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Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 9:22:39 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 9:25:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I require a slave that can carry on a conversation. The strong silent type are not my cup of tea, and I have turned down or dismissed many a pretty face becasue they couldnt hold up their side of a conversation with both hands. I want mine to have their own opinions, their own viewpoints and preferably the smarts to know what is and isnt apropriate to bring up and when.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 9:25:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thats about the same as asking if I like bland food......

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 9:39:54 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I used to feel so in awe and intimidated by him that I was too shy to speak.  Also, my upbringing was great training (insert sarcastic tone here) for learning how NOT to communicate effectively.  My Master, however, enjoys a girl who can hold an intelligent conversation.  And so he helped me recover my self confidence and taught me how to express myself so that I could.  He also sent me back to school to finish my education.

Then again, there are days he wants me to say nothing, and to simply use me for my body.  I can pretty much read his queues on this now.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 9:48:07 PM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation? 
Yes
Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no?
Certainly, I enjoy conversation, not just talking to another.
Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?
At times, when I desire quiet company.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 9:57:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		My Pet and I have a loving and equal relationship underneath our D/s dynamic.  It is the backbone that allows her to "put me first."  A conversation is crucially important to us.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/17/2007 11:04:37 PM   
aldompdx


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Status: offline 		> Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation? Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no?

Absolutely 100%. Who wants a mindless drone? Get a pet rock...

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 2:39:31 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Not much fun talking to yourself in company!  Any sub of mine quickly learns my tones and body language etc and knows when to be her hopefully normal chatty self and when to be quiet and pay attention.  The "leash" is for occasionally pulling her into line, NOT for perpetually strangling her....
 
Focus.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 3:03:56 AM   
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Get a pet rock...


I can identify with this.  As someone who's played the "Pet rock" roll in a vanilla relationship i can say it seriously addles the brain.  I never knew it before but if you're left to your own devices to long your brain (well mine did atleast) starts making up its own language.  Now when i try to speak outloud i often find it difficult translating what my brains language is, into english.  (i'm getting better tho!)

I highly suggest that if you are with anyone that requires a pet rock, try to have outside communication just so your brain doesnt go off into la-la land.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 3:09:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?


It is refreshing to be able to have an intelligent conversation after sex without having to get dressed and leave the house, so I can safely say that I prefer an intelligent, well read slave that is capable of engaging in deep conversation. The only problem I have with mine is getting her to shut up once she gets started. Threats of using a dirty sock or bar of soap as a gag work...sometimes.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 4:02:15 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		I appreciate someone who does have a working, thinking brain, and can express opinions when asked.

But it is also appreciated when, for a time, the mind and mouth are more malleable, controlled.  Having a gag on hand for no other reason than to assert control in that way is an indication that I don't 'need' an opinion at that moment, and it also 'frees' my partner from feeling as if she has to make a contribution.  She can then focus on the feelings of submission and bondage (even if it is just her mouth).

Isn't this dichotomy far better than the example of the proverbial doormat that lacks the wherewithal to have something of value to say to begin with?  Having strength, and submitting that strength at times, is one of the marks of a 'valued' submissive, to me.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 5:09:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?


Absolutely! My biggest turn-on about Aqua is that big, sexy brain of hers, followed shortly by her spunky, vivacious attitude, and I've always been wired that way.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 5:15:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

My Pet and I have a loving and equal relationship underneath our D/s dynamic.  It is the backbone that allows her to "put me first."  A conversation is crucially important to us.


I couldn't agree more.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 5:34:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?


Yes. Yes. Yes, when told to.

*chuckle*

Now, why do you ask?

Regards,
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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 5:41:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		There is a difference between a women who can hold an intriqueing and interesting conversation and a women who just goes "chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp"

The first one I like a lot. The second will drive me up the wall.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 5:42:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy and i are natural chatterboxes. we enjoy meaningful and deep conversations about anything and/or any subject. He prefers that i have an opposing point of view and that i express it ...in a calm manner yet there are times when we do argue only because i become too stubborn to listen to his advice.  He's knows i'm very opinionated (just like Him) and not afraid of telling people (including "doms") off. 


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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 6:20:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?

Not only do I enjoy it, I've spent a fair amount of time teaching some how to do so.   There are times I will want her to sit quietly but there are times I want conversation... a time and place for everything.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 6:23:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?
I enjoy both. I don't need or want someone to fill the air with her noise just to hear her own voice. Just because she has an opinion doesn't mean she always needs to share it. But when engaged in conversation, I do enjoy someone that can actually hold up her end of that conversation.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 7:35:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I want someone who's intuitive enough to know when I need one or the other. There ARE times when quiet service is appropriate as well as times when I want stimulating conversation or wish for them to join in the conversation at hand.

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RE: Whats its worth? - 5/18/2007 7:41:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW
Do you as a Dom appreciate a sub or slave that can carry on a conversation?  Do you enjoy a sub or slave that can carry out her point of view on a subject or no? Or do you wish for someone that sits quietly by your side?

I want both.

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