM   
RobertCloud


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Status: offline 		No... Explanations... comments... Do others have the same problems... experiences... Whys??? Why is it that people have to do this and be that way? Why can they not let it go?

I am not seeking pity... I am not seeking anything like that... don't want it... just understanding...

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:12:23 AM   
TheLegend


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Status: offline 		I am not sure exactly what type of replies you are expecting.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:14:02 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Oh fuck...I picked the worst week to stop drinking and do a liver detox.
This is gonna be good.  Hahahahaha.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:15:27 AM   
NakedGirlScout


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Status: offline 		I have never had any of those kinds of experiences that you're describing. When I found my master, I was given congratulations and well wishes from people who knew me or had even only heard of me. No one attempted to 'steal' me, which would have ended with me laughing at them if they had tried it. After being with my master for over a year now, I still get the odd "congratulations" from someone who hadn't heard the good news earlier, but never any pathetic attempts to come between us.

Robert, I have a strong suspicion that you're 'living' online too much. Who cares what people in chatrooms do if you only use them for a few minutes when you're bored? My advice is to cultivate real-life relationships and friendships and use the internet for entertainment purposes only.

By the way, congratulations on finding your new girl! See, I am not trying to steal her from you, LOL.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:29:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've had some similar experiances.  People get jealous, or they want me for themselves, or whatever other twisted reasons... particularly online, people can be really pushy.  I suppose there are no real 'whys' to it, it likely varies from person to person... I must agree with NakedGirlScout up there.  Try to get yourself some real life lovin', build something up.  It takes more time and effort, but it's worth it, especially when it is unlikely your real life friends will try to drag you down or take your girl. 

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:35:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I get emails teling me Angel isnt good enough for me, all the time. He gets the occasional "too bad your owned" that he never got when he was still single. People are petty sometimes, but you really shouldnt let them get to you that way. If you want to dosomething, go ahead and do it.  Block those who cant seem to control themselves around you. Dont allow anyone else to dictate your happiness.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:44:09 AM   
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I am talking about six others in other places that do want me, they make it well known to me, they tell me they love me, they tell me they


Brag much?


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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:46:36 AM   
MsOpal


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Status: offline 		I had the sad experience of actually haveing a decade long friends of OURS call me and tell me that Argent was not a good Dom and I should leave him.  The person who did this did not "want me".  Instead he was a rumor-monger who thrives at being the driving force behind conflicts and contorversy and then wants to emerge like a hero from the flams as the person who settled all the problems.  That is so sad and so sick, maybe pathetic is a better word.  Now we just shake our heads and feel sorry for a smart, funny, other wise very valuable communty member who every year or so has to try and stir up something and has no concern for the people he is harming as he seeks his glory.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:46:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think he'd be too out of breath after blowing them all up.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:47:43 AM   
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I think he'd be too out of breath after blowing them all up.


I love it when you are bad!   


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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:49:09 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		This, this thread is just too tempting.
Making my lunch so entertaining.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:49:10 AM   
RobertCloud


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Status: offline 		Well it is not just the online... Even in her real life she has friends that are trying to pull her from me... They tell her that she should not be involved in this... or that she should see other people. Even when I was visiting her she had one friend call her and ask her to come over and have a threesome with her and her husband while I was sitting beside my babygirl. My girl was appalled. That so-called friend is on the out, but will not let go, won't take the hint, and is doing everything she can to make things hard for my girl. So, it is not a matter of online only.

My real life has had similar experiences as well, but in my past... Misery does love company, and people really don't like to see others happy especially if they are interested in one of the two in that couple.

So my question is still this... Why?

Why do people do this?

Why do people like to cause others to loose their happiness?

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:53:58 AM   
KatyLied


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This, this thread is just too tempting.


Has this happened twice in one week?  What have we done to be this lucky?


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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:58:55 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		I'm just trying to figure out why he would even feel the need to start this thread.
I'd be more willing to believe that he doesn't live in mommy's basement if just one of the pictures on his profile showed him and her in the same frame.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 9:59:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Greeting RobertCloud,
 
we attract the people and conflicts in our lives. You are attracting these people who cause you conflict quite possibly because you identify with conflict and on some level don't believe you deserve happiness...you are sabatoging yourself and giving these negative forces power over you. It is my belief if you start focusing on the positive and the type people you want in your life, ignoring the others, in time you will find you no longer have the negative people you are speaking about or certainly will not be "dominated" enough by them for them to affect your life~

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 10:01:46 AM   
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quite possibly because you identify with conflict


Um, no, he obviously identifies and contributes to conflict in his life. 


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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 10:01:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Robert, you said "misery loves company." You are in fact right about that.

Now I'm not trying to be harsh or put you on blast, but you sound miserable in both your profile and your posts here. Could it be that you are in fact attracting miserable people with your own complaints of being badly done-by?

I would start hanging out with happy people, and only those who don't "want you"... I'd drop those other women you've mentioned who keep telling you they want you (they won't be able to do so if you don't let them contact you and dispose of any emails that get through). I'd delete any stray e-mails that say anything negative after shrugging your shoulders.

Dwelling on how unfair things are is honestly going to attract more drama to you than you can handle, and that will cause your new girl friend to flee eventually.

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RE: Happiness... Denied... - 5/11/2007 10:03:24 AM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RobertCloud

Why do people like to cause others to loose their happiness?


People cannot cause our unhappiness unless we allow it. It appears you are giving these people the power to make you unhappy and you apparently still have your girl, so the question for me is "why are YOU allowing it?"

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