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Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/18/2007 3:09:54 PM

Unrepentant1

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I have noticed that a number of Dommes claim to be Pro Domme and also Lifestyle Domme, as well as those who are clearly trying to exploit the fantasist and dreamers. I do however wonder, purely from curiosity, if a Pro Domme has a sub, how does she keep the two apart, how does the sub handle it and what does she do to separate the two?

I also wonder, how she came to meet her sub and what made them different from the rest. I am not seeking to start a slanging match off re the merits of Pro Dommes, I just wonder how they separate the two and in fact manage to maintain the energy and required to do Pro and live the lifestyle.

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RE: Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/18/2007 3:48:31 PM

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I would think its a different dynamic, one is a job She enjoys. The other a personal relationship. If She met him via work he would know about it before getting involved. If not i suspect She would have been very upfront about Her work. If he didnt accept it, then he wasnt the subbie for Her.
I would be suprised if there werent any couples that met this way, and over time a business relationship grew into something more.

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RE: Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/19/2007 3:37:41 AM

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My previous formative Mistress was a Pro-Domme, I was her submissive. She had her select stable of paying slaves.

These slaves to me were her work. They were guests in the home, and when I was involved in a scene with one of her paying slaves I regarded them as a guest. I took on the role my Mistress wanted, whether it be dominant or submissive. I followed her instructions and to me this was just one of the duties I did for her. The relationship she had with her slave wasn't any of my business. I was merely helping her with her work.

My relationship with her was different. I was her's. I kept her home clean, did her chores, looked after her, did her shopping, served when she had guests and when we played we played her way because the most important thing was for her to enjoy our play sessions and get what she wanted out of them. She came first.

I spent five years with her and regard those as the most productive five years in my entire experience as a submissive because she taught me so much, not only about how to be submissive and how to serve but also about myself as a submissive and also about dominant women, and what they need, want and expect from a relationship with a submissive.

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RE: Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/19/2007 3:51:26 AM

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Stella by the response that you gave you explained excatly as my own sub has stated to others well done..........Mistress Mercia

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RE: Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/19/2007 10:35:27 AM

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These kinds of questions confuse Me....

When I was pro, cubby helped to set up for sessions, and helped to clean up afterwards. He was on hand in another room if I needed him. I didn't have sex with clients so it was similar to when we'd go to a local event and I'd work someone else there, only this time I got paid for it.

It's not true that a Pro doesn't have feelings for their clients. If they are ethical and very grounded, a Pro CAN develop interest and even feelings for a client. Not necessarily romantic ones. Usually I would feel maternal or protective, but I could feel playful, wicked, spicy, seductive, you name it. Often a submissive client gave Me an opportunity to step outside of My existence and enjoy different roles and I had as much fun as they did. I had a number of regulars specifically BECAUSE I enjoyed My time with them. I never took a session that I wouldn't be able to enjoy - that would have been lying to them and Myself.

I love this lifestyle - in all it's wonderful and varied aspects. I can understand and respect why people do the things they do to get their kink met. I can understand why a Pro can separate work from play and give her BEST at both. There WAS no emotional separation for Me, because I took each client as a PERSON first. Anything that happened from that point forward was gravy.

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RE: Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/19/2007 10:23:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: Unrepentant1

I have noticed that a number of Dommes claim to be Pro Domme and also Lifestyle Domme, as well as those who are clearly trying to exploit the fantasist and dreamers. I do however wonder, purely from curiosity, if a Pro Domme has a sub, how does she keep the two apart, how does the sub handle it and what does she do to separate the two?

I also wonder, how she came to meet her sub and what made them different from the rest. I am not seeking to start a slanging match off re the merits of Pro Dommes, I just wonder how they separate the two and in fact manage to maintain the energy and required to do Pro and live the lifestyle.

I actually met My Punk before We found BDSM.
It was slowly incorporated into our life as an everyday thing,with Me being slightly more Dominant than she is.
When I started working as a Dominatrix,she was completely all for it...I think in part it was saving herself from the spankings...LOL
She is second in charge and all My submissives respect her as so. I guess that makes it more intertwined and not so much as being seperated.
I dont ever see her get jealous,she gets curious as to what different people like or are into.
Finding time to see each other is easier because the Dungeon is in the house and her business is home based also.I do admit sometimes we are both so busy its a kiss and a slap in passing.

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RE: Pro - lifestyle combination - 5/19/2007 10:52:31 PM

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Hi.

That's a great question.

I find it easy to seperate the two. Sometimes I meet a slave that wants to live the lifestyle and he wants to be trained for real ownership and be owned by me or another Mistress, and other times I meet men that just want to try being a slave part time or he only wants to try his fetishes so he wants a session.

There's an obvious need for both types of Mistresses (Pro and Lifestyle) since there's both types of slaves (lifestyle and session seekers who only want their fetish catered to).

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