quote:

ORIGINAL: addicted2it

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Have any male submissives made an approach to a Lady, who thougt thought was Domme. I dont mean at a munch, more in a Cafe say or at the mall. If so how was your approach recieved.

I am neither a Dom or a Lady, but I would suspect that you would probably never be able to recognize one at other than a BDSM event.  Unless, of course, she drops something in front of you and says, "Pick it up, bitch!"

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

See and my style is "I'm sorry, would you mind getting that for me, please?"

quote:

How a sub found me is beyond comprehension :P

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Have any male submissives made an approach to a Lady, who thougt thought was Domme. I dont mean at a munch, more in a Cafe say or at the mall. If so how was your approach recieved.

For the Mistress`s, if you recieved such an approach how would you react to it ? Would you welcome it or find it intrusive ?

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

Yea but how would you know I was a domme if it happened in a mall? 

In all seriousness though, sometimes a look can do more than phrases.  I have found some kinky people in the mall.  None I have ever struck a relationship with but some who have divulged certain things in off handed ways, that could be construed as kinky or not but then there's a look...and you know.

quote:

ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Have any male submissives made an approach to a Lady, who thougt thought was Domme. I dont mean at a munch, more in a Cafe say or at the mall. If so how was your approach recieved.

For the Mistress`s, if you recieved such an approach how would you react to it ? Would you welcome it or find it intrusive ?

I've been on the receiving end of such an approach more than a few times. One turned out quite bad and another was very good.

Bad...I was out with my UM who was 20 at the time. I don't look my age and we're often thought to be siblings or colleagues rather than parent/child. I was in a coffeshop while he was getting our order and someone approached me indicating he was a sub in a subtle way. I simply looked at him and said I was with someone and didn't appreciate being bothered. He then approached my son and told him how lucky he was to have such a woman in his presence and asked if we were in a relationship. His loud reply of "Dude, that's my mom, get out of my face, you freak." caused sufficient enough embarrassment that he left the shop redfaced. Hopefully he rethought his approaches in future.

Good...while in the same coffeeshop ( I study there often) a gentleman 2 people ahead of me in line prepaid my order and then struck up a conversation when I walked by to thank him. Completely vanilla conversation closed with his proferred business card with a simple hand written note on the back saying "My pleasure, Ma'am". I did end up calling him and having dinner with him a few times before he was transferred away from the area.

I think the questions I would have is what approach were you thinking to use? What is it about a woman that would cause you to consider approaching her to begin with in public?

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Have any male submissives made an approach to a Lady, who thougt thought was Domme. I dont mean at a munch, more in a Cafe say or at the mall. If so how was your approach recieved.

For the Mistress`s, if you recieved such an approach how would you react to it ? Would you welcome it or find it intrusive ?

I've been on the receiving end of such an approach more than a few times. One turned out quite bad and another was very good.

Bad...I was out with my UM who was 20 at the time. I don't look my age and we're often thought to be siblings or colleagues rather than parent/child. I was in a coffeshop while he was getting our order and someone approached me indicating he was a sub in a subtle way. I simply looked at him and said I was with someone and didn't appreciate being bothered. He then approached my son and told him how lucky he was to have such a woman in his presence and asked if we were in a relationship. His loud reply of "Dude, that's my mom, get out of my face, you freak." caused sufficient enough embarrassment that he left the shop redfaced. Hopefully he rethought his approaches in future.

Good...while in the same coffeeshop ( I study there often) a gentleman 2 people ahead of me in line prepaid my order and then struck up a conversation when I walked by to thank him. Completely vanilla conversation closed with his proferred business card with a simple hand written note on the back saying "My pleasure, Ma'am". I did end up calling him and having dinner with him a few times before he was transferred away from the area.

I think the questions I would have is what approach were you thinking to use? What is it about a woman that would cause you to consider approaching her to begin with in public?

i would never approach anyone who was in company, i would be polite and just try and strike up a normal conversation and go from there. i was just wondering how such an approach could be made to a Lady that appeared Dominant, either by the way She dressed on mannerisms.
Failing that i would fall at Her feet and offer  hand made chocolates [;)]

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

Yea but how would you know I was a domme if it happened in a mall? 

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

The odds of finding me at the mall.......slim to none. Hate them.

Try the farm supply store, looking speculatively at rope and odd bits of horse tack.

quote:

ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

The odds of finding me at the mall.......slim to none. Hate them.

Try the farm supply store, looking speculatively at rope and odd bits of horse tack.

Not to hijack the topic but I agree with you LaT. I've bought half a dozen riding crops throughout the years and the best one still to this day is the one I picked up for $7.95 at my local farm and seed store. It's lasted far longer than any of the far more expensive ones and it's looks have lasted far longer as well. Hmmm, I may need to make a little stop in at the feed and seed. LOL

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

True, except I do have to be careful. There are things I would NEVER use on a horse that I would on a person. If those get questioned I just say that they are for work.......keeping the boys in line! 

quote:

If those get questioned I just say that they are for work...keeping the boys in line!

quote:

ORIGINAL: addicted2it

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

True, except I do have to be careful. There are things I would NEVER use on a horse that I would on a person. If those get questioned I just say that they are for work.......keeping the boys in line! 

Oh, LaT, horses don't like it, but some humans obvioulsy need it.  (Who, me?)  And just for the record, I completely support the humane treatment of animals...unless they are pony boys or pony girls.

quote:

If those get questioned I just say that they are for work...keeping the boys in line!

But why leave the girls out?  *wink*

quote:

ORIGINAL: Alcuin
in approaching a Lady in the vanilla world whom i felt might be a Dominant, i've simply acted polite as hell - confidently respectful, assertively chivalric, noble & gentlemanly - but not fawning, wimpy, desperate, lecherous or desperate.
A tasteful, tactful casting down of one's eyes at just the proper instant doesn't hurt, either.

quote:

ORIGINAL: addicted2it


Oh, and I did meet a Domme in a mall.  Strangely-enough, I was walking with another Domme at the time, and we ran into each other quite by accident.  By the way, I knew the Domme that we ran into.  You really do meet the nicest people at the Beverly Center.