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DominaSmartass -> Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 8:59:28 PM)
Just curious: How many doms require their subs to sleep on the floor? How many of you have a separate place for the sub to sleep? And how many of you cohabitate the same bed? I'm interested in not only yes/no answers but the reasoning behind it. From the dom side I'm going to assume that you do what you prefer but from the sub side, which do you prefer if given the choice - and why?

MistressLorelei -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:13:51 PM)
My choice of where a submissive will sleep depends on the relationship I have with that person. Presently, I am not involved in a 24/7 D/s relationship. In the past, with one submissive... I loved chaining him to the floor along the floor boards while I slept in the bed above him. When we were together, he always slept on the floor. Our relationship was a rather intense, harsh one which lacked sexual/sensual contact... so having him chained to the floor felt right to me. In another relationship with a submissive, we shared a bed whenever we were together. Our relationship was very sensual and loving...and the one time I had him sleep on the floor as punishment, he cried all night keeping me awake. Chaining him to the floor would not have been appropriate with him and I had no desire to do so. I enjoyed each male differently, and in the future, it will be nice if I find a male who I will want a combination of the above scenarios.

ennaozzie -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:19:29 PM)
I have heard of that happening, and personally I do not get into it at all, to wake up sore and stiff and tired because you could not sleep and then have to go to work. It would make me feel like shit in the morning, to me it would only mean that my Dom did not care for me in that it could lead to mistakes at work and loss of a job as one thing that could or might happen. Aside from the fact that with medical problems and I would be in extreme pain, I could not do that, as in for long periods like a night, but even without that my thoughts are the same. If it was something my Dom seriously got into doing things like that to create discomfort for long periods like a whole night on the floor or even more than a hour or two I would seriously tell him he needed to find someone else. And I am not joking either. beanie

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:23:50 PM)
Angel shares my bed when he actually stays over. I have a fold out sofa for anyone who didnt. I have never had anyone sleep on the floor unless they requested to do so (one boy I kew had bad back and it was easier on him to do so thn to sleep next to someone) I always prefer to have someone next to me in the bed, i like hearing them breathe when I sleep, even if we arent touching. DV

jaunty1 -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:29:52 PM)
If I am home, melissa sleeps on the bed with me. When I am gone, she sleeps on the floor. Live well Alex

DominaSmartass -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:42:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ennaozzie I have heard of that happening, and personally I do not get into it at all, to wake up sore and stiff and tired because you could not sleep and then have to go to work. It would make me feel like shit in the morning, to me it would only mean that my Dom did not care for me in that it could lead to mistakes at work and loss of a job as one thing that could or might happen. Aside from the fact that with medical problems and I would be in extreme pain, I could not do that, as in for long periods like a night, but even without that my thoughts are the same. If it was something my Dom seriously got into doing things like that to create discomfort for long periods like a whole night on the floor or even more than a hour or two I would seriously tell him he needed to find someone else. And I am not joking either. beanie Hey, I didn't say you couldn't have an air mattress! ;) Seriously, what I was going for was more the emotional/relationship stuff not so much matters of physical comfort. If I were in a relationship with someone who was strictly a slave to me and not involved romantically, it's very possible I would not want to share a bed. Especially if that person where with me while I am with my current boyfriend/"girl". Sure, I'd let him do whatever he needed to be comfy, like an airmattress or whatnot (except maybe sometimes just for the fun of it to be extra mean) but it's more about the separation, the "knowing one's place" kind of thing I guess. Do you have any feelings on that part of it?

HutchGarahl -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:45:50 PM)
Most who start out under me, sleep on the floor unless they have a medical reason as to why they cannot. Being a slave, they have to earn the right to lay beside me. If one has a reason for not being able to sleep on the floor, there is a guest bed. After obtaining the right to lay beside me, the only time one sleeps on the floor is during punishment.

LadyDominaX -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:51:54 PM)
I'm the type of person who has a hard time sleeping with a partner at the best of times, so if I were in a full-time/relationship situation with a slave they would likely be exiled to the daybed in the other room unless I wanted the extra body heat. Sleeping on the floor isn't something I'd normally ask another person to do, even if they are a slave. Perhaps someday when I have a larger bedroom I'll have two king-size beds spliced together so there would be enough room for me, my herd of cats and a pet slave as well, and the slave could sleep far enough away to not disturb me, but still technically in the same bed. [:D]

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 9:54:20 PM)
I refuse to sleep on the floor. The floor hurts my back, I do not sleep restfully, and it is difficult for me to get up off an un elevated surface. And James likes me in the bed, He sleeps better,so that's where I am, unless he's snoreing so bad I can't sleep then I have to go to the livingroom. quote: ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass but from the sub side, which do you prefer if given the choice - and why?

amaidiamond -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:00:42 PM)
Master has me sleep in the bed next to him, He enjoys my presence and being able to reach for me. I prefer sleeping in the bed to, on a pure comfert and decent nights sleep level!

ennaozzie -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:35:10 PM)
Sorry i took sleeping on the floor as exacly that, guess there are many variances in this also. beanie

Pezzle -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:43:42 PM)
As long as I had some sort of pillowy support for my head and a blanket, i'd be mint. But to be punished by sleeping on the floor and have to get up for an 8 AM networking class? Naw, I couldn't do it, I know I couldn't. Every time I've tried to do it at a friends house or something I wake up with my joints hurting, a numb left arm, and a headache to kill a rhino. Master and I always sleep together in either his bed or mine. He's made me sleep at the -foot- of it before, but never on the floor, though it's been threatened once and well... the threat alone straightened me up. so yeah... it's... not my cup o' tea but as long as I didn't have anything constructive that HAD to be done the next day, I'd go for it as a sub.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:44:15 PM)
Currently we sleep together in my bed because of comfort and desire. However, we both maintain our own bedrooms for our own space and in case one of us gets sick or needs to be up at weird times and stuff, we can do that without interrupting the other person (or on the times when one of us has an overnight visitor of some sort). In the past I've done it, sometimes as reward and sometimes as punishment and sometimes it's just plain practical. In my college dorm room, the bed barely fit my master, it was much better for us both that I use my sleeping bag on the floor. I do also enjoy the objectification/symbol of dynamic aspect to it. But generally it makes for not as well rest, not so much cuddling...and that one night I had to sleep on the floor while my master played and fucked his two other slaves was really one of the hardest in my life. Of course, nothing beats being told by someone that your master is ABUSIVE because he made you sleep on the floor. http://www.collarchat.com/m_867983/mpage_1/key_sleep%252Cfloor/tm.htm#868301 Where do you sleep? http://www.collarchat.com/m_835359/mpage_1/key_sleep%252Cfloor/tm.htm#835487 Sleeping on the floor http://www.collarchat.com/m_594226/mpage_1/key_sleep%252Cfloor/tm.htm#594229 Sleeping on the floor??? http://www.collarchat.com/m_498860/mpage_1/key_sleep%252Cfloor/tm.htm#499691 Bedtime

littlesarbonn -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:45:57 PM)
I've been in numerous situations when sleeping over or as a live-in. These have ranged from sleeping in a cage to sleeping in the bed. When sleeping on the floor, generally it's made up almost as if it's a miniaturized bed itself but lower than her. The comfort level has often been used as a reward or punishment. There are all sorts of different variations on how this can be done, but I don't think I've ever been in an uncomfortable situation where I was incapable of sleeping (when it's been on the floor). Now, I have been in some VERY uncomfortable sleeping positions as well, but those really aren't a part of this thread.

MistressKay -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:55:55 PM)
where someone sleeps depends completely on the dynamics of the relationship and what results are trying to be achieved. For example, if one wants to make a submissive feel like a slave who is beneath a dominant, then keeping them on the floor should achieve that reaction. If one wants a submissive to feel like a loving partner in a relationship then having them beside you in the bed will achieve that reaction. The goal of the relationship and what each person seeks from that relationship will dictate how they interact and sleeping on the floor is just one more tool that can change the dynamaics of a power exchange relationship. For myself, I have had subs sleep on the floor, I have had subs sleep on the foot of my bed, but only one shared my bed as a loving intimate partner in a bdsm relationship.

needDomme -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 10:58:08 PM)
Comfort issues aside, (availability of air mattress, etc.) although i would enjoy sharing my Domme's bed, the floor would be my rightful place. It adds to the D/s dynamic and keeps me thinking clearly. I have no expectations of being treated other than as a second class citizen. need

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 11:18:11 PM)
Even if I did get a mattress or another bed Veiwing myself as presious and to be cherished, my spot as a precious and cherished baby is in our bed.

proudsub -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 11:33:57 PM)
We've shared a bed for 39 years.[:)]

justplainjava -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/26/2007 11:34:20 PM)
Greetings to sleep on the floor by my Master bed ( if i had one) would be nice, to know i am close to his side, where i can hear him breath, would be like sweet lullby to this one, all i would ask is a blanket and a pillow ( i need my head elevated so i can breath myself ) but that unless she is privilage enough is would the niceest thing a slave to ask for, in any form of the bdsm life, but i have to admit i do come from the Gorean side of life take care and be safe plain old java property and slave to no one [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m17.gif[/image]

WhiplashSmile -> RE: Sleeping on the floor (5/27/2007 12:17:12 AM)
Actually, it's funny you should post this. I was just talking about this earlier today with somebody. The majority of my relationships included emotional involvement so naturally we slept in the same bed. However, the one relationship that was TPE Master/slave relationship, she did not sleep in my bed except on rare occasions. This was not a deep emotional relationship for me. I made it clear she was not my girlfriend, nor I had any deep emotional feelings for her. She was a live in slave but not a romantic interest. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah... I was one of those cold heatless slave masters. Actually, it would have been more heartless if I had allowed her to sleep in my bed. I know some people feel it's heartless not having a slave sleep with them. It's more heartless to have 'em sleep with you, when there is no romantic love interest involved. Most of the time she slept on the couch, living room floor, or in the recliner. Reason why I did not have her sleep in my bedroom on floor was because I wanted maintain my room as my space. She was allowed to sleep anywhere in the living room she wanted. Again, I personally feel it would have been more heartless to have her sleep with me.

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