Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help

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EvaLass -> Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 6:40:28 AM)
Does anyone know where I can find a description of how to get a condom on your Dom/Master with the most grace and efficiency? For those of you who are fluid bonded, I envy you. Many if not most men really dislike condoms. Someone informed me that the logistics can be daunting enough to quench the desire to have sex. Typical logistics include: finding the condom in a drawer, opening the package, extracting the condom, making sure that you place it on with the correct side positioned so that you can roll it down. One issue is that the condom will dry out if you open the package too early. Of course, that is for condoms that are lubricated, right? I remember reading something that a prostitute wrote about placing condoms on men, and she had the drill down very precisely. This is not a wanking topic. I am very serious about obtaining helpful hints. HELP!!!

mistoferin -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 6:48:04 AM)
http://www.ripnroll.com/proper.htm http://www.keepcondom.com/articles/putting-on-condom/learning-properway-condom.htm

shyinini -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 7:03:03 AM)
I like Erin's 2ndlink...there are videos there too [:D] In all seriousness...make it fun and erotic.... it's not that big of a deal !! Life is too short to take the fun out of placing a condom on over the head of a hard cock.... if it busts the moment up...LAUGH ! If he cant handle it...dress and get the hell out !! You are the ass fucking queem IMHO....have him do it before he fucks your ass...!! [:D]

AquaticSub -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 7:34:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shyinini I like Erin's 2ndlink...there are videos there too [:D] In all seriousness...make it fun and erotic.... it's not that big of a deal !! Life is too short to take the fun out of placing a condom on over the head of a hard cock.... if it busts the moment up...LAUGH ! If he cant handle it...dress and get the hell out !! You are the ass fucking queem IMHO....have him do it before he fucks your ass...!! [:D] Ditto! By the way, does it make me really weird that I was the one jockeying for STD testing because I hate the bloody things?

Elorin -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 8:59:14 AM)
Keep condoms where you are likely to fuck. If you get a hotel room, put them on the bedside table as soon as you get in. I've heard of those who put a condom on with their mouth, making it that much more fun/stimulating for the partner. Checking which way to roll the condom has never been that much of an issue for me. Learning to open a condom package w/ my teeth (w/OUT damaging the condom) while still stroking a cock with the other hand was a bit trickier. Honestly, most guys I've known who were willing to wear condoms were also willing to keep it up while I opened a condom and got it ready to put on them. ~E

VeryMercurial -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 9:42:31 AM)
Good advice Elorin, this subject can't be addressed enough, IMO.

EvaLass -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 4:39:52 PM)
Some people develop mental blocks about certain issues. II don't mind placing the condom on the man's penis. I am sure that in my vanilla life, long ago, I was good at this task. Somebody reminded me that you have to maintain contact and keep the person stimulated. That can be fun, as some of you observe. With people who may be dating others at the same time, no condoms, no sex, no matter how much they may float the boat. Thanks for the advice and links.

EvaLass -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/26/2007 4:44:39 PM)
quote: Ditto! By the way, does it make me really weird that I was the one jockeying for STD testing because I hate the bloody things? No, I would lobby harder for the laboratory testing if I were in a monogamous where we agreed to be exclusive and/or fluid bonded. I myself have had an extensive number of tests for every disease imaginable and wish EVERY partner would or could get tested. However, since it is not a realistic expectation (unless somebody can give me a great rationale to pass on to potential partners) it pays to be grounded in reality and plan ahead.

chellekitty -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 2:17:45 PM)
I usually roll the condom on with my mouth...once you get it in position, right side up, its pretty easy, just go down the guy with your lips...if you can't deep throat, roll it the rest of the way with your hands while sucking the head...warning tho...condom lube tastes horrible and the flavored ones shouldn't be used for vaginal sex so...i usually keep something to drink by the bed or whatever..

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 2:36:14 PM)
HUMMM interesting,what puzzles me is this....What man goes soft while a woman rip a condom package open smiles...bounty

EvaLass -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 6:17:38 PM)
At the risk of topping from the bottom, one could suggest quite a number of diversions and stimulating activities that a man (Dom) could do while the submissive is opening the package. Easily handled by writing a paragraph or two in the Dom's journal. Not going to list them here. Don't want to be accused of writing erotica on this forum.

shyinini -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 7:49:09 PM)
dang why take it all so friggin serious... use the thangs...have fun and forget all the intellectualizing of wearing or applying a condom.... "penis" sounds lame [:D] consider a domdick turning lame when you beg... "Sir, please might i now apply a condom to your penis so we dont exchange bodily fluids?" LOLOL south...wimp.... no ed involved here...just so friggin serious it melts the control and the "penis" Sir's body sharing fluids beatch

sensualdom6996 -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 8:34:03 PM)
Laughter ruins the moment for me (and a lot of men I know...), nothing turns me limp like a mis-timed laugh. I don't mind the condom, especially because by time I'm ready to screw I have already watched and made my slave cum several times, so it's not like we are trying to do a trick with the condom during the "heat of desire". I put it on just before I get ready to tie her spread eagle and screw which is always close to the end of the session for us. I guess sometimes I tie her up and then there is a brief time of oral and then I put it on... BTW... I love to laugh and have fun but not during a hot and heavy sexual session... and right before intercorse is the worst time for my slave to laugh. Maybe it is my insecurity kicking in! lol... She needs to be moaning and begging me to give it to her just before we screw. EThan [Mod Note: pasted code removed]

MstrssScarlet -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 8:51:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty I usually roll the condom on with my mouth...once you get it in position, right side up, its pretty easy, just go down the guy with your lips...if you can't deep throat, roll it the rest of the way with your hands while sucking the head...warning tho...condom lube tastes horrible and the flavored ones shouldn't be used for vaginal sex so...i usually keep something to drink by the bed or whatever.. That actually sounds erotic. I almost forgot about the subject at hand. I don't see how a guy could possibly go limp while a condom is being placed in this manner. There are some flavored lubes out there that are ok for vaginal sex. (You could even make your own tasty 'concocktion') Perhaps if you applied one over the condom after you got it on and then gave it a few licks to help get the taste out of your mouth? Mistress Scarlet

orphaned -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/27/2007 9:01:17 PM)
I have honestly never had a man go soft while I was getting the condom ready ... I guess I shouldn't comment much though because frankly this entire thread seems a bit immature. We're all adults. Protecting ourselves from STDs is such a non-taboo subject compared to 90% of the stuff we do together ... Its like, just put the darn thing on and move on ... If he can't seem to keep himself hard while you're doing it or if he complains that it makes him lose interest, maybe he needs to work on his own technique or something ... NOTHING is unsexier than catching someone's STD or sharing one with your unsuspecting lover. PS Laughter is sexy ... I, for one, always giggle after a really good orgasm. If you don't get the giggle, I probably faked it.

softness -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/28/2007 2:19:02 PM)
my instinct when confronted with someone who complains about wearing a condom is to ask this .... which kills the moment more ...? a) the logistics of putting on a condom b) not being anywhwere near a moment because you have contracted a nice scratchy itching puss laden STI along the line and your family jewels feel like they are about to drop off hmmmmmmm.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/28/2007 2:25:24 PM)
The Dom friends I have had have always told their girls how they liked to have it placed on. When I actually have a partner, they know no condom means no sex. But as the dominant one, Idont have to worry as much. What I remember from one guy I knew, he would have his girl beg to be allowed to place it on him. With descriotive language as t what she wanted to do, and why. The begging was enough of a distraction for the minute or so it takes that he never had a problem. He made her demonstrate her "technique" for us... I'll admit I was impressed. DV

mythi -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/28/2007 2:40:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty I usually roll the condom on with my mouth...once you get it in position, right side up, its pretty easy, just go down the guy with your lips...if you can't deep throat, roll it the rest of the way with your hands while sucking the head...warning tho...condom lube tastes horrible and the flavored ones shouldn't be used for vaginal sex so...i usually keep something to drink by the bed or whatever.. As someone sensitive to many common spermicides, I've always used non-lubricated condoms. And I have also frequently put them on with my mouth. Not that latex is the yummiest thing in the world, but it's not bad by itself either. And you can always add lube after if you want/need. As to keeping the guy hard during the 'application' I have found that it helps to break it up into stages... grab the condom and go back to giving head while you rip it open unobtrusively, stop for a moment to see which side goes up if you cant tell by 'feel', go back to giving head, when sure he's nice and hard put it on as quickly as able--with mouth can help if you're able to do it fairly smoothely. Like many things when it comes to men, enthusiasm counts. If you appear (are) gagging for it, pun intended, the guy stays into it better and longer. Make eye contact, look hungry. Be eager, like you cant get enough of him soon enough. And if you know the guy is especially 'visual', a nice wide full-on crack shot while you're reaching for that rubber wont hurt either! [:D]

eveningtwilight -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/29/2007 3:09:43 PM)
Creative Ideas: Roll it on with your mouth like the one poster said Hold it at your vaginal opening and hold it in place while he slides in Have it hidden in your hand while giving him a hand job and when he is moaning or closing his eyes do a magicians trick of the hand and slither it on. Hide the condom in something that is pussy safe (I don't think chocolate is necessarily a good disguise because that would irritate your insides, but you get the idea) I know men who do go limp in the very short amount of time (3 seconds or less) it takes to put it on. They seem to need chronic stimulation and psychological diversion to keep it up. Frustrating to say the least, but when your guy is like that you take all the advice and ideas you can get. Keep trying different things. If a psychological hang-up regarding condoms is the issue, try making light of it when NOT in a sexual atmosphere. You can plaster the house with condoms, or make him a condom-iced cake, or give him a well endowed statue with a finger condom hanging off the cock (finger condoms are found in the band-aid section of any store)...the idea is to associate new memories with his old ones so hopefully it becomes less of an issue. Depending on his personailty you might be able to cook him dinner while wearing nothing but a body condom. Some guys would find that quite comical as they watch you hop around. good luck finding what works. You may want to see if the condom is the hang-up or the momentary lack of stimulation and go from there.

PairOfDimes -> RE: Condom Use: A Serious Call for Help (5/29/2007 6:55:53 PM)
Heh--my early sexual experiences were almost exclusively with girls, so when I started having sex with boys, I was of an age at which it seemed a touch embarrassing to be fumbling. I sympathize! I got around it at first by requesting that they do it themselves, but given your preferred role, that seems a less likely route for you. Take a dildo, or a phallic vegetable if you must, and a stack of condoms, and practice. As with any other task involving fine motor skills, you will get less awkward and more efficient by simple repetition. I've always figured that if I was dealing with putting on the bloody thing, he could worry about keeping his penis interested--division of labor and all that. Applying it with your mouth could be sexy, but seems like it's the advanced version of condom-donning. Perhaps, as at least one above poster wrote, you could do a bit of dirty talk during the process. A bit of planning will help, too. Keep condoms on the bedside table (and/or convenient to other places where you have sex), arranged so that you can easily pluck one and have it pointing in the right rippable direction. One of those rectangular plastic margarine dishes might be helpful for this.

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