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my shy 53 year old wife - 5/27/2007 11:28:21 PM   
voyerman


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Status: offline 		i would like watch my wife in hands of a dom but i dont know best way to do this we can travel so thats not a problem, was looking for maybe a chance meeting in bar etc few drinks then go from there.
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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 12:04:43 AM   
DixieAngel


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Status: offline 		How does your wife feel about this, is this what she wants too?

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 2:40:00 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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Status: offline 		You failed to mention how she feels.  If she is shy AND doesn't want to be dominated, then it will backfire horribly.  Perhaps you could be her Dom?  Masks can easily change who you are.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 2:56:52 AM   
NakedGirlScout


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Status: offline 		shy people who have had no previous experience are unlikely to be motivated to go out and do kinky stuff with a stranger they met at a bar.
you also didn't mention why, if you wanted to see her be dominated, you don't step up and do so yourself.
unless this is her fantasy as well, you'll wind up with a very angry upset and humiliated shy wife on your hands.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 5:36:34 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Status: offline 		Well, I don't think he picked the handle of "voyerman" because he likes to bird watch.

To the OP: The best thing to do is get in touch with a local BDSM group and start attending. Get to know people and propose this to someone you both feel comfortable with. If you're just looking for her to have sex with someone else then I would suggest swingers groups.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 5:50:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		What about having open and honest communication with her about her fantasies and yours. Is she interested in BDSM at all? Because if not, then what you are proposing is conspiring with someone to rape her.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 6:09:51 AM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		Celeste: I appreciate your point, and I realize that we all write hastily, but I think it's necessary to modify it. A person doesn't have to *enjoy* the activity or be interested in it for engaging in the activity not to be rape. The person simply has to agree to the activity. Rape is defined by a lack of consent, not a lack of pleasure.

But I do take your larger point, Celeste. Voyerman's first step should be to present his fantasy attractively to his wife, and see if he can persuade her that either it's fun or that she should do it because she'll get something specific that she wants in return.

Voyerman, are you familiar with the "hotwife" or "cuck" communities? If not, that might be a good place to get more advice.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 6:17:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I question why everyone else assumes that he has not spoken to his wife already. Or that it was not her idea in the first place? Rather asinine IMO.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 8:20:27 AM   
Masterdarkone26


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Status: offline 		How far are you looking to travel to have her Dominated while you watch and are there any limits on seeing her Dominated?

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 8:39:10 AM   
MasterDan1


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Status: offline 		More to the point how far is she willing to go in domination

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 8:51:17 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Check out your local BDSM scene and get to know people as well as watch them play in public. Then let your wife choose who she wants.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 10:24:36 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Why we're assuming that she doesn't want to do this and he hasn't asked her directly? Simply because he's trying to set it up with another man but have it be unknown to her. And that makes it without consent and therefore rape.

If she was interested in it, they could go to the nearest swingers group and find all kinds of men who would be willing to have sex with her while he watched.

The fact that he is trying to trick her into this means he hasn't asked her.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 10:27:29 AM   
MasterDan1


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Status: offline 		On the other hand she may be saying yes to please her husband but deep down doesnt want to do it.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 10:57:18 AM   
susie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

I question why everyone else assumes that he has not spoken to his wife already. Or that it was not her idea in the first place? Rather asinine IMO.


I would think that comes from the way his question is worded. It says "I would like" If this was a joint decision it would more than likely be worded "My wife and I would like"

Not a surprise at all that people have responded as they have and the OP has not been back to explain his wifes postion either.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/28/2007 7:12:07 PM   
Rayne58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: voyerman

i would like watch my wife in hands of a dom but i dont know best way to do this we can travel so thats not a problem, was looking for maybe a chance meeting in bar etc few drinks then go from there.


This sounds suspiciously like a profile on another dating site we came across, although the OP is in London so it can't be However the premise was the same - the guy wanted his wife to be Dominated while he watched.

Master replied to the ad. He was going to set this "man" up, and tell his wife what he was about when we got her alone in the room. She didn't know anything about it and in the pics he'd put up of her she looked off her face. The guy said she needed to be drunk to do anything. Now this just screams sexual assault

However his plans with us didn't happen and we are hoping he saw the light and deleted his ad. We have not been back to that site for months.

I know if it was me being set up for this, I would be extremely angry. DO NOT do this to your wife, it will come back to bite you in the ass - anyone who would do this without the other person's consent is a complete and utter bastard who deserves to be strung up by his nuts
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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/29/2007 8:36:27 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DixieAngel

How does your wife feel about this, is this what she wants too?
This is the million dollar (or pound, in this case) question.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/29/2007 6:41:30 PM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		Thats not a hard request at all but YOU need to be very clear in a meeting with ALL involved what you and she wants out of it.

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RE: my shy 53 year old wife - 5/29/2007 6:59:50 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I suspect this is a hit and run thread..and that the OP was hoping for responses to his ad here via e-mail. Maybe hoping for an inexperienced Dominant or HNG to take the bait..Tempting

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