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Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 3:33:54 PM   
BobcatsLilMinx


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Howdy doody -

I was discussing Gorean slavery with a girl on here, and someone mentioned "honour". Now, as most of the books are written from a man's point of view, we see a lot of what honour is for the men of the lifestyle, but can the concept apply to the women too, especially the slaves? Can a slave be said to be "honourable"? Whatever your opinion - why is that your opinion?

Another thing that got brought up, was whether or not a slave can be "Gorean". Does this label depend on her being owned by a Gorean - that makes her Gorean property, certainly? Or can she be Gorean in her own right, and if so, how, as isn't a slave supposed to be what her Master wants her to be? And how does it apply to unowned slaves?

Since my other thread got such a great response from Goreans and non-Goreans alike, we'd really be interested in hearing people's opinions :) And we all know I'm a sponge, read to lap up whatever learning I can...

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 3:36:43 PM   
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Not sure how it would work withinthe gorean system, but I think a slave honors herself and her owner when she stays true to her commitments to herself and to her life.

As long as she didn't like commit to being a bad person or something.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 6:04:44 PM   
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Oi vey.

I hear "Gorean Lifestyle" all the time, but only by those who practice on line.

Gor is not real - it's a series of books, badly written at that.

When I hear someone say they are "Gorean" I can't help but laugh. Have you ever tried to talk to one of these people? They talk in the third person (which can be a sign of mental illness). When you try to talk about normal every day things, they can't do it.

It's halarious really. For a group of people who want to be taken seriously, they don't conduct themselves in any manner in which to take them seriously.

I say put the book down. Pick up Screw the Roses Give me the Thorns or SM101. Get to a munch. Un plug the computer and come back to reality!

~Em

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 6:12:07 PM   
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I think it would be interesting to hear the answer to Minx's questions about 'Gor' from people who actually trys to live this way (at least the possible facts) in real life.

Well, I would like to hear them, just to compile more information.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 6:19:56 PM   
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ROFLMAO

No one is stopping these folks from posting.

I'd actually like to see them post in ENGLISH - not 'third person' - conducting themselves in an intellctual manner.

Just curious, would you base your life off of say the Matrix or Alice in Wonderland?

~Em

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 6:24:50 PM   
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So much for respecting others people's kinks and ways of life...

While I do not understand the appeal of gor, and do not find it to be a very logical or realistic way of life, specially in America in 2005, if they are happy with it and it works for their style, go for it.

Lots of people don't understand my way of poly, or my way of playing, and they don't have to. They don't even have to like it, but I consider it a mature standpoint to accept others ways as legitimate for them as mine are for me as long as everyone is happy fulfilled and functioning well.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 6:35:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Emmmrld

ROFLMAO

No one is stopping these folks from posting.

I'd actually like to see them post in ENGLISH - not 'third person' - conducting themselves in an intellctual manner.

Just curious, would you base your life off of say the Matrix or Alice in Wonderland?

~Em


Wow.

It's common knowledge I don't like the Gorean outlook at all. Still, this is totally not nice. You don't like it. You think it's silly. Fine. I'm willing to bet you'd get up in arms if someone began to tell you that your lifestyle choices were pure fantasy.

I've met some Goreans on this board that I highly respect. I generally don't agree with their outlook, but that doesn't stop me from respecting them as people who conduct themselves like adults.

Yup, based on fiction. My lifestyle is based on fiction to. On the fiction accepted between my partner and myself that he has ultimate controll over my life. To the outside world, that would look just as fantastic as the gorean system does, at least, in my opinion.


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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/10/2005 6:40:44 PM   
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...I wish sometimes, but not really.

Personally, I do believe that living in a real 'Gorean' life does not exist, because obviously we are not living in a planet in the same Earth's orbit called 'Gor'...right?

I'm only saying that I'm curious about this questions answers. And I would like to hear them from a person who is into it (or trys), even when I do not believe it's totaly possible to do, as written in the books. Also, I think that most of the people involved (people that takes it seriously, not net geeks) in a gorean relationship don't do it because they like the crappy science fiction writting style or the plot of the books. I'm sure that when they decided to have a Master/kajira relationship it was mostly because they found aspects related to each part's conduct or protocol issues interesting.

I'm not into Gor. In my realtionship we have our own protocol (I don't even think I can call it that way). Every relationship has it's own ways and preferences.

If you don't agree with their choices, or with the questions posted here...well...you don't have to click on the post's tittle. Just ignore it.



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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 2:44:53 AM   
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quote:

They talk in the third person (which can be a sign of mental illness).


Goodness... Angel must be totally insane then...!

Actually - I would rather be insane with understanding than another persons 'normal' any day.
Another point - what is done in the USA is not what everyone does - just to note. So your 'butchering' of the english language may not be what one in england might view as appropriate.
You have to forgive my uttering in the third person btw - We are off our head you know!
(I would really like to see evidence of your statement btw.)

I know some 'Gorean' men and women who live their gorean way of life quite happily in real life - not just a computer screen. It's actually quite stunning to witness - shouldn't knock something you have no concept of - thats where ill judgements are made.

It's not my choice, but I wouldn't mock someone for being strong enough to follow their path - thats just, to me, insanity.

As for not portraying themselves in a way that you can take them seriously - well - I think that a majority of people might come to a website like this and go -


"wow - toliet slaves? freaky!
Collars? - whats with looking like a dog?
poly relationship? - ach, thats just orgies.
Wow - what a bunch of freaks those BDSM people are - they aren't right in the head - they all have a mental illness."

Gor books may not be the best literiture(sp?) in the world - but to claim its not 'real' is like climing that victorian play isn't valid and that BDSM is just people trying to make abuse acceptable.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 2:47:41 AM   
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Sorry Minx... I should have replied to you first - my bad....

a Gorean slave is part of her Masters property - just like any slave - her behaviour reflects upon Him - therefore I would say that honour is very much part of being a slave of Gor.

As for unowned - well, there are still casts and places to belong - so honouring such would still apply.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 3:30:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BobcatsLilMinx

Howdy doody -

I was discussing Gorean slavery with a girl on here, and someone mentioned "honour". Now, as most of the books are written from a man's point of view, we see a lot of what honour is for the men of the lifestyle, but can the concept apply to the women too, especially the slaves? Can a slave be said to be "honourable"? Whatever your opinion - why is that your opinion?


Hiya Minx :)

That particular topic is one that is often discussed and debated amongst those who claim to follow the Gorean philosophy.

There are many who believe that the slave can behave honorably but cannot possess "honor" itself because she is absolutely subject to the will of another person, i.e. her owner could command her to do something that may go against every principle she believes in and in theory, as a slave, one must obey. Hence a person who would, at the command of another, compromise their principles cannot possess honor.

There are others who believe otherwise. They feel that a slave can be abjectly subservient without compromising honor.

And there are others who believe that both free and slave possess honor but that they are somewhat different. The honor of a slave being more in line with her station.

Personally I don't believe that anyone can really determine if sometone else possesses honor or not. Honor is a gift that a person gives to him or herself and only they can take it away. I don't believe that hypothetical "what ifs" can take it away, nor can the actions of others.

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Another thing that got brought up, was whether or not a slave can be "Gorean". Does this label depend on her being owned by a Gorean - that makes her Gorean property, certainly? Or can she be Gorean in her own right, and if so, how, as isn't a slave supposed to be what her Master wants her to be? And how does it apply to unowned slaves?


Again I have found that there are several different mindsets to this query. On one hand, some people believe that a slave is simply a slave. If she is owned by a Gorean man, she is a Gorean slave. If she is owned by a man who is not Gorean, than she can not claim that label.

There are others who believe that the slave is indeed Gorean if she believes in the philosophy (not the fantasy) of the books, regardless of what mantle her owner wears.

As far as unowned slaves are concerned, I have a rather different viewpoint on that. (sometimes its not a very popular viewpoint lol) I believe that a slave is someone who is abjectly subservient to another person(s). Hence if someone is unowned, I believe that while they may possess the desire to be a slave, the drive and need to be a slave and the nature and demeanor of a slave, that technically, the mantle of "slave" does not apply.

When it comes to honor, though, I think that everyone has the power to possess honor and certainly everyone has the ability to behave in an honorable fashion, regardless of their station in life.

Within the greater Gorean community (and I am not speaking of online role-players but rather of those people who strive to adhere to the philosophy found within Dr. Lange's books) there seems to be a great deal of division over many issues. There are frequent discussions and debates all the time about various tenets of the philosophy and how it applies to every day life. I have found that while there are some salient points that most agree on, there are several others which are often debated.

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Since my other thread got such a great response from Goreans and non-Goreans alike, we'd really be interested in hearing people's opinions :) And we all know I'm a sponge, read to lap up whatever learning I can...


Well I'm one of the "non-Goreans" but I've associated with Gorean folks and been a part of their community (albeit on the fringes) for several years now. I've met some extraordinary people that I am fortunate to call friend. I've also met my fair share of flakes and game players as well and while my owner and I do not agree with all aspects of the Gorean philosophy, we do respect decent, fine, people regardless of the label they wear. *smiles*

Well wishes to you, Minx!

Cav's girl
ally{C]

P.S. For some reason, there are a lot of people out there who are unwilling to view the Gorean lifestyle as anything different than some sort of sci-fi, unrealistic b.s. fantasy. I genuinely believe that the antics practiced in a great many of the online Gorean chat venues have greatly contributed to this belief. While there are many people who do take it too far and who can't see past the fantasy of it all, there are others who live respectable, honest lives where they are completely in touch with reality and who carry themselves in an intelligent, articulate, and decent manner.

The man who wrote the novels was a professor of philosophy (and in my opinion, not a very good writer lol). With his psyche planted firmly on his sleeve, he wrote the Gorean books as a way to starkly demonstrate his view on the nature of mankind and used a myriad of ancient earth-based cultures and schools of philosophical thought to do so. The books are chock full of page after page of philosophical waxing and while the premise of the stories is fictional and takes place in a sci-fi setting, much of the interplay between characters is deeply rooted in the reality-based, primal, nature of humans on earth. Hence while the culture, society, and setting were fiction, the natures of the characters and the philosophies that they followed were indeed very realistic.

*edited for typos* :)

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 4:10:45 AM   
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quote:

As far as unowned slaves are concerned, I have a rather different viewpoint on that. (sometimes its not a very popular viewpoint lol) I believe that a slave is someone who is abjectly subservient to another person(s). Hence if someone is unowned, I believe that while they may possess the desire to be a slave, the drive and need to be a slave and the nature and demeanor of a slave, that technically, the mantle of "slave" does not apply.


I think that is something I have struggled and still struggle with.

A lot is said on ' How can a Master be a Master without a slave'.... the whole Lord/Sir/Master name association discussions that continue onwards. I see this is the same for the name 'slave'... how can a slave be a slave without an Owner? People may have the demeanour and attitude to be a slave - or to dominate and the desire to submit as a slave - but without Ownership/or property -are the word associations correct?

Excellent post ally!

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 5:03:48 AM   
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A slave can definitely have honor. The girl I own is a perfect example of that. Yes, she is my property and does as I say but, within that set of limits, she does have choices to make; it is in viewing these choices that one sees honor or the lack of it.

As for being Gorean: My slave was trained as a kajira, and a very fine one at that. Though I knew something of Gor, it was really she who provided me a true glimpse of Gorean ways. Since she was without a Master when we met, yet was a trained Gorean slave girl, I would say that she was/is Gorean (if she chooses to identify thusly), no matter if she is owned by a Gorean Master or not.

Make sense Minxy girl? It's just my view, of course.

Bob

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 8:18:34 AM   
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Ok posting to this topic , Having been in the Gorean circles for some time and implimented alot of it into my D/s lifestyle [even lead gorean style munches for a while].

As with ANYTHING else you take from it what works for you and leave the rest.

Now to the question: In the strict since of the books no a slave doesnt "honour' her Master.
In reality as people who love the symbolisms and basic philosophies of Gor , most see everyone as being able to be honorable or dishonorable according to thier own actions.
No different really than D/s and in Fact the basics of Gor is really simply D/s with some flavor thrown in here and there inspite of what some have said trying to seperate themselves.
That being said you will probably hear different opinions on the matter and not supprisingly really as you would with any general bdsm or D/s topic.
"there is no single shirt.." <--gorean quote

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 8:38:08 AM   
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Hmmm. Ok, I hate to be assertive/ mean to anybody, but please, if people want to bash the Goreans, can they open a new thread to do it? I started this one to hear opinions about Gorean concepts, not opinions about the Goreans themselves. It just bugs me that 7 of the first 10 posts here referred to whether or not it's even a legitimate lifestyle choice, and that really is another topic... Plus intolerance like that bugs me, period.

But thank you, all you tolerant people who answered Very interesting reading, and I like angel's question:

"how can a slave be a slave without an Owner? People may have the demeanour and attitude to be a slave - or to dominate and the desire to submit as a slave - but without Ownership/or property -are the word associations correct? "

Any thoughts on that, while we're here?

And I have to bite - Kiaban "there's no single shirt"? That must be one of the more obscure Gorean quotes, which book did you get it from...? Interested, not cynical


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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 8:41:11 AM   
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For me it would be like asking how can I be a bisexual when I'm not having sex.

To me a slave is an orientation, not a state of transitional being.

Otherwise no one would say "owned slave" because that would just be redundant.

But this is one of those things where we just all have our own perspectives and as long as we understand where the other person is coming from, we're good.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 8:52:58 AM   
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hmmm... very interesting - really comprehending your thought process there... it makes more 'sense' if you think it like that. So the concept of if you feel , bisexual, slave, gay, hetro, woman(in a mans body) Master etc... is an orientation that is consistant rather than a trait which can alter?

Or am I misreading?

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 8:54:42 AM   
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Will put the full quote in its early and didnt have my coffee yet =)
"There is no single humanity, no single shirt,no correct pair of shoes, no uniform, even a grey one,that will fit all men.There are thousands of humanities possible.He who denies this sees only his own horizons.He who disagrees is the denier of differenace,And the murderer of better futures.
Savages of gor pg 31.
spelling errors mine.

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 9:01:26 AM   
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actually Kiaban - as much as I did not like the books(just not for me, I regret) that statement is actually quite profound.

Thank You

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RE: Opinions sought - more Gor. - 5/11/2005 9:05:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dark~angel

actually Kiaban - as much as I did not like the books(just not for me, I regret) that statement is actually quite profound.

Thank You

Peace and Love


I have to agree , there are alot of things in the books,,read them all 2x and I am not even a masochist..anyways alot of really neat quotes and such, its simply like mining though and often you feel like you are treading water when reading them for the rare gem.


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