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undergroundsea -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 8:32:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy Great post. Cheers, Sea

Halley -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 8:48:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossySSBBW I don't have problems with my body so, I tend to ask multiple times if the person has read my profile, my journal and looked at the many pictures I have posted. I am 50 working on 51 quickly, I do not want someone who has illusions that I am young and fit. I make sure they read the part where I am very fat and use a wheelchair...lol. Men have to know what I look like, what my wants and needs are and will be in the future. I make sure the fantasy is very separate from the reality. I still get men and women who contact me, so I guess we all have our admirers. I can do naked in the afternoon or all lights on at night...lol. So he/she better be prepared....lol. What a great attitude. I applaude you.

TexasMaam -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 8:51:28 AM)
I applaud MstrTiger's post, below. How true! Keeping that thought in mind, go treat yourself to a manicure, get a pedicure, get your hair lightly highlighted and trimmed, (or whatever minor enhancement might make you feel 'shiny and bright', now is not the time for any major change of hairstyle!), buy some new earrings, invest in some new pretty undergarments, and dress to set off your best features. You'll be amazed at how different you can feel about yourself with a little investment into pampering yourself. You don't have to spend a fortune: a $10 manicure, a new little something to wear on sale, keep it affordable, but DO IT. Remember that what he sees when he looks at you is NOT what you see when you look in the mirror! Accept yourself as you are, tell yourself that you are a work in progress, embrace yourself for the person that you are at this moment in time! Know that he will be attracted to your ideas of what makes a fun BDSM session much more than he will be wasting any energy silently 'grading' any part of your anatomy! Are you kidding? He has an opportunity to sit down and get to know a r/t Domme with a face as beautiful as yours? Do you think he's going to be spending that time with you wishing you were something or someone else? Not if he's worth having as a sub! Pamper yourself, look in the mirror and embrace who you are, and expect him to have the good sense to value what he sees as much as you deserve to be valued! Let us know how it goes. Best wishes and good luck, TexasMaam quote: ORIGINAL: MstrTiger You also need to remember that your concerns are not his concerns, ... the important thing to remember that what you think about your body is not the same as what he thinks about your body. ...it is not a good idea to try and impose your perceptions of yourself onto his thoughts in case you kill the relationship with your perceptions of negativity before it has even started.

TexasMaam -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 9:06:05 AM)
And by the way: about that 'I want a fit Domme' bit. Don't they all? I mean, really, watch TV for an hour. You'll see buxom, lithe beauties, women that are half clothed on the TV screen, but have you looked at the men on screen? Truly looked at them? Take Deal or No Deal: Mostly women watch that show, and hell they have 26 gorgeous models on there and all we get is: Howie Mandel???????????????????????????????????????????????? What else do we have to look at? Let's see: King of Queens, silly show, maybe, but beefcake, NOT. Boston Legal: GRREAT show, but William Shatner???? I have a theory: Desperate Housewives and Gray's Anatomy are the ONLY broadcast programs in YEARS to have offered a screen full of eye candy to American women and DUH they are the most popular programs today. I wonder why? The point is: is this guy a Greek God? Or is he just an ordinary guy? Most Ordinary Guy's put 'must be fit' on their profile because in their minds they fantasize that they can land a Domme who looks like the cumsluts they see on porno films or the screen shots of Ripped Models, "Dommes" who model garter hose and bustiers and boots on the internet. If your first meeting with him works out, give him an assignment to go and humanize his profile! My requirements for a sub are that they be fit enough to enjoy a few outdoor leisure activities and be strong enough to withstand the rigors of WIITWD! A three hour session with Me requires a bit of strength, stamina, and conditioning. I don't have on My profile that I'm looking for a ripped, cut bodybuilder. I have enough sense to know that a ripped, cut bodybuilder will spend so much time preening himself that he won't have time to serve Me well, anyway. Banish those negative self thoughts, Halley! Banish them! He's just a guy dreaming of a Domme. You might be The One. Go out and claim his admiration, expect it, demand it. It's all about attitude! TexasMaam

slaverosebeauty -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 9:12:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Halley Do any of you have any opionions on this very shallow topic? Not shallow at all, regardless of station we all think about how we look. Hell, I stopped modeling for a site because of a few heartless remarks made by a sleezy photog; lets be honest, looks matter to a point. How we look can and does effect how we see ourselves and how others percieve us. If you are healthy [read - not morbidly obese], happy and love you for who you are, that's what counts. The sub you are talking too, evidently knows what you look like, so he made an informed decision, its not like you didn't have a pic up and refused to send one; you were/are being honest and upfront. Now, the rest is up to chemistry and how things go.

MercTech -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 9:18:05 AM)
The off the cuff, first thing to mind upon reading this was "Where does he want your foot to fit?" Does he want an exercise addict? Stefan quote: ORIGINAL: Halley I am a Domme, I have always been dominant in relationships long before I knew their was a BDSM community. Now I'm getting older. In most all aspects of my life I'm very confident. However I have been approached by a much younger sub. And we have developed a very enjoyable dialog at this point. I have current pictures posted. In his profile he said he wanted a fit Domme, when he first wrote I replied that I am not fit. Now he wants to come see me. I am feeling insecure about my appearance. Do any of you older Domme's know what I am trying to express here? Do any of you have any opionions on this very shallow topic?

maledave7 -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 1:14:47 PM)
Since he knows what you look like and he is still interested in you. I would say go ahead and meet with him. Something about you has spark his interested and he wants to know more. Beauty is more than skin deep. I think older dominant women are very sexy and beautiful. I feel they are confident in whom they are and what they wanted. I hope to find an older dominant woman. I know her body would not be perfect, but I would still find her to be a very attractive and desirable woman. I feel, as we get older we desire to know more about the inside of a person than the outside.

LadyIce -> RE: Your Body Image (5/13/2007 4:20:12 PM)
I think people need to learn to love and accept themselves as they are. You read what the submissive wrote about only wanting to meet fit women, you should ask him why he wants to meet you. I tend to pass on men that list criteria that they feel I must fit into.

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