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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 7:48:23 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I did have a training collar i did not get my full collar until 5 months later and now the training collar is retired.  Right now all i have is my play collar Master still has not found one he wants for my everyday collar.  I don't mind the collare around my heart is string then anythihg he can put around my neck.

Most collars are very pretty.

The collar it us it a sign or our commitment to each other

If i missplaced my collar i would feel really bad.  If i lost it in haver\n it taken away i would be devasated because it would mean i woulld not be with Master anymore.

Matt's littleone

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 7:54:48 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		I used to view collaring as similar to marriage but with no divorce.
I am changing.
The collar is a symbol of the relationship it means whatever it means to two people.
Just like everything else that they do together.
Lots of people come into the lifestyle for a set of rules that they do not get from vanilla life.
They do not exist.
You are as alone here as you are in vanilla life.
But with all our nastiness sometimes we are in general more supportive and caring.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 7:55:38 AM   
sleazybutterfly


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Status: offline 		What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)   I have my formal collar, and one for play.  My first one is very delicate and I didn't want something to happen to it.  I know there are other types, but I haven't seen the need for them...to each their own though.

What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
Same as above, it's up to the person..if it floats their boat, I am okay with it.

What is the collar to you? It's an outward symbol of the devotion and relationship that Master and I have.  I do consider it a huge commitment and for us it is something like the feeling of being married (bdsm style).

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it?  I didn't "work" for it, I didn't receive it right away.  It was given when we decided it was right and the commitment was there.  I am not one for a velcro collar, I have seen too much of that.

How would it feel if you lost your collar? It depends on why it's lost.  I don't go and do stupid stuff, and I don't disobey or tarnish the commitment we have.  I can't see a reason I would lose it, but if I did..I am sure how I felt would have more to do with why it was lost, or given back.


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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 12:26:52 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: Kitte9
Lucky, can you be a bit more specific?

*ducks and runs away*


ROFL that was very good. :)

One thing I will say is that a lot of people TALK about a collar being a symbol of commitment, or something earned and thus conveyed on a person like a title of knighthood or something- but then they get their collar as a present, like for their birthday or anniversary or something.  That just seems to fuzz up exactly what's going on and why for me. 


And not to mention tacky. "I love you and want to be with you forever and btw here is your birthday/anniversary/ Christmas/Hannakuh/ Memorial Day collar. Good luck."

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 12:41:34 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		I have only had one offical collar. It was given to me by my ex, a man I thought I belonged to and we had plans to marry.

I do regard a collar as an engagement ring/wedding ring of sorts. Just as I would not like Valyraen to buy me a diamond ring that was not an engagement ring, I would not like for him to buy me a collar until he gives me the one that symbolizes his possession of me. Perhaps that does not make sense to others but it is the  way I feel.

I do, on the other hand, have a collection of play collars. I bought them and I do wear them. Sometimes I feel more secure in unpleasent situations when I am wearing one. I don't really know why. Sometimes I just like the look of it with an outfit. And sometimes I wear it because we are going to an event where I just can wear it without getting funny looks.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 12:44:24 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kitte9
Lucky, can you be a bit more specific?

*ducks and runs away*


ROFL that was very good. :)

One thing I will say is that a lot of people TALK about a collar being a symbol of commitment, or something earned and thus conveyed on a person like a title of knighthood or something- but then they get their collar as a present, like for their birthday or anniversary or something.  That just seems to fuzz up exactly what's going on and why for me. 


That doesn't really confuse me. I guess because where I came from, some vanilla folks proposed or gave their intended the ring on a birthday, anniversary, or other special occasion. It wouldn't seem out of the ordinary to me.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 12:55:28 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Hope you don't mind a Domme posting. I give ONE collar and thats after spending at least 2 years together IRL. I have only collared two subs in my life and this second one I want to keep, the previous one I took the collar from because he lied and cheated. I do not give collars of protection, consideration or anything of that sort, when I collar someone they are mine. I know different strokes for different folks but this is just what works for me.

~Lashra


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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 2:51:34 PM   
Wildfleurs


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ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

 What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)  
 

None.  I do have marks of ownership that I earned over time (outer labia rings and a brand).

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What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
 

I think they are silly.  I am not a huge fan of collars, but I think if someone is going to be collared that they are collared – no modifiers in front of it (no training, mentoring, protection, house sitting collars).

quote:


What is the collar to you?
 

I believe that a collar is a sign of ownership that is earned over years.  I also think that as a sign of ownership it belongs to the dominant and cannot be removed except for dramatic emergencies.  

However, for the most part it seems to be used as a sign that the couple is going steady.

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Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 
 

For the piercing and brand I worked for it and begged for it.

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How would it feel if you lost your collar?
 

It’s a bit hard for him to remove the brand – I guess he could try to take out a hunk of skin lol.  The piercing, if he took out the rings it would definitely feel like a piece of me was missing (literally and emotionally).  

C~

< Message edited by Wildfleurs -- 5/24/2007 2:52:11 PM >

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 3:18:28 PM   
JeniferJuniper


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Status: offline 		Whilst I believe some people have collars as a symbol of their commitment, I believe it is more appropriate as a sign/symbol of the slavery itself.  The slave has worked hard, served well and pleased the Master/Mistress - and has therefore earnt the title of slave and the right to wear the collar.  When someone slaps a collar on a submissive after just a few weeks (days even!) it is more to show ownership.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 3:29:50 PM   
earthycouple


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ORIGINAL: JeniferJuniper

Whilst I believe some people have collars as a symbol of their commitment, I believe it is more appropriate as a sign/symbol of the slavery itself.  The slave has worked hard, served well and pleased the Master/Mistress - and has therefore earnt the title of slave and the right to wear the collar.  When someone slaps a collar on a submissive after just a few weeks (days even!) it is more to show ownership.


LMAO so collars on subs are always "play"?   A sub doesn't earn the right to wear a collar if the dominant believes he has?  And because I collared my slave after only a few weeks I "slapped" it on without consideration and thought just because I wanted the world to see MY ownership of said slave?  And because my slave and I have only been together a few months there is no way he could have earned said collar yet?

Talk about absolutes




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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 5:39:41 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		i have the three collars my late LordFallcon bought for me.  the last one...was bought as a holiday gift, he insisted i buy it the first week of december, and wear it immediately...which is good, he had a chance to enjoy it with me.

i have a silver bracelet Sir bought for me before he officially collared me, i have a leather anklet he bought for me but he hasnt formally collared me yet.  he will when he is ready...although i already know i belong to him, and am content with that.

kitten, who is is content

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/24/2007 6:28:51 PM   
Celeste43


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From: NYS
Status: offline 		I'm not really sure of what training collars, collars of protection, consideration etc are. All I know is that it is for us a declaration of exclusivity and emotional bonding.

He says he knew from the first meet that I was the right one for him. He offered me a collar a month later. At that point we were ldr and I didn't understand how this would work, bear in mind this was my first ldr relationship as well as my first d/s one. We talked it over for about a week or two and once I felt comfortable that was it. He first just gave me a play collar and some months later a silver necklace with a pendant to wear everyday. For a while I just kept the necklace on even during play but then the chain broke so after replacing the chain, we reverted to the leather one for play.

The only problem that's come up besides breaking the chain is that having the leather collared buckled in back and the ball gag buckled in back is that one my hair gets caught in all those things plus in the blindfold and he can find it difficult in a moment of passion to figure out which is the ballgag buckle versus the collar buckle. And of course I've been known to start laughing when he gets the wrong one unbuckled.

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/25/2007 12:02:47 PM   
allyC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Shylahgirl

What different types of collars have you received? (i.e: Formal collar, session/play collar, collar of consideration, collar of protection, the "online"collar)  
 I don't really know what "type" of collar the one I wear is.  It is just a collar.  The first collar my owner placed on my neck was wide, black leather and had D-rings, etc.  It was not appropriate in his opinion for me to wear just anywhere so he purchased thinner, leather collar for a short time.  Not long after he purchased a black, metal, "eternity" style collar (or Turian) that I wore at all times until after many years it finally broke a hinge. Now I wear a steel collar that has been plated with gold (He doesn't like silver tones) and it is much like the last one... circular and hinged. I've never had an online collar or a collar of consideration or protection or anything like that.  I begged my master to own me and he collared me.
quote:

What do you think of the diffrent types of collars?
I don't know if I really understand a collar of consideration all that much but to each his/her own.  The collar of protection has always confused me because I don't understand what unowned subs & slaves need protection from.  If they are adults they should be able to pretty much take care of themselves.  I do understand session or play collars because there are a variety of types of collars that can suit different purposes during session time (i.e. a posture collar, a multi-ringed collar etc.)
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What is the collar to you?
 It is merely a symbol of something much deeper.  To me it only holds the meaning that it is given.  In our case, it symbolizes the path that I am on at the feet of my owner.  It symbolizes both his mastery and authority as well as my surrender and ongoing enslavement. 

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Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it? 

I didn't "work for it" per se, however, it was not begged for/given until I felt absolutely sure.  I genuinely believe that the relationship between my owner and me is one that happened as a result of who we are as people.  Once we fully realized this - once he "made me his" so to speak, then I begged him to claim me as his with that symbol.
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How would it feel if you lost your collar?


If I lost my collar it would bum me out.  It would have to be replaced which would take time and cost my owner money.  That would really be poopy.  :)    Now on the other hand, if I lost his ownership of me - if he released me or found me displeasing enough to actually remove the collar (and by removing it, took away what it symbolized as well) then I would be wholly and absolutely lost. The collar is a beautiful symbol.  I love to feel it, to wear it, and to see it on my neck but it is just a piece of metal.  That which it symbolizes is the most important to me.  To lose that would be devistating. Well wishes, Cav's ally

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RE: You and your Master/Mistresses collar - 5/26/2007 2:13:43 AM   
lilprincess25


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Status: offline 		What  different types of collars have you received?

hmm.  well i did have an online collar for a very short time, totally didn't work out right.  

2 very real leather collars

What do you think of the diffrent  types of collars?

online are silly.  

What  is the collar to you?

it symbolizes that you are in the lifestyle and that it is a phsycial reminder of your commitment to your Dom/me

Did you recive a collar right away or did you work for it?

this is a long answer

my current Dom believe it or not gave me my very first real collar not as my Dom but just as a birthday present, somthing He doesn't do on a regular basis cause believe me i have seen Him make a collar its alot of work.  it is a hand made collar with black leather backing, blue/purple leather center, silver D-rings and loops, and silver snapps and a locking buckle.  it wasn't till i went down to visit Him and His wife that it became an official collar, mind you i do have problems with trusting men.  They and i had been talking for months on the phone before i went to see Them so i did know Them.  about a month after i moved in They actually got tags to hang off the collar, one stating 'to amy our loving subbie,' the other refering to my puppy play 'my name is wiggles if found call 800-lost-sub.'

about 3 months after i accepted Their collar my Dom made me a new one.  this one is all purple with the same D-rings and loops and snapps as the orignial but also with blue rinestones on it.

my original collar stayed with Him when i had to move back home for personal reasons.  my second collar is with me.


How would it feel if you lost  your collar?

*puts hands over ears*  lalalala i won't ever loose it lalalala

seriously i have miss placed it and gone nuts looking for it.  it now stays in a box next to my computer desk.  my mother doesn't like the collar so i don't wear it but keep it in the one place i am spending the most of my time, i have even put it on my pooh bear that i sleep with so that i can touch it when i need that kinda comfort, my throats grown to big for it so i fear strangling myself.

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