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tigerlily80 -> is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 12:02:59 AM)

hello, i am seeking a male dominant to chat with.  i am happily married with one daughter, so i am not looking for any sexual/romantic relationship.   i am not looking for cybersex or anything of the sorts.  just a strong male to befriend.  i am sorry if this post is inappropriate in anyway, but i don't know where to look.

thank you all for your time. 



OedipusRexIt -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 12:17:16 AM)

I have a number of good, nonsexual friends here.  It is certainly possible.

So too, are predators, but normal caution is all you need, especially if you're certain not to meet.

Good luck, be careful.



aldompdx -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 1:38:22 AM)

Yes it is very possible. Trust is more often misplaced than it is breached. Gain confidenct through experience gained over time. Patience is a vurtue. A true friend will respect virtuous conduct.



earthycouple -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 6:11:49 AM)

you can certainally find a friend if you are discerning and patient and don't listen to every wanker who pops up wanting to be your friend.

Take time go slow and listen to your gut.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 6:24:45 AM)

Certainly making friends is possible but beware of internet wolves. [:)]



MstrssPassion -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 6:25:10 AM)

yes... it is possible

but it won't be easy

Would you prefer this to remain online or are you seeking someone to meet with in real time.

One of my close friends has befriended many woman who were married & were seeking male doms to interact with. His only rule was that the husband was aware of this.

So it is possible.. just don't get frustrated by the number of men that are not jumping over each other to line up to be your "friend". Plus, keep in mind that they may just be that wolf in sheep's clothing.



glidewynd -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 6:42:08 AM)

It's VERY possible to find and maintain friendships here that are strictly platonic.  I have many... you just have to set your standards in the beginning of what acceptable conduct/conversation between friends means to you, and stick to your guns.  Don't get me wrong... you'll still get the occasional cyber-troll... there's always going to be someone out there that sees the word "friends" and interprets that as "friends with benefits".  Be upfront with people when you have that first contact, and don't be afraid to cut strings on anyone who crosses your line.  Luckily collarme has a wonderful "block user" feature for anyone who starts causing you too much trouble. 

It may be helpful to edit a portion of your post here, and put it in your profile:  "hello, i am seeking a male dominant to chat with.  i am happily married, so i am not looking for any sexual/romantic relationship.   i am not looking for cybersex or anything of the sorts.  just a strong male to befriend. "
 
You'll probably have to adjust your profile over time to fit your needs, based on the kind of responses you get... I know I have.  If you like, feel free to e-mail me on the other side, and I can tell you more about some of my experiences with finding friendships here.

Good Luck!



Donnalee -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 6:59:13 AM)

Sure it is...just be VERY upfront about it.  I've met some of the nicest people on this site and enjoy the friendships and connections I've made.   But I also have to screen through many using common sense and good boundaries.  If it starts to get funky:  address it quickly.  Enjoy!



Celeste43 -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 7:05:53 AM)

Glidewynd, I just want to say that the kitty is great. I've just spent the last few minutes copying him!

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OP, I'm curious as to why you only want a male dom for a friend. Are you happily married except for lack of D/s, are you looking for cyber only? Because if so, your husband may believe that this is cheating. If he wouldn't be happy knowing about your friend, then you shouldn't be doing it.

Now if you want to ask advice, you might also find it from a female either domme or sub. And if it's just technique questions, subs can know just as much about this. But basically, will your husband feel betrayed if he discovers you have made a friend of another man whom you did not feel you could safely tell him about?





pinksugarsub -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 9:42:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tigerlily80

hello, i am seeking a male dominant to chat with.  i am happily married with one daughter, so i am not looking for any sexual/romantic relationship.   i am not looking for cybersex or anything of the sorts.  just a strong male to befriend.  i am sorry if this post is inappropriate in anyway, but i don't know where to look.

thank you all for your time. 


tigerlily, i have been blessed with great Friends, all of Whom i consider strong Doms.  (i have friends who are submissives, etc., as well.)  i met Them from this message board or from chat.  Like any friendship, there has to be an attraction there -- a period in which Y/yr just acquaintences.
 
Best wishes; i love my Dom Friends and wouldn't give Them up for anything.



proudsub -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 11:29:26 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tigerlily80

hello, i am seeking a male dominant to chat with.  i am happily married with one daughter, so i am not looking for any sexual/romantic relationship.   i am not looking for cybersex or anything of the sorts.  just a strong male to befriend. 

I can't figure out from your post if you want this dom friend to dominante you non-sexually online, or just someone to chat with about the lifestyle. Have you discussed your interests with your hubby?  When i finally did He surprised me and wanted to be my Dom.



dvart -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 3:02:04 PM)

I have plenty of women friends, in fact most of my friends are women.

These people are friends because we met and had something in common. However the only thing we initially have in common is that you are a sub. and I am a dom. But you seem to want to have a hard limit that denies the possibility of this dynamic ever coming to a reality. I can see what you might get out of this, but I don't see what is in it for me. We may have nothing else in common apart from D/s this doesn't seem like much of a basis for any kind of relationship. This is a strictly personal perspective and I hope for your sake that others feel in a more generous state of mind.

You don't seem to have considered what it is that you could offer to such a relationship.



Masque66 -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 7:02:22 PM)

So far I've only maid a few real friends on there, and one of them definitely has a sexual aspect to it.  But I don't see it as impossible or even overly difficulty.  Reading the boards alone should give you a good idea of whether you'll like someone or not.



justshelly -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 8:46:34 PM)

Anything's possible.  As long as your honest with both yourself and those who contact you.  I'm not sure what your looking for in said friendship but if it's just someone to talk to I hope that you can find it. 



tigerlily80 -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/24/2007 8:59:06 PM)

thank you to all that replied, i have made a few contacts and look forward to speaking with them.  



ennaozzie -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/25/2007 1:04:59 AM)

I have quite a few Doms i have got to know that i just chat with but we do discuss D/s and BDSM subjects also, sometimes its takes a while but there are those out there and enjoy a chat.



sweetsyn -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/25/2007 6:22:31 AM)

Recently I have had this similar question.  Slightly differant than tigerlilly80's.  I beleive  a D/s bond takes time and should start off as friends first and see if it grows into more.  On the other hand I feel pressure from many Dom friends to be "exclusive" from day one and I beleive that submission of total faithfulness is one of the greatest gifts I have to give and do not wish to give it to every Dom I meet. I have never found sex to be submission.  I have always found it pleasure.  And rather easy to give and get.  I try to be honest about this in the beginning and everyone always agrees but then there is the confusion once sex and play start (rather early on) Doms want to excercise full ownership even though a mental bond has not even began to grow.   Is my thinking faulty?  Should I buy myself a chasity belt and throw away the key till I find a Master that I wish to serve till death?  Am I just running into the wolfs in sheeps clothing?  Any thoughts or advise would be greatly appreciated.  After two divorces I really have no desire to act like I am married to someone that has not gained my full submission. 



imthatacheyouhav -> RE: is friendsip possible? (5/25/2007 6:29:28 AM)

To the OP...is this who i think it is?.....call me tonight if it is....



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