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Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 7:10:11 AM

suberic101

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and not just get my 'rox' off as someone described it. I am new to D/S and BDSM in general. Is there any good advice as to what might work/worked for you?

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 9:58:32 AM

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Letting an owner know i want to serve and not jsut get my rocks off ......

i have no idea waht you want to know!!

This statement makes me assume, that altho you are classified as a newbie...you are owned?

If owned..... tell the owner.

Tell the owner what you want.... and why.

Getting ones rocks off in service makes me assume sexual service.

i love to serve my owner..... getting him coffee in the morning, bring him his beer when he comes home from along day at work, making sure our place is clean and tidy the way he desires it ...........
but he may not desire this of me.
Maybe he wants to get his own beer, empty his own ash trays, sweep the kitchen floor .....
Maybe he wants me to "jump his bones" and ask him to bathe me, pamper me .....

Ask the owner.

If you are unowned, what are you talking about?

If you want to play with a certain Dom....tell him...tell him why and would he help you learn.

*shrugs

edited cause i just went to read your profile .........read and learn more !!!
may i ask why you registered to be a slave?
what does it prove to be registered a slave....i am not condemening that action just wondering why?

many slaves are not registered.... with or without owner.

in my humblest opinion.... being registered makes you not a slave until you have a Mistress and know to whom and why you submit.

boy am i in a funky mood today!!

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 7:19:46 PM

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Hmm, I am going to go to a club here in Reppongi and see if I can't find a Mistress. But what I mean is, whatkind of approach should I use? Should I wait to be chosen?

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 7:59:48 PM

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Hmm, I am going to go to a club here in

i think i get it! you are approaching people in clubs for play or relationships or maybe a lil of both? and you want to know the best approach that shows you are subly yet interested? and you have tried this already without success?
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i don't club much but maybe you should try hunting in packs, or w/a mentor, or just a close playpal? maybe you should not approach it from a sexual standpoint if you are not just looking to get your rocks off!

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 8:28:17 PM

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No, of course not. I don't want to approach it from that standpoint, and would like to find someone to train me at least, and then see what else developes from the relationship.

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 8:51:32 PM

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OK best idea for you I can offer at this time is that youconcentrate your conversations and such on non-sexual services that you are able to provide, Toss in a few very few almost as an afterthought more personal services you can provide should the relationsip go there.

Concentrate on valuable skills to a person of the station you seek to serve.
Personal shopper for food
Personal shopper for clothing
Keeping a House Book
Polishing of silver, brass, leathercare
Wine steward
Personal Secretary
Check out Butler's guild schools and their programs duplicate the program as closely as possible in a self paced study.

If you can provide them with those valuable services then they will know that you have put effort into making yourself a usefull slave/submissive. If you take your service seriously then those who require good service will take you seriously.

If you discribe the self paced program you set out for yourself and the areas of study you have undertaken, it will be obvious to anyone who you really want to serve that service is what you beleive to be the top priority in a relationship for you.

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 9:12:37 PM

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Ok, I could do that, start being a save to others. I see.

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 9:28:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: suberic101

Hmm, I am going to go to a club here in Reppongi and see if I can't find a Mistress. But what I mean is, whatkind of approach should I use? Should I wait to be chosen?

You should approach her in the same polite manner you would any woman you are trying to get to know. Do not focus on her as a femdom, focus on her as a woman. Be polite, charming and classy. Be well groomed and interesting. Talk to her about a variety of things, not just bdsm. Be genuine in your interest, and don't just go hunting after any femdom because "something is better than nothing."

It is a relationship first and foremost.

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/13/2005 9:56:04 PM

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Ok. Thanks for the advice. I will encorparate, and adhere to the advice. Thanks.

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/14/2005 3:55:01 PM

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Ok, I could do that, start being a save to others. I see.

No I think you misunderstood me, I was saying for yu to develople the skills, and design a program so that you have the service skills non-sexual, When you talk with Dommes/Mistresses you will have all the interesting research to discuss in conversation.
Even if the one you are speaking to doesn't have a need for you at that time they network the same way submissives and slaves without partners do. If you have the interests and knowedge and MS Fullhouse knows your interests then Ms. Fullhouse may tell her freind Ms. Looking about you.

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RE: Letting an owner know I want to serve... - 5/14/2005 6:39:45 PM

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Oh, ok. I understand now. Thanks mucho gracie(sp)

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