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Rebelkinkykitten -> Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 10:15:03 AM)
I've recently been chatting to a "Dominant couple" who requested I talk to them. Upon saying hi and asking what they required I get told they want to "use me as a sex slave" so I check their profile again... almost blank. So I request some basic details. What do they look like? What would they want me for? Ages? I get told they are 60, "average looks" and want me for the house and garden and general sex.... Am I really unreasonable to want more information than this from them? How do I approach a person like this? I feel like I am pulling teeth here... Help me out please? I really wanna know how I am supposed to converse in this sort of situation. Reb.

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 10:26:42 AM)
quote: Upon saying hi and asking what they required I get told they want to "use me as a sex slave" Wow, I guess we've been doing it wrong... lol No, you are not being unreasonable, and you approach them the same way you do any troll. I strongly believe that any questions should be answered promptly and as completely as possible, but then again, I can stand empty profiles either. Just my opinion. Jewel

Kiaban -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 10:34:13 AM)
I agree, if the basis of any relationship is communication it doesn't sound like they are off to a good start.

Rebelkinkykitten -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 10:42:01 AM)
heh.. thanks ShiftedJewel and Kiaban, I think I definately needed the reassurance there that I wasn't expecting anything out of the ordinary..:s Reb.

sub4hire -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 11:22:39 AM)
Basically they want someone they can use, abuse, give an std or two to and then discard? However, not until after you clean the house from top to bottom? I don't know...if I were bi..and seeking. They'd really have to be offering something more than just service. I mean, what if the sex is bad on top of it? I don't think you're un-reasonable at all. Just wise to think twice about them.

ruffnecksbabygir -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 11:29:21 AM)
yeah, what they said ^ it shouldn't feel like "pulling teeth", i'd take it as the first red flag and run.

darkinshadows -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 11:59:39 AM)
Any red flag(that gut feeling you get when something isn't right) - then it is always better to walk away. Communication is so important in any relationship - and in negotiations such as you are taking on - paramount. Patience and time will bring you what you need - have no worries about that. Peace and Love

Mercnbeth -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 12:09:58 PM)
quote: Help me out please? I really wanna know how I am supposed to converse in this sort of situation. As you would with anyone that you were considering having sex with or serving-- MEET, talk at length, be prepared to answer their questions, bring a list of questions if it helps. if you don't feel comfortable with them, thank them for their interest and move on.

subcheryl -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 4:32:05 PM)
I agree with everyone, here, I had those when I was looking and as dark-angel said "follow that gut feeling", and others that this is a redflag and redflag=run, I often felt they had something to hide when they could not or would not share things about themselves or where very vague with their answers. and I would not even consider meeting them, but then like mercnbeth said if you meet them perhaps they can articulate better then they could express in writing, but definately if you meet them, be very public and not go with them the first time out or even the second time out since there is some unease about them already, IMO I probably wouldn't bother with them.

Padriag -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 10:51:47 PM)
Yes its unreasonable... ... that you're not asking more questions than that! [;)] If you are seeking to become a slave, that's a very serious commitment. You should be asking a lot of questions about who they are, what their interests are, what your life with them would be like, examples of both your dailly routine and examples of play, what their experience level is and in what areas they have experience, do they have any references you can check, general questions about what they do for a living, what they do for fun, how will you fit into their life (there's more to it than just being a slave, do they plan to hide you in the basement, have pretend to be a live in maid if someone visits, or are they an older couple who will pass you off as their daughter?) as well as discussions about the level of control, how they will manage you, etc. And it is perfectly reasonable for you to ask such questions. Now they seem reluctant to offer information which is a caution to my mind all by itself, but consider it from this perspective. They want a slave, which is fine, but should they not be making more of an effort to communicated what kind of slave they want? Its in their best interest to be informative about what they are looking for, what their requirements and preferences are, what their areas of interests are, and what they are offering as well. If they have given this serious thought they should be able to answer most of that without much thought or debate when asked... if they can't do that you have to wonder how seriously they have taken things. After all, have they made plans for how they will care for you, what happens is things don't work out, where will you live and under what conditions, etc. These are all very important points that should be considered, explored and resolved to your mutual satisfaction before any relationship is entered into. If they are making you pull eye teeth to get even basic information, you can only wonder what it will be like later. My advice, do yourself a favor an move on to someone who is at least more articulate about what they are looking for and what they offer. There's nothing wrong with a submissive or slave having some realistic standards.

MstrBK -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/13/2005 11:49:52 PM)
Not At All...Do they seem hesitant in answering your E-Mails/IMs?? Do you feel that you could/can serve them Completely and Comfortably?? Sir William

Kinkypupper -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/22/2005 9:33:15 PM)
An empty profile is NOT a good reference.. Ask THEM for third party references before going any further

betaamina -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/23/2005 8:22:00 AM)
....the ultimate thing to keep in mind is that this is your life, literally, that you are considering making a gift of. choose wisely little one, for it may be the last choice you are allowed in life.... amina

Oumae -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/23/2005 10:54:48 AM)
If it doesn't feel right then leave it. While I dont feel having little in a profile is necessarily bad... I myself have little in mine as I prefer to talk to people and learn about them that way rather than be a list... I do think communication is important so if it is not there before embarking on a relationship how can a relationship start let alone grow. Oumae

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/23/2005 5:05:06 PM)
It sounds like you are doing all the work. I used to find Myself in that position when I was trying to answer every email, and most said, "Hi...can I be your slave?" Getting little response along with a blank profile does not bode well, IMO. I don't mind the brief profiles, or the lack of a photo, as long as the person sends a reasonable letter of introduction which can make up for the lack of information. When I continue to get very brief emails, and it seems like it is pulling teeth to get anywhere, I stop. Actually, now, I just don't even start. That makes Me one of rude people who does not answer every email! W

SenorX -> RE: Are these questions unreasonable? (5/23/2005 6:16:00 PM)
My bride and I have run across some 'subs' in the same manner, whereby trying to have a conversation with them was like having to pull teeth just to get more than some monosyllabic utterance to be expelled by their computers's keyboards. When it seems like I have to work extremely hard to engage someone in some plain, simple conversation, I cease My attempts therein and begin to seek elsewhere. X

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