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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 5/28/2007 11:26:13 PM   
aldompdx


Posts: 538
Joined: 10/24/2004
Status: offline 		Your profile says indicates "narcissistic master." 1. "honest about who I am and what I want and need." Even a M/s relationship has a balance of sharing. What do you bring to the table besides YOUR needs? 2. You feel that self mastery is irrelevant. Who wants an out of control master? 3. Patience is a virtue, which you seem to be lacking.

Contrary to your christian dogma, there are many people who have gained control (mastery) over their mind, heart, and ego. Can you sit with a still mind for an hour? Many can. If you can't, then perhaps you could work on enhancing your self awareness. There is far more to mastering life than just having a positive attitude. Our moment of truth is RIGHT NOW.

< Message edited by aldompdx -- 5/28/2007 11:27:46 PM >

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/5/2007 5:50:18 PM   
blkmaledom


Posts: 8
Joined: 12/17/2006
Status: offline 		It does take time and sometimes luck...

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/5/2007 8:56:01 PM   
slaverosebeauty


Posts: 1941
Joined: 12/12/2004
From: Cali
Status: offline 		Some of us have been on here for years, it takes time, relax. A good pic helps. Relax. It takes time. No rush.  

Remember, that the ratio of male tops to female bottoms is at least 12 to 1, girls get a LOT of emails {I don't any more, but I did at one point, 100 in less than 48 hours at one point}, you have to make yours stand out in a positive way.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/5/2007 9:01:48 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Profile not found?  So much for me weighing in

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/5/2007 9:09:49 PM   
octavia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Profile not found?  So much for me weighing in


I know

I was gonna try to be nice tooooo

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/6/2007 12:14:09 AM   
LafayetteLady


Posts: 7683
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Northern New Jersey
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quote:

ORIGINAL: octavia

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Profile not found?  So much for me weighing in


I know

I was gonna try to be nice tooooo


I was nice to the guy in the other thread, this was my chance to be really snarky! 

(I saw that term used and found it so appropriate.  Between that and wanting to call myself a cupcake...)


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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/6/2007 12:14:21 AM   
Masque66


Posts: 185
Joined: 5/4/2007
Status: offline 		That's going to hurt his chances.

*shrugs* oh well, gives me slightly better odds.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/6/2007 5:41:23 AM   
earthycouple


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

I personally feel your first journal entry is stupid and is way too pissy.  I'd never respond to you based on that alone.  Hey, you asked.


My guess is that if he is not interested in a self labeled submissive he would be even less interested in a self professed dominant anyways





Not that it matters as he poofed...but he did put this in the Ask a Master Forum  My answer had nothing to do with being dominant searching for another dominant but simply to answer the question from MY perspective.  If he wanted a majority of sub/slave answers a noob would, theoretically post to the ask a sub/slave area.  He wanted the opinions of dominants.  Just because you disagreed with me, did not mean you needed to try and suggest my opinion counts for nothing to someone else (because I'm a self professed dominant).


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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/6/2007 5:44:13 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: earthycouple

I personally feel your first journal entry is stupid and is way too pissy.  I'd never respond to you based on that alone.  Hey, you asked.


My guess is that if he is not interested in a self labeled submissive he would be even less interested in a self professed dominant anyways

As a female submissive I found nothing wrong with his journal entry, but that is just my opinion.



Now I'm curious as to what the journal entry said...

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/7/2007 1:02:22 AM   
RealDom69


Posts: 64
Joined: 4/7/2005
Status: offline 		I agree that sub/slaves don't just fall into your lap,   BUT....  a little courtesy and good manners cost nothing and with auto responses it's easy to say  " sorry you're not what I'm looking for "  but the computer allows total anonymity so there is no fear of confrontation and for some people bad manners come naturally... all that said they weed themselves out in that their bad manners saves you a lot of time and trouble... would you really want a response from those ones...
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Johnny Reble

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/7/2007 1:31:33 AM   
GoodLittleBitch


Posts: 7
Joined: 11/20/2006
Status: offline 		Coming from a sub. This is very relavent. Especially the last post. A lot of doms are very rude and do not respect a sub/slaves wishes in many ways. Relationships here should start out as any other. If it begins with disrespect on one end, how can I dom ever hope to get the trust that is required for this lifestyle?
  I hope all the "bad" doms will read this and take it to heart. It would be much eaiser to find a dom for subs and slaves that are looking if there were more dom gentlemen out there.   Thankyou.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/7/2007 2:19:30 AM   
stella40


Posts: 417
Joined: 1/11/2006
From: London, UK
Status: offline 		Wouldn't it be so much easier if people quit coming onto this site and looking for a Dominant or a submissive as if they're looking for a bunch of grapes or a cellphone?

This is Collarme...it isn't Wal-Mart and it sure isn't e-Bay.

I come on here and it seems that every other day I'm finding a thread which starts 'Why can't I....?' or 'Why don't people....?' or 'Why are submissives so...?' or 'Why does it seem that all Doms are...?' It strikes me that there are some people who are able to whine much better than your average Electrolux vacuum cleaner.

Sure, the Internet is great for buying things and ordering things on line, anything from groceries to pets to books to cheap flights and even real estate and cars...

I don't know, maybe I'm stupid or thick or didn't read the terms of service properly, but as far as I know Collarme doesn't guarantee me finding a Dominant or a submissive. And what? Are there any submissives or Doms out there who come with a money back guarantee? And what if my meeting with a submissive or Dom doesn't work out? What then? Am I entitled to a refund? Or should I maybe get in touch with a lawyer and sue Collarme for compensation?

Okay, so this posting has now become a rant (sorry to mislead everyone) but I'm starting to get a little bit annoyed about having to read postings from these human vacuum cleaners who are accusing people here of being fake. I mean, what were you really expecting? A Cartier? A Rolex Domme perhaps?

Nobody here is a fake - nobody. Sure, people might be dishonest,they might not follow through, respond as you expect, they may waste your time, they may disappear, tell lies, or whatever but at the end of the day each and every person on this site is SOMEONE - they are a real and genuine human being, with a brain, feelings, thoughts and opinions, they have needs, they have desires and they too have dreams.

Maybe the consumerist approach isn't the right one for this site. This isn't a catalogue of products, this isn't an online version of something like Wal-Mart where you have a female submissives section, a Dommes section, Doms section and so on, nobody here is listed in an auction like products on e-Bay, this is Collarme with real and genuine people living real and genuine lives and having (in the main) real and genuine profiles.

"What you give is what you get" - it applies much in BDSM as it does elsewhere.

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/7/2007 3:50:20 AM   
RealDom69


Posts: 64
Joined: 4/7/2005
Status: offline 		By The way ....  has it occured to you that a portion of those profiles that failed to respond are probably males pretending to be women....
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Johnny Reble

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/7/2007 8:05:14 AM   
FelinePersuasion


Posts: 4792
Joined: 11/20/2004
Status: offline 		If someone unsuitable contacts me, and it's clearly an unsuitable person, because, they're out of state, or their males looking for sex I don't bother answering. I make it extreamly clear, SACRAMENTO and FEMALE,  not looking for sex, so when people don't pay attention to what was said in my then detailed profile, why should I waste time saying no, you're not a suitable match. Plus, some of us used to say no thanks, and you get more junk mail from that person, some being rude, some being like well why not, and some asking ok then do you have female friends you can hook me up with. Far simpler to delete and be on our ways. 
quote:

ORIGINAL: RealDom69

I agree that sub/slaves don't just fall into your lap,   BUT....  a little courtesy and good manners cost nothing and with auto responses it's easy to say  " sorry you're not what I'm looking for " 


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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 6/7/2007 8:10:25 AM   
MistressNoName


Posts: 664
Joined: 10/26/2006
Status: offline 		Here-here, stella.


MNN

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RE: Having trouble attracting slaves... - 7/6/2007 6:53:04 PM   
flyhi


Posts: 5
Joined: 6/16/2007
From: Tulsa
Status: offline 		I am a slave in search of a Dom female near Tulsa!!!

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