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pleasing your partner - 5/12/2007 11:09:10 AM

shyinini

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If you have a regular partner, do you do anything to really make the sex great for them? Not an everyday, everytime thing, but something new and different for them? What do you do? What or how do they react? What do they want? Do they want something you can't or won't do?

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/12/2007 4:00:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini
If you have a regular partner, do you do anything to really make the sex great for them?
Why of course
Not an everyday, everytime thing, but something new and different for them?
Yes, very often
What do you do?
Now that wouldn't be classy to tell. Suffice it to say, He finds it all very pleasing
What or how do they react?
It drives Him wild
What do they want?
Again...not classy to say and it varies from day to day, of course
Do they want something you can't or won't do?
No. There's only a thing or two i would find troublesome and He doesn't want either of them so that works out perfectly.............slave luci

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/12/2007 4:31:51 PM

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In short, if ive 'made a special effort' he's pleased. Anything that shows ive gone the extra inch. New stuff he loves.
I traul the libraries of sites such as these for new ideas. Im happy to pinch ideas.

We have a thing called a '2 glasses of red night'. This is where i take the lead. I decide what form of play, i gather my tools, i ready the room and myself. Im dressed to kill etc etc. And i begin to layer his pleasure on him. Slowly.

A few moments have been memorable, as in, he's never experienced it, ive suprised the hell out of him. Like discreetly managing to insert a ice cube to my pussy, just prior to him penetrating me. Or, wrapping a thin chain around and around his cock, putting a condom over the top, and spreading myself wide whilst i slowly lowered myself onto him, in a position that he could get a good eyeful. Or when he has been 'pushing my limit' by peeing on my neck and face, and looking him straight in the eye, as ive opened my mouth and drunk.

Some of the more traditionally thought of as 'bottom' activities are, lets face it, haven from a sensation point of view. He'd never gone in these areas prior to me. I know that he enjoys me pleasuring him in these ways also.

There are a couple or areas i know he likes that im crap at. Like erotic dancing. I just feel such a idiot. And dirty talk, jesus, i get the words mixed up, the wrong gender in the speech, even the wrong nouns! im so awkward at it. But ill get there.

Milking cock is my latest attempt at especially pleasing him. And wow, the way the pre-cum runs, it certainly is working! He's awfully pleased at the end lol. He simply loves the being kept on the edge. As mini orgasm, after mini orgasm flow past. Until he decides to take matters into his own hands. Lush.

He is away for the weekend :(
but that gives me a rare opportunity to please him. I shall be valeting his car, getting his suit ready for his new job he starts tomorrow after his return from interstate, ill be meeting him at the airport in my pvc flight suit ready to chauffeur him home. His clothes will be laid out ready. Im going to try to make everything 'just so' for the hour that we have before he leaves for the office. I know he will take the pleasure with him and it will put him in a good place for the new job start.
effort is a self fulfilling prophecy for us.
little1

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/12/2007 9:15:00 PM

spanklette

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But, of course...and a lady would never tell. I may not be a lady, but I can at least take the lead from them.

We enjoy being sexual beings and are always open to new possibilities...and we're always ready to laugh at ourselves. I think that makes the whole thing more comfortable. This is coming from one who has fallen off of the bed mid-coitus.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/13/2007 2:29:45 PM

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well like spanklette i am too much of a laddy to tell all but, once i wore this little red outfit for him suffice to say that he reallly liked it a lot.

Matt's littleone

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/13/2007 2:55:30 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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I agree with the others. Very much yes, and very much not my business to share with others.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/13/2007 9:38:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I agree with the others. Very much yes, and very much not my business to share with others.

Ditto that.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/13/2007 9:49:16 PM

Indemnis

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I find that.. unfortunately, I don't enjoy sex with a 'regular' partner at all... honestly, without a touch of the lifestyle within, my relationships just don't work out..

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/14/2007 6:24:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

We enjoy being sexual beings and are always open to new possibilities...and we're always ready to laugh at ourselves. I think that makes the whole thing more comfortable. This is coming from one who has fallen off of the bed mid-coitus.

I agree, those "laugh at ourselves" moments are so great in and of themselves, they show just how close a person can be with their partner...I've never fallen off the bed, which surprises me, because I'm not the most coordinated person vertically

but have done some equally charming moves in the past.

to answer the OPs question, the stuff that has really blown his mind is when I either take something he already loves and make it more interesting, or take something we've talked about, and try it. what I mean by that is not necessarily topping from the bottom, but take something he's been interested in trying, asking permission to do it, and then doing it with imagination and sincerity.

sorry to be so vague, but I do subscribe to the "what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom" philosophy.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/14/2007 8:18:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini

If you have a regular partner, do you do anything to really make the sex great for them?

yes

quote:

Not an everyday, everytime thing, but something new and different for them?

every time is different than the time before.

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What do you do?

submit, obey, participate and respond both physically and verbally, unless restricted from doing so by Master in whatever Master desires in a fully present fashion.

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What or how do they react?

pleased, satisfied, satiated.

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What do they want?

respect, appreciation and obedience to His training and commands.

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Do they want something you can't or won't do?

not that this slave is aware of.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/14/2007 7:11:25 PM

Ericus1

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i like to get a list of Mistress' fantasys and just keep it hidden. every so often surprises her with one of her fantasys just tended to blow her away.

ericus

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/15/2007 9:59:52 AM

charismagirrl

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Hmmmm i feel like the odd ball here.

In vanilla relationships i would sometimes try this stuff, but certain things, once you know what they like, well...if it ain't broke yadda yadda

Now in my relationship with my Master/Daddy i really don't do anything different, i do as he wishes, when he wishes. If i were to do something different of my own accord i would feel as if i were trying to control it which is a no no (for me). So i don't take initiative, i get taken by my Daddy as he sees fit. (the only thing i can say that i do in this capacity is practice anal with a butt plug and do kegels to keep everything snug. i also try to make myself as appealing as i can, kind of like detailing a car :))

i do however wear cute outfits that i think will please him, but that is not about sex, it's just me doing what is part of our contract and what i think will make him smile (god how i live for that!)

Now i wonder if i'm weird here? (i mean i know i am but....)

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/15/2007 10:29:09 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: charismagirrl
Now i wonder if i'm weird here? (i mean i know i am but....)

Nope. Most masters tend to prefer a mix of initiative and passivity. For me- sure introduce a new toy, but do NOT introduce a new soda without asking first. What matters is where the line is for your relationship.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/15/2007 12:12:05 PM

charismagirrl

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Thx L.A.

i can mention things, or tell him my fantasies etc. but i can't imagine actually initiating anything sexual. However, he tells me to experiment with cooking and i do take initiative alot because my Daddy doesn't micromanage, so i am expected to do the right thing with out being told.

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For today i will simply obey....
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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/15/2007 9:40:53 PM

rememberme1984

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i would like some ideas on keeping my daddy happy any ideas

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/16/2007 9:10:24 AM

Indemnis

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rememberme1984

i would like some ideas on keeping my daddy happy any ideas

I would suggest you start a thread of your own, first of all..

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/16/2007 9:24:42 AM

daddysprop247

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quote:

ORIGINAL: charismagirrl

Hmmmm i feel like the odd ball here.

In vanilla relationships i would sometimes try this stuff, but certain things, once you know what they like, well...if it ain't broke yadda yadda

Now in my relationship with my Master/Daddy i really don't do anything different, i do as he wishes, when he wishes. If i were to do something different of my own accord i would feel as if i were trying to control it which is a no no (for me). So i don't take initiative, i get taken by my Daddy as he sees fit. (the only thing i can say that i do in this capacity is practice anal with a butt plug and do kegels to keep everything snug. i also try to make myself as appealing as i can, kind of like detailing a car :))

i do however wear cute outfits that i think will please him, but that is not about sex, it's just me doing what is part of our contract and what i think will make him smile (god how i live for that!)

Now i wonder if i'm weird here? (i mean i know i am but....)

charismagirrl, you're not weird at all. :) i also couldn't imagine taking it upon myself to do something sexual/erotic for my Master, in our dynamic, that sort of thing would just be totally inappropriate.
i just obey and do what's expected and demanded of me.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/16/2007 1:44:58 PM

tricia

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Your dynamic sounds very much like my own, 'cept i don't wear the cute outfits - my Master actually prefers no makeup, jewelery, hair accessories.... In fact - he insists on it.

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RE: pleasing your partner - 5/17/2007 8:10:35 AM

Kitte9

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quote:

But, of course...and a lady would never tell. I may not be a lady, but I can at least take the lead from them.

Bwahahahaha! Amen, sister!

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