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How we subs deal with vanilla and potential FEMDOMMES. - 5/26/2007 6:54:30 PM

addicted2it

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I wonder how a FEMMEDOMME choses a potential submissive or slave. My submissiveness goes back to my early childhood, which is probably around the age of six. I've been searching for someone since the age of nineteen, which is when I began to explore this. PRODOMMES were the only women who were available.

My ex-wife knew about my kink, so my attempt to try to involve her was obvious. I'm positive that she loved me in her own way, but I have come to believe that she may have been a submissive like me, although she had all the attributes of a FEMMEDOMME. I cannot or should not put any label on her or anyone else.

Why did she beat the horse for kicking her and not me?

Anyway, I have had many relationships with so-called "vanillas." I can certainly find them...and I have found one lately who turns me on in a variety of ways. I love the strong woman aspect, but this may not transfer into the bedroom -- and I know it's not a "bedroom thing,".

As you know, and from a submissive's viewpoint, this scene is not all about sex, but really about the worship of the person you adore. I WILL worship her, even if she may not be a FEMMEDOME, but still I will honor her for the love that she has to give, if this relationship that may happen. I am going to massage her feet whenever I can and give her all of the love I can give to her. I will also provide verbal and physical cues, but who knows?

Why did I fall for another vanilla? There is certainly no answer for that.

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RE: How we subs deal with vanilla and potential FEMDOMMES. - 5/26/2007 7:14:34 PM

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I often find the more interesting Doms and Dommes are people who are not very strong or pushy etc in their day to day lives. But they save it all for 'the bedroom' what ever room the activity happens to be in. I am myself not a pushy, aggressive person. I'm always the one everyone says is so nice. When I was younger I was sweet. Yet, I love Domming in a different situation. I don't save it just for the bedroom. Anyway, maybe you are looking for the wrong person in the so called vanilla world.

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RE: How we subs deal with vanilla and potential FEMDOMMES. - 5/26/2007 7:35:32 PM

addicted2it

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ORIGINAL: Laura

I often find the more interesting Doms and Dommes are people who are not very strong or pushy etc in their day to day lives. But they save it all for 'the bedroom' what ever room the activity happens to be in. I am myself not a pushy, aggressive person. I'm always the one everyone says is so nice. When I was younger I was sweet. Yet, I love Domming in a different situation. I don't save it just for the bedroom. Anyway, maybe you are looking for the wrong person in the so called vanilla world.

I love the potential pushy, domineering woman, and I wish that I could find a woman who can wrap her head around the concept of being dominant to males. She is everthing that i hoped for, but I don't yet know if she is a DOMME. Maybe she is and dosent' realize it, but it's not up to me to change things. If I DO get into a vanialla relationship, I will worship her in my own way.

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