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Suleiman -> RE: Do you prefer this? (5/28/2007 6:40:49 PM)
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I have never found anonymous sex to be particularly fulfilling, but I also acknowledge that I may well be in the minority in this regard. The trouble is, those of us who are prone towards monogamous behavior tend to get married very early on and disappear from the dating scene before anyone ever even notices that we exist. I was lucky enough to stumble on to the concept of BDSM as a teenager, as something other than some wierd pornographic fantasy, and had some idea of what to strive for in my life. Even so, once I found the right person, I dropped off the face of the active scene and have been quite content for many years. I come here to socialize more than anything else, in spite of being in a non-monogamous relationship.
Asking if I prefer committed relationships over one-night stands is like the perennial question of preferring vanlla over kink. I am wired a certain way and require certain things from my lovers. I can behave contrary to my nature and experience some modicum of enjoyment, but one night stands and anonymous sex is more trouble than it's worth, in my opinion.
I honestly can't say if "Most" men prefer one way over the other. I think that my kind are not the sorts to advertise, and so an accurate accounting of our numbers is left wanting. Are we a silent majority, or a queer freakish subgroup? I have no way of knowing. I know we exist. I am not the only one within my immediate circle of friends, but I choose to associate with geeks, oddballs, misfits, and wierdos, so my friends do not mark an accurate cross-section of the male population.
Make of that what you will, I suppose.
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