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pixelslave -> RE: Has anyone ...... ? (5/31/2007 12:08:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: tornaway
Has anyone met a compatible sub on here - or elsewhere online , that traveled to where you are for a first meeting - then relocated to be with you - and ultimately , moved in with you ?
Obviously , there is much to align , and many details to work out over time . But then , nothing ventured - nothing gained . Yes ?
As I'm now considering just such an arrangement , I'm trying to see if many have had luck with it long term ( knowing full well of course , that each situation is different ) ?
Do share - please . Thanks , in advance !
As Mistress and I live several hours apart and I have unmentionables here and am not free to relocate without changing custody/visitation arrangments (something neither I nor Mistress wish to do), the ultimate plan is for her to eventually move here when things are in place for that to happen. In the mean time we deal with the distance thing and conflicts in schedules as we can. Obviously, logistics could be much more difficult a matter for us than others, but there still is a lot involved in relocating when selling houses, making repairs first, disposing of extra items, etc., even when only a few hours apart. [8|]
Were it not for my unmentionables, I'd have no reason to stay here and would be open to relocating myself; having only lived in Dallas for about 4-1/2 years with no other family here. I agree with the philosophy of "nothing ventured, nothing gained". That's the way it is with any relationship. Some work, some fail. Until you put yourself out there, you'll never know. If you hide & play it safe, you'll always be "safe", but forever alone. [&o]
As someone else mentioned, vanilla time together is also very important. Do those interests also align? Have you spent the time together to test those waters out? If not, then perhaps you might want to do that first, before you jump-in head first. Where do you see your life going? Does it match with his? Those are also things to consider and discuss. Can you also see yourself growing old together? Remember, it happens to all of us! [&:]
Do you feel the communication is there to work things out when problems arise? If not, then don't even bother. If so, then go for it, otherwise you'll always wonder! Just in case, you may want to plan for the worst by discussing what the exit strategy would be should things reach a point where either of you is unhappy and can't be resolved to both your satisfaction. To me, that's only being realistic, even if it takes away from some of the romanticism and excitement. [&:]
If things resonate in a positive manner as I think I've covered well enough above, you may want to also consider, that things don't align very often in our lives with others. Thus, I'd suggest you grab the golden monkey when you see it appear before you knowing it may never appear again. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image]
Even if things don't work out, there's always something to be learned from the experience about yourself - such as what you really need, what you really want in a partner, or something else of importance that will help you grow as a person in your journey through life. Just my thoughts on the issues that seem relevent to me...
- pixel
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