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MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Traveling (5/16/2007 4:42:35 AM)
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Yep, so do I. The one munch I enjoy attending is 70 miles one way, and it's not unheard of for me to drive 1-2 hours to a club or other BDSM function. C'est la vie. There aren't munches in my back yard.
Here's the thing - you're not going to be able to snap your fingers and not only find a Domme that lives somewhere that you happen to be visiting this week but find one that is receptive to meeting you on such short notice. If it were THAT easy, then boys would be running around meeting Dommes all the time. The only exception is if you were looking for a prodomme - then you should look somewhere like www.maxfisch.com and not troll on the forums. Well, you shouldn't troll on the forums anyway but too late for that.
Although there are exceptions, a pet peeve of MOST Dommes are the emails from subs who literally expect us to drop everything and meet and play with them "just because" they happen to be passing through our geographic area. I get emails like that at least 1 or 2 times a week - and my profile even (essentially) says I'm not looking. Now, I'm pretty thick skinned so I just laugh, delete, move along - some will get really offended by such emails. Overall, I do find it very unrealistic of men to think that Dommes are just sitting here hoping for a drive-by booty call from them.
It's one thing to be open to a long distance relationship. It's another to expect a Domme make herself available because you happen to be passing through. Big difference.
So you have to ask yourself - what are YOUR expectations? Is it just a quick tie-and-spank pitstop on the roadtrip? What if she doesn't feel like it that day or has something more important to do, like wash her hair? Are you looking to be able to spend a couple days with someone every month? If you're willing to establish a long distance relationship, are you ONLY willing to do so with someone who lives in an area you were going to be driving through anyway or are you willing to go elsewhere?
Most importantly, why would a Domme be interested in having this kind of relationship with YOU - what special qualities and wonderfulness do YOU bring to the table that make you unique and interesting enough that she'd chose you over someone with a more convenient schedule and location? Believe it or not, you being willing to show up and be played with aren't unique qualities.
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