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Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 2:11:56 PM

tornaway

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      Has anyone met a compatible sub on here - or elsewhere online , that traveled to where you are for a first meeting - then relocated to be with you - and ultimately , moved in with you ?
     Obviously , there is much to align , and many details to work out over time . But then , nothing ventured - nothing gained .  Yes ?

       As I'm now considering just such an arrangement , I'm trying to see if many have had luck with it long term ( knowing full well of course , that each situation is different ) ?

     Do share - please .   Thanks , in advance !

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 2:25:03 PM

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*S* Wednesday my lovely Robert will be here in Illinois (his new home) from Pennsylvania. He came out a little over two weeks ago to visit for a few days and we both knew this was right. He's made it happen, much to my satisfaction, in short order and I couldn't be more pleased.

Of course this is not for everyone. I am a jumper by nature and have met the perfect slave for me, who happens to also be a jumper. Nothing ventured nothing gained and in the great scheme of things what could be lost? For me (beyond Robert...which is EVERYTHING in a way) not much. My household remains as it is should something neither of us forsees go awry. I do not have any fears to this effect. Not one.

For Robert? He is a man with a mind and is capable of making intelligent decisions. He will, I am sure say that he has no worries about this either, but should this go awry, he can take care of himself and his life would not be over.

We are so syncronized with each other, we have both been painfully honest with each other, we have both much love and gel in all the right ways. This is right. And I am thrilled.

Find me in a month, a year, 10 years whatever... mark my words...Robert will still be a part of this family.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 2:49:23 PM

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My man met me through my web site, but a lot of subs contacted me that way. He caught my attention. We did the online/phone thing for 2 or more years but never stopped real life relations with others. I knew he was pretty spectacular though, and when we finally met in person, we decided only after a few hours that we'd get married. We met in March, got engaged in May and married in June. It will be 6 years this summer.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 4:34:45 PM

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I met carb online, spent two years with him and we parted ways under less than amicable circumstances.

I met cubby online and 2 1/2 weeks later he was living with Me, We married four years ago and have been together eight years total.

I met phoebe online and she moved to Me for six months. She was very new to submission and I basically helped her get basic protocols, negotiation skills, and ended up introducing her to My good friends, a Dominant couple. She lived with them a year and a half.

I have had very very good results from meeting people online. I do not always expect them to remain with Me, rather I show them what life with Me would be like, and we go from there.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 5:06:05 PM

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I met my sub playing Star wars Galaxies, he was a Master separated from his slavewife. After beating him with my lightsaber he knew he was on the wrong side of the force and switched sides. He moved up to be with me 2 years ago, we are planning to move in together next year.

Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 6:48:32 PM

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These are some great and encouraging positive stories.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/27/2007 7:08:11 PM

JpnsTigerrrlily

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I met my ex online and after a couple of years I moved from CA to MA to be with him. After a year of living together, we both agreed it wasn't working and I moved back to CA. I know another woman that moved across the country and it unfortunately didn't work out either for her. But hope springs eternal. I'd rather have moved and KNOW how it would work out then have to wonder "what if" for the rest of my life.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 12:48:03 AM

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I have known both sides of the coin - where it works and it doesnt. Go for what feels right for you. Life is too short sometimes to put off what you can have now. I am like earthycouple - a jumper - I want it and I want it NOW. hehe sometimes that cause issues but I make the decision and live with the consequences.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 12:55:41 AM

DominaSmartass

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quote:

ORIGINAL: earthycouple

*S* Wednesday my lovely Robert will be here in Illinois (his new home) from Pennsylvania. He came out a little over two weeks ago to visit for a few days and we both knew this was right. He's made it happen, much to my satisfaction, in short order and I couldn't be more pleased.

So *you* were the one who took the last remaining good slave out of PA. DAAAAAAMMMMMMNNNNN YOOOUUUUUU!

Just kidding.

My situation is a little unique, considering we met for the first time in real life, introduced by a mutual friend, only to find out that of course we were both on CM. I lived in NYC at the time but worked primarily in FL. So when my lease was up we made arrangements to move in together, finding a new apartment in a mutually beneficial PA location. The stars just aligned, I guess. Everything turned out amazing. Technically we both relocated to be with each other. It can happen.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 5:44:52 AM

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I have actually been the one to travel (most of the time) to them, I did that to protect where I live and My unmentionable as one never truly knows----I am looking at an ltr and I can assure you I will not be the one moving---and there are very specific requirements I have before they are even considered for that----they must be able should it not work out, to start a life on their own again somewhere, so yes there are many things that need to be considered and always prepare for the best and the worst.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 6:00:24 AM

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I have not really had anyone travel a great distance to meet me insofar as a Domme/sub relationship. However, I would not be opposed to traveling to meet them if the situation were right....especially if they lived some place that I wanted to visit or relocate...ie. CA. I am not particularly a fan of LDRs, but I know that they do work for some people. I am in an awesome position with my career, which is nursing, where I can find a job anywhere. I can also take "short-term" contract assignments that would place me in a city with a potential sub/slave and I would be willing to do that in order to spend time with them from a few months to even more time. That way, neither of us would have to make a MAJOR decision such as relocation, changing jobs, etc. without experiencing it on a "trial basis" first. I think that you just can't base a relationship solely on online or phone connections. Those don't always translate over to real life. You have to spend quality time in person together to see if the connection is actually "real" and possibly long-lasting. I, for one, am not one to rush into serious committments ordinarily, but there have been situations in the "vanilla" world where things did progress at quite a rapid pace. Thanks everyone for the inspiring stories!

Be well,
M. Diva

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 6:12:26 AM

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My newest girl moved from NY state to come live in my home. It's been three months and still going strong. And the future is looking better and better all the time.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 8:41:09 AM

MistressKaren51

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I rarely post on the boards, but this topic certainly caught my attention. I met my sub online almost 6 years ago though another site. He is from England, and after 12 flights across the big pond (he made as many as well) to get to know each other and fall in love, we finally married on April 2nd of this year. We are working on the paperwork with immigration as we will be living here in the states. Happy endings do happen!

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 8:44:07 AM

earthycouple

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

quote:

ORIGINAL: earthycouple

*S* Wednesday my lovely Robert will be here in Illinois (his new home) from Pennsylvania. He came out a little over two weeks ago to visit for a few days and we both knew this was right. He's made it happen, much to my satisfaction, in short order and I couldn't be more pleased.

So *you* were the one who took the last remaining good slave out of PA. DAAAAAAMMMMMMNNNNN YOOOUUUUUU!

Just kidding.

*S* Yeppers...all me. *S*

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 10:32:53 AM

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Our last full time girl relocated to be with us, we had her for nearly 2 years, until she had to return home due to family comitments, we still keep intouch, but I have to admit trying to find another full time girl is difficult due to the timewasters and fakes.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/28/2007 1:13:11 PM

IwiltakeU

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IF THE FIT IS RIGHT THEY WILL MOVE IN I BELIVE I HAVE FOUND HER WE ARE WORKING TOWARDS THE SAME GOALS SHE IS IN MONTREAL CANADA AND I AM IN NH USA SO WE HAVE THINGS THAT NEED BE PUT IN PLACE BUT THE MATCH SO FAR IS PERFECT.

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/31/2007 11:14:27 AM

LadyAlzara

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I've met dozens of slaves from across the whole of the US...only one or two from overseas....not one has moved into My house...though I moved in with one in DC for about 6 weeks...way before the kid came along.....I found out then, not the thing for Me. I like My space....I've settled for meeting and talking to those that are fairly local. Due to My living arrangements....I can't see moving anyone in..unless thunder strikes and I get a sign from the Divine....but I have a small child at home that I'm raising alone....another topic all together....
I've been that in love, though. So in love I was willing to give up almost anything to be with that person....and it was near impossible to let it go. he settled for his life there...and I brooded for awhile....still carry that "what if" in the back of My mind. So for Me, if it was that kind of situtation...where You can't get enough of the other....go for it...nothing ventured...nothing gained...amen...
though, just to be on the safe side...get em a job up front...or atleast make sure they have the credit to live on their own should you want to kill em 3 weeks in. And just for fun...have them dig the hole...lol
Z

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/31/2007 12:08:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tornaway

      Has anyone met a compatible sub on here - or elsewhere online , that traveled to where you are for a first meeting - then relocated to be with you - and ultimately , moved in with you ?
     Obviously , there is much to align , and many details to work out over time . But then , nothing ventured - nothing gained .  Yes ?

       As I'm now considering just such an arrangement , I'm trying to see if many have had luck with it long term ( knowing full well of course , that each situation is different ) ?

     Do share - please .   Thanks , in advance !

As Mistress and I live several hours apart and I have unmentionables here and am not free to relocate without changing custody/visitation arrangments (something neither I nor Mistress wish to do), the ultimate plan is for her to eventually move here when things are in place for that to happen. In the mean time we deal with the distance thing and conflicts in schedules as we can. Obviously, logistics could be much more difficult a matter for us than others, but there still is a lot involved in relocating when selling houses, making repairs first, disposing of extra items, etc., even when only a few hours apart.

Were it not for my unmentionables, I'd have no reason to stay here and would be open to relocating myself; having only lived in Dallas for about 4-1/2 years with no other family here. I agree with the philosophy of "nothing ventured, nothing gained". That's the way it is with any relationship. Some work, some fail. Until you put yourself out there, you'll never know. If you hide & play it safe, you'll always be "safe", but forever alone.

As someone else mentioned, vanilla time together is also very important. Do those interests also align? Have you spent the time together to test those waters out? If not, then perhaps you might want to do that first, before you jump-in head first. Where do you see your life going? Does it match with his? Those are also things to consider and discuss. Can you also see yourself growing old together? Remember, it happens to all of us!

Do you feel the communication is there to work things out when problems arise? If not, then don't even bother. If so, then go for it, otherwise you'll always wonder! Just in case, you may want to plan for the worst by discussing what the exit strategy would be should things reach a point where either of you is unhappy and can't be resolved to both your satisfaction. To me, that's only being realistic, even if it takes away from some of the romanticism and excitement.

If things resonate in a positive manner as I think I've covered well enough above, you may want to also consider, that things don't align very often in our lives with others. Thus, I'd suggest you grab the golden monkey when you see it appear before you knowing it may never appear again.

Even if things don't work out, there's always something to be learned from the experience about yourself - such as what you really need, what you really want in a partner, or something else of importance that will help you grow as a person in your journey through life. Just my thoughts on the issues that seem relevent to me...

- pixel

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/31/2007 12:12:00 PM

Calandra

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wow, My experiences have differed so much from yours! I had one move in after 2 1/2 weeks and he's still with Me. My other one is someone I've known for over four years and he was a Dom with his own slave - ended up turning to Me after his breakup and asked to serve Me (Long, but beautiful story)

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RE: Has anyone ...... ? - 5/31/2007 12:39:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tornaway

      Has anyone met a compatible sub on here - or elsewhere online , that traveled to where you are for a first meeting - then relocated to be with you - and ultimately , moved in with you ?
     Obviously , there is much to align , and many details to work out over time . But then , nothing ventured - nothing gained .  Yes ?

       As I'm now considering just such an arrangement , I'm trying to see if many have had luck with it long term ( knowing full well of course , that each situation is different ) ?

     Do share - please .   Thanks , in advance !

I met Punk aka bishop before I realized My true potential.
But...
I have been looking for a male to live-in to help around the house
and do repairs to the house or cars etc. for a couple years now.

I have had 2 that would travel an hour or more to spend the weekend.
Over a course of a few months they got to really know what would be required.
I had even had them meet the unmetionable I still have at home,which was cool.
Everything was going okay...until they realized there wasnt any sex happening.

There was one other that didnt even make it to meeting anyone.The same thing about sex was an issue,plus a lil bit of a drinker and I'm not cool with someone
living here that drinks alcohol everyday.

I guess people find it hard to believe that I have the Love of My Life in Punk,and seem to think that a sexual relationship will be part of living here.
I dont care if they masturbate in their living quarters,so its not like they wouldnt get some relief.

I do however listen to My own advice and I havent given up yet...I am currently chatting with someone from CM,things are going well so far.
I think it will be worth the wait to find the right one,so I'm keeping the Faith.

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