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mp072004 -> RE: Hair color...? (5/18/2007 3:39:32 PM)
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On aesthetics:
I think that very few people look good with hair dyed colors that could not conceivably have originated on their heads. Even fewer of those people are men. A few people look absolutely stunning with unnatural hair colors, generally because they choose colors that work with their existing skin tones and that harmonize with their looks. It's much easier to look good with hair in a naturally-occuring color, I think.
On superficial presentation and attraction:
The way a person looks can lead me to look a second time and to approach him or her. In other words, if I see you, say, at a munch, and I like the way you superficially present yourself (casual conversational skills, grooming, carriage) then I'm likely to take an active role in getting to know you better. This hardly seems inappropriate or wrong--I'm using the information I have about a person to make a decision about whether I want to put in any effort to learn more about that person. There are delightful people who don't present themselves well at first, and without an attractive initial presentation they need to take a more aggressive role in getting to know others.
On "natural" looks:
But reading one of your later messages it seems like you're leaning toward enhancing a quite natural tendency. That is, you're developing grey hair so that you have a salt-and-pepper or ashy look, and you want to make your hair grey all over. That's a perfectly fine and natural look, and often an elegant thing to do once you're upward of 50% grey. It's worth mentioning that it's often necessary to find a skilled colorist to blend grey tones well.
On self-expression:
you need to determine the kind of person you want to present yourself to be, and the kind of person you want to attract. If you have a thing for a slightly alternative, punky edge, both in yourself and in your prospective partners, you'll probably be fine with the electric blue that you entertained. I'm not crazy about punk/goth/emo/alternative cultures, nor the looks that go with them, so expressing that form of self isn't a way to make *me* approach you from looking at you. But that doesn't mean there aren't dominant women who wouldn't regard blue hair as an aphrodisiac.
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