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Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 10:58:19 AM

crimsontied4u

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I have noticed that when I contact a potential sub/slave for the first time,and ask them to acknowledge the message with a reply,that is the last time I have contact with 99% of them!!!
If they cannot reply with an answer how can they expect to obey in RL???

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:05:11 AM

NakedGirlScout

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Not that I am recommending you do this, but imagine if you posted a female profile and got 150 messages a day, and worked for a living... how long would you be able to keep up the "no thanks" (and then be asked "why not" and requested to answer that too) until you had to close your account for sheer lack of time to eat, sleep and go to the bathroom?

Real life comes first!

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:08:50 AM

HarleyKitty69

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I wonder.. did you send them a one liner demanding a reply ??
Or did you send a little letter introducing yourself and asking politely for a reply ??

150 e-mails a day ??? I must be doing something wrong then... I get maybe 2 a week if I am lucky and all of those are rude oneliners demanding that I reply which I find rude.. so I delete them......

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:09:18 AM

KatyLied

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Many do not respond well to orders from complete strangers.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:10:43 AM

MstrssPassion

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do you turn blue in the face, stomp your feet & stick out your lower lip when you you don't get your way as well?

No one has to obey you until you own them & their "no answer" is an answer.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:15:27 AM

Sweetbluerose

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i think the rudeness is on both sides, i try and say no thanks to some one liners the first time, but after that if they persist i start ignoring them....i hate the "cyber" "you horny" "what are you wearing" "want to chat" messages.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:19:34 AM

MsKatHouston

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quote:

If they cannot reply with an answer how can they expect to obey in RL???

Because they choose to obey a particular person, not all people. I would hazard a guess that the same dominant a woman chooses to reply to may be the same dominant she chooses to obey. Nobody has any obligation to reply to you. Nobody has any obligation to obey you...until a relationship is established.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:27:15 AM

juliaoceania

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

I have noticed that when I contact a potential sub/slave for the first time,and ask them to acknowledge the message with a reply,that is the last time I have contact with 99% of them!!!
If they cannot reply with an answer how can they expect to obey in RL???

Chances are if you cannot get them to respond via email to you that you can definitely count on the fact that you can never ever expect them to obey in real life...

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:28:23 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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The real question you need to be asking is "How are all these other great doms around here involved and meeting new people, when I can't entice a single one to respond to an email?"

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:31:26 AM

Faramir

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u

I have noticed that when I contact a potential sub/slave for the first time,and ask them to acknowledge the message with a reply,that is the last time I have contact with 99% of them!!!
If they cannot reply with an answer how can they expect to obey in RL???

Hmmm, that's strange. I'd estimate about 80% of the women I write to here respond back, even if it is only to say they appreciated the interest but I wasn't their bag. Isn't that odd--I wonder why you and I have almost exactly opposite experiences???

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:37:09 AM

MsKatHouston

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I looked at your profile by the way. There may be some things in there that might be off putting to a potential sub. But, who knows. Perhaps if you give us an example of the type of email you are sending it might help.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:37:51 AM

lilbitshy

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Being fairly new here, I have had a few e-mails. Luckily most have been kind and I continue to converse with those. If I get an order or something rude or offensive in my email from someone I have never talked to I simply delete it. The same goes for those that start out seeming nice then turn into just another hng on a powertrip. Respect will get you respect, rudeness will get you ignored.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:40:13 AM

happypervert

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Maybe it's because you haven't been courteous enough to include a cock pic with your note. There is no reason for them to show interest if you don't give them somethng to be interested in.

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:41:34 AM

SirMIkeSD

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I think that excluding the one liners and are you horny messages a simple reply saying sorry I am not intrested is not that hard to manage. I am looking for a male, and receive the same no replies. Maybe they are getting those 150 messages and are just too overloaded to answer, but I really don't think that is the case. I will say that I do not demand anything, in my initial contact with someone. But common courtesy is something that I feel we are lacking in general today, so why should the internet be any different. Add to that, that it's so much easier to be rude to someone who you don't know.

Mike

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:43:47 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Except for the fact that an email from a random stranger carries with it NO expectation of a reply, on ANY level.

It's not rude to not reply, it's not lack of courtesy not to reply.

I know people think otherwise, but I've got back up from Miss Manners on this one.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_237847/mpage_1/key_miss%252Cmanners/tm.htm#237847
Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respond to a Strangers Emails"? Fiasco

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:45:27 AM

KatyLied

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Can I? Please? Solve this mystery for you?
No response = no interest
It's not difficult to figure out is it?

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:55:21 AM

SirMIkeSD

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LA.

Thank you, I have to say that I did not know that. You are such a wealth of info. I don't think that personally I will subscribe to this for inquiries to myself, as I allways answer back. No matter what Ms Maners says I would consider myself rude.

Mike

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:57:13 AM

susie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

No response = no interest

Perhaps we should get this added to the warnings currently available on the site. Might save us the once a week "I don't get a response from those rude subs/slaves/Doms/Dommes" threads.

Nah probably not

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 11:59:00 AM

MadRabbit

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u
If they cannot reply with an answer how can they expect to obey in RL???

My mind has been blown...

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RE: Contact courtesy - 5/18/2007 12:17:33 PM

Faramir

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quote:

ORIGINAL: happypervert

Maybe it's because you haven't been courteous enough to include a cock pic with your note. There is no reason for them to show interest if you don't give them somethng to be interested in.

No see, that's good, concrete advice. Mr. crimsontied I hope you are taking notes here!!

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