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hers4pleasure69 -> Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 12:36:35 PM)
has anyone ever dealt with or had a surrogate Domme before? my Domme and i have been in a LDR for 6 years and She knows my needs aren't being totally met. She has started looking for a "surrogate Domme" for me and i was just wondering if anyone has done this successfully before and about any pitfalls that may occur. She has definite ideas and also expects progress reports from any "surrogate". Is this unreasonable? Would like to hear what others think or have been through doing this. Thinking of posting the same on the Ask a Mistress board also.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 1:41:23 PM)
I've seen this work when the Dominants were friends to begin with. I've also seen it fail miserably when the surrogate and submissive bonded. Master Fire

hers4pleasure69 -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 1:59:22 PM)
probably should have added we have only had the chance to be together twice and She lives 900 miles from me.

DungeonSpain -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 2:00:48 PM)
About three years ago, we received a request from a Domme /Mommy in Canada. She was the Mommy to an adult baby who used to vist her in , I think, Montreal. Apparently, he had been something approaching a pain in the arse to her and had been misbehaving. As a punishment, she ordered him to visit us for a period of four nights, during which time he was to act as our 'sissymaid'. He was actually a delightful chap, and during his stay, he was routinely punished for any misdemeanours, by both Master and the Mistresses.Otherwise, he was good company. The downside was (and this is why we no longer accept adult babies) that he had been instructed by his Mommy to shit in his nappy. Been there done that with our own kids. Let me tell you, dealing with that situation was no fun at all. He was punished severely. Someday, we hope to return the favour to his mommy. However, returning to the case in point ... yes ... surrogate Dommes do work, but there is always a sting in the tail ... or shit in the pants in this particular instance. Regards from sunny Spain Iron Damsel, Mistress Stiletto and Highlander www.bondagedominationspain.com

SirMIkeSD -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 2:27:03 PM)
Not to put to much of a spin on your question, but you have been in a LDR for 6 years and have only been together twice. Instead of finding a surrogate maybe it's time to move closer to your Dom and have some real time with her.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 2:56:35 PM)
Usually works better when the dom gives the sub away permanently.

Damocles809 -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 7:10:55 PM)
Can't say I've heard of it before, but my gut is telling me it's a bad move. Mike seems to have the right idea, just get togehter for real time. 6 years is longer than most marriages these days.

hers4pleasure69 -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 7:42:45 PM)
to many other things going on that I don't care to go into here that preclude that. Suffice to say, it's not going to happen anytime soon.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 7:59:48 PM)
Just so you know not all adult babies insist on or do so under orders shitting their diapers. I identify as an inner child now, which is differnt in so many personal ways to me than an AB, but when it was simply Adult baby, I refused to do any pooping in diapers, I still do as an inner child, refuse to poop in diapers. quote: ORIGINAL: DungeonSpain The downside was (and this is why we no longer accept adult babies) that he had been instructed by his Mommy to shit in his nappy.

hers4pleasure69 -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 8:18:33 PM)
laffs.....that may be what She is leading up to....one never knows for sure.

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/13/2007 8:47:51 PM)
What would be the purpose of the surrogate? To train you for a Domme you may never see again? Quite honestly - even though you may feel devoted to your Domme, it appears to predominantly be an online/phone thing, as you've only seen her twice in 6 years and don't think that is going to change. If you start seeing another Domme r/t on a regular basis, how strong do you think that bond with the Domme that you don't have that level of contact with will last?

boundfem -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/15/2007 7:38:37 PM)
I had a friend who had 2 surrogates at one time. He completely utterly lost the meaning of loyalty in any of his relationships. In the end, he met yet another Domme, they are in a very close relationship and he ended his relationship with the first Domme who he had the LDR with. Confused? So is he. I would go with the posters who said perhaps it is just time to find a Domme closer to you or move to the Domme you are so far apart from. To me, the idea of surrogate Domme is one that may be nice in concept, but I bet it fails more times than not. If the new Domme and sub bond.. well the old one is going to be pushed out. I'd say the chances of either Domme becoming possessive and not liking to share is probably high. I just don't think it is likely to be a good situation.

earthycouple -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/15/2007 10:26:00 PM)
I personally think this is insane on more levels than I can count.

HeavansKeeper -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/16/2007 1:03:54 AM)
You rip your band-aids off in one yank, don't you? I think you're right in the long run, Lucky, but it's so damned hard to do it. I always found it easier to fail first, THEN make a permanent change of Dom. Edit: it occurs to me that everyone on this site either rips band-aids off in one fell swoop or does it slow on purpose. More to the point: I did some thinking and can't remember a surogate working perfectly in the vanilla world. In BDSM it might, as sex isn't clouding the issue. To the OP: Do you love your 6 year Domme? Is she married/involved? Has she ever taken on another (closer) sub? My advice, as someone who has done LDR vanilla and not, if both parties are not happy with it, get out, and be friends until later.

LadyIce -> RE: Surrogate Domme - bad idea or ? (5/16/2007 3:21:11 PM)
I agree with the Domme giving the submissive away permanently.

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