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subsfaith -> RE: Online Domination..what the...? (5/23/2007 10:30:33 AM)
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This is a long standing debate now, and given we all know the potential power of the internet given we use it for CollarMe (LOL), I personally don't think online relationships should be discounted as being in some way unvalid.
Perhaps the OP and other posters don't get it, that doesn't mean to say it doesn't exist and is perfectly valid. Who here does not understand the dynamics of space travel, or quantum physics....? Me for one, but I don't discount it as myth or deride it any way.
With the advancement of communication techniques it is now possible to have a vey valid relationship, of any type, over continents that can appear just like real time......
In 1998 I advertised on a penpal network for email friends, a man in India responded, and for the ensuing year we avidly emailed to and fro, then we ventured on to cam and voice chats. Most Saturday mornings we would meet, online for a chat, sometimes our schedules allowed a several hours chat, sometimes it would be a mere half an hour. During the longer chats, we would invariably need breaks from the desk, at which point maybe one of my children would sit down and chatter. On several occasions my mother sat down and monopolised him for a few hours. He has watched my children grow from children into the young adults that they are today. Imagine how pleased we were all when he came to the UK to visit us. A long lost friend we had shared coffee with many times, meeting for the first time...... the scene at the beginning of the film, Love Actual.... picture perfect! He has now travelled to the UK several time, for buisness and pleasure and never fails to spend some time with us, and he rwill remain one of our family's dear friends. Admittedly it was not a D/s relationship, just a platonic relationship, however, it does go to show just how deep, caring and long lasting relationships are possible.
The OP speaks of trust and service issues. Does this mean that for a dominant to trust his submissive he must be will her all day and night? No, of course not. Over time a deep trust can be built in many different ways. Tasks can be set and checked. A written task? A research effort to aid the dominant in his work or pleasure perhaps, which could be termed as service I believe. Speaking of service, how many submissives are set tasks to do during the day, be it research or a written paper? This, to me, qualifies as service that my Lord really doesn't need to be present for. For me it can boil down to something as routine as bathing, when my Lord is away on one of his frequent business trips, I bathe as I would if he were here, considering it more of a diservice to him if I do not take care of myself. If my Master cannot trust me to tell the truth and honour him at all times, then surely he is no Master of mine.
Going back to the OP once more, she asks are people afraid of human relationships? I have met several people online who are afraid to commit, choosing married online doms who they meet infrequently to fulfill the punishment book. Of course some people shy away from intimate physical relationships for a variety of reasons, and if you look closely at your single friends you will probably be abled to spot a few for yourself. Sadly that is just the part of the world today. It is no longer frowned upon to be a singleton living alone and happy with that status. There are many men and women once bitten by marriage gone sour remain alone, or turn to serial monogamy, fearing the final act of commitment etc.
Ther are lots of things I don't get, like being a dom/me. I am a sub, am I supposed to 'get' it? Does it really matter that I don't 'get' it? If I could connect with it, maybe I would become a switch? Maybe I would become vanilla LOL. I know one thing for sure, if I show it derision through my ignorance it would be wrong!
Faith
:: smiles ::
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