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unsung -> Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 5:06:55 PM)
Received this as part of a response to an email, and I am curious to what others feel are the 'red flags' in this response. This is for one a response from a 'dom' of greater than 5 years experience. I look forward to your interpretations. I did not approve on anything from 'his' initial contact, only stating I was surprised he/? contacted me considering lack of info on profile, and that I actually was not looking. yes you are right I knew you would not start contact so as I am looking for mature people who know themselves I took the chance - glad you approved - I understand your position but suspect that BDSM fills a void otherwise why hang on the fringes that long - for me BDSM is a part of my life but not the whole of My life - so I understand your comments as I do know that the process can be not only mind numbing but kill the needs and then the pleasure and joy - seen it happen too many times. - as for not seeing Me around I have used the accounts of My submissives to access (blanked out) - the intensity of this type of relationshiphas always limited Me to one person at a time - over the last 5 years I have explored with only 2 - one for 2 years who moved away and the second who decided that she had reached the end of her needs and stopped growing and exploring and that is a sure killer in any relationship - so I hope to find someone else - hence the name - I started out as a submissive some time ago and gradually realized the I am a Domme with special talents.

Celeste43 -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 5:48:23 PM)
Well, says that the writer is a domme but the writing seems somehow more as if it should be from a man. As far as the totality of it, I think it's a way to suck you into responding despite you saying you aren't looking. After all, you wouldn't respond if you didn't have some interest is probably what he's thinking. Personally a first email telling me all about his exes is a bit much especially when he subtly puts one down. And I'm curious if 'stopped growing' means she wouldn't let her limits be broken. But I'm a cynic.

mstrjx -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 5:51:29 PM)
Personally, the nature of the run-on sentence/paragraph is enough to kill any desires I might have had. Reading it that way makes it very difficult to understand. Doesn't anyone know that utilizing punctuation and 'space' makes for an interesting read? Jeff

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 6:23:13 PM)
Other than the really bad grammar and rambling with no point, there's nothing I find flag worthy here other than continuing to try and get your attention after you said you weren't interested.

earthycouple -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 6:53:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: unsung Received this as part of a response to an email, and I am curious to what others feel are the 'red flags' in this response. This is for one a response from a 'dom' of greater than 5 years experience. I look forward to your interpretations. I did not approve on anything from 'his' initial contact, only stating I was surprised he/? contacted me considering lack of info on profile, and that I actually was not looking. yes you are right I knew you would not start contact so as I am looking for mature people who know themselves I took the chance - glad you approved - I understand your position but suspect that BDSM fills a void otherwise why hang on the fringes that long - for me BDSM is a part of my life but not the whole of My life - so I understand your comments as I do know that the process can be not only mind numbing but kill the needs and then the pleasure and joy - seen it happen too many times. - as for not seeing Me around I have used the accounts of My submissives to access (blanked out) - the intensity of this type of relationshiphas always limited Me to one person at a time - over the last 5 years I have explored with only 2 - one for 2 years who moved away and the second who decided that she had reached the end of her needs and stopped growing and exploring and that is a sure killer in any relationship - so I hope to find someone else - hence the name - I started out as a submissive some time ago and gradually realized the I am a Domme with special talents. My first flag is YOU don't have a profile....

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 7:07:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: unsung Received this as part of a response to an email, and I am curious to what others feel are the 'red flags' in this response. This is for one a response from a 'dom' of greater than 5 years experience. I look forward to your interpretations. I did not approve on anything from 'his' initial contact, only stating I was surprised he/? contacted me considering lack of info on profile, and that I actually was not looking. yes you are right I knew you would not start contact so as I am looking for mature people who know themselves I took the chance - glad you approved - I understand your position but suspect that BDSM fills a void otherwise why hang on the fringes that long - for me BDSM is a part of my life but not the whole of My life - so I understand your comments as I do know that the process can be not only mind numbing but kill the needs and then the pleasure and joy - seen it happen too many times. - as for not seeing Me around I have used the accounts of My submissives to access (blanked out) - the intensity of this type of relationshiphas always limited Me to one person at a time - over the last 5 years I have explored with only 2 - one for 2 years who moved away and the second who decided that she had reached the end of her needs and stopped growing and exploring and that is a sure killer in any relationship - so I hope to find someone else - hence the name - I started out as a submissive some time ago and gradually realized the I am a Domme with special talents. potential concerns highlighted. Not necessarily red flags, but areas of concern shall we say that need exploring futher with her. Her answers will either reassure you, or confirm the red flag. A significant deficit in her special talent that i do consider a red flag, is the deflecting of a failed relationship's responsibility at the subs feet. It takes two to 'stop growing and exploring' not one! little1

slaverosebeauty -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 8:22:41 PM)
That SCREAMS troll to me. I can't read something that is that illwritten; no puncuation, no breaks. We ALL keep growing and learning, when we top we die. We can grow apart or develope different needs/wants/desires, thats normal, but we don't stop. Also, from what the OP said, that was from a MAN, yet it says "Domme with specail talents," is this person confused?! Nahhh just a troll.

pinksugarsub -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/22/2007 11:08:02 PM)
i couldn't make heads or tails of the email. Consequently i'd treat the whole thing as a red flag, since i want a Dom who can carry on a conversation or write s'thing.

Squeakers -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 4:17:15 AM)
I'd delete it.

subsfaith -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 5:07:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: unsung yes you are right I knew you would not start contact so as I am looking for mature people who know themselves I took the chance - glad you approved - I understand your position but suspect that BDSM fills a void otherwise why hang on the fringes that long - for me BDSM is a part of my life but not the whole of My life - so I understand your comments as I do know that the process can be not only mind numbing but kill the needs and then the pleasure and joy - seen it happen too many times. - as for not seeing Me around I have used the accounts of My submissives to access (blanked out) - the intensity of this type of relationshiphas always limited Me to one person at a time - over the last 5 years I have explored with only 2 - one for 2 years who moved away and the second who decided that she had reached the end of her needs and stopped growing and exploring and that is a sure killer in any relationship - so I hope to find someone else - hence the name - I started out as a submissive some time ago and gradually realized the I am a Domme with special talents. The first three assumptive comments would have had me running for the hills. The writting style is terrible and makes it difficult to comprehend. The process? What is that referring to? Why not have his/her own accounts, I smell a fishy troll. 2 dodgy reasons for the last two relationships ending Started as a submissive, combined with not a 24/7 comment in the beginning, bigger fishy smell.... "Domme with special talents"... is special another word for retarded in this instance? :: smiles ::

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 5:14:57 AM)
Until the last line, I wouls hate thought it was written by a man as well. The major flag fr me would be that they obviously paid no attention to the email you sent them after the initial contact. Run on and bad grammar aside, sometimes people just cannot compose email. However, the fact that the entire contact is not only unsolicited (since it is a reply, not a first contact) and has nothing whatsoever to do with what you sent back, Id worry. Anyone who toots their own horn in an unwanted email just to make sure someone else reads it flags for me. They are more concerned with telling their story than paying attention to the reader, which means to me they are lacking in the communications area. And as the OPs mailer said "that is a sure killer in any relaitonship". DV

SimplyMichael -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 6:48:07 AM)
Who would send an email to a blank profile? I bet it is a cut and paste deal he floods out hoping for idiots to respond and he got lucky. quote: And I'm curious if 'stopped growing' means she wouldn't let her limits be broken. But I'm a cynic. Uh, me too!

Celeste43 -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 7:11:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple My first flag is YOU don't have a profile.... Maybe you missed the part where she said she is NOT looking. A lot of women who aren't looking don't post pictures or fill out profiles in an attempt to not get unwanted email.

littleone35 -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 8:25:33 AM)
i would just delete and ignore. It also sounds like a man to me. Matt's littleone

mnottertail -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 8:27:47 AM)
I think the reply you are looking for is Georgie Jessel. Glad to lend a hand. Ron

OsideGirl -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 9:15:20 AM)
My profile says that I'm only here for the forums and I still get men emailing telling me their life stories, sharing bad short stories, telling me what they'd do to me and sending me pictures of their penises. I will add that this is still better than actually having "Collared" in your profile, as that generates far more email which usually starts with "I'm better than he is". So, I get why the OP has nothing in the profile. Beyond that, I really dislike when strangers try to tell me what I think and feel. Which is what the opening lines feel like to me. Next, takes no responsibility for previous relationships. And finally, the speach pattern does read like a male.

unsung -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 4:03:30 PM)
Thanks everyone for the input, and from what I feel is that this is a fake profile that approached me. It is quirky that a man would go on about their past and experience and then turn into a 'Domme with special talents'. Perhaps a slip of the fingers but I would halfhazard a question it is someone playing a bit of game out there. The negatives of his/her other relationships definately did not play in favour of any reception from me. Nuisances of the internet certainly make it a challenge shifting through the bull just to find geniune people. Oh well, you all called it pretty close if not the same way I felt the words came across. Thanks again for the input.

justheather -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 6:53:03 PM)
BIG RED FLAG: Posting someone else's email without their permission.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Kind of a quiz (5/23/2007 9:46:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justheather BIG RED FLAG: Posting someone else's email without their permission. In general yes, that is a breach of netiquette. However, the name of the person was not included, the intent of posting the email was not to bash, shame, or criticize, and nothing I would consider very personal was divulged. So while I wouldn't want it to become a habit, I don't consider this a big deal.

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