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octavia -> new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 4:06:48 PM)

Hi all!

I'm hoping I can get an idea from you all about this.  I'm very very new to this community/website.  I do have experience in an D/s relationship, but only with one man, and only while in a ltr soooo... given that background here are my questions:

On this website, what happens if you block someone?  Meaning, can they still see you but not talk to you.. or do you just disapear  for them?  I cant find a technical explainantions thread.. Im sure there is a section and if someone would tell me where I would greatly appriciate it.

When I was in a D/s relationship before, my sassiness and fiestyness was not only tolerated, it was cherished.  Of course I was obedient to my Dom, but I was not expected to be submissive to others at all.  I was (and am) polite and respectful.  I can (and do.. hehe)  tell people things fairly bluntly and to the point.  In talking with a few subs.. Im hearing that I'm not supposed to be that way???  Would love to get some more opinions if I can. 

Thankies!
oct



m0rgan -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 4:29:53 PM)

to the best of my knowlege, you can "hide" yourself, you can also block anyone from contacting you and you can hide them as well. try checking "your account" settings, as well, for hiding the dates you were online, but if you hide too much, people will just pay little attention to you, and consider you a faker!



OsideGirl -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 5:42:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: octavia
Of course I was obedient to my Dom, but I was not expected to be submissive to others at all.  I was (and am) polite and respectful.  I can (and do.. hehe)  tell people things fairly bluntly and to the point.  In talking with a few subs.. Im hearing that I'm not supposed to be that way??? 


Just read a few of the threads. You'll find quite a few of us that are quite blunt.



sleazybutterfly -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 6:19:35 PM)

Speaking my mind and having an opinion is something I have never had a problem with.  I show respect to everyone regardless of their "title", but that doesn't mean I can't tell them where to go just as easily. 


Oops...that probably wasn't very slave-like.... maybe I need a good spanking[;)]  *runs off to find Master*



earthycouple -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 6:43:18 PM)

Don't pretend to be someone you are not.  If you are sassy then so be it!



Kitte9 -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 6:52:19 PM)

You're supposed to be the way you are. They're supposed to be the way they are. If they have a problem with that, then they have a problem.



Elorin -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 6:59:45 PM)

If you block someone, to my understanding it simply means that they can no longer send you e-mail or chat requests. I don't believe it affects whether they can see you or if you have recently logged on, etc.

As for sassiness, I'm rather sassy myself. Sir likes me this way and has commented positively on my "smartass" attitude at times. When we first met the way we would banter back and forth was part of our attraction to one another.

Since I'm a switch, I can also say that I love a sub with personality. Someone who can play with words and is sassy is a joy, as long as they have a sense of restraint and are able to learn when I'm not gonna tolerate it. (Sassiness is NOT appropriate when being disciplined by me, for instance.)

There is no "one true way" to be. Some submissives take the first things they learn and think that's they way that subs should be, but there are myriad kinds of dom/mes and each dom has a different set of preferences. How you "should be" should be based upon your dominants preference, not what other submissives tell you you should be.

~Elorin



Masque66 -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 7:06:35 PM)

I wouldn't take on a sub/slave who wasn't what I wanted, would I?  And if she suddenly changed I would have to wonder what had gone wrong.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/28/2007 8:11:17 PM)

Bluntness can be delivered as sweetly as honey- and can often be more effective in such ways.



octavia -> RE: new and sassy.... (5/29/2007 10:17:03 AM)

Well thanks all.  I guess I was just starting to doubt myself.  I certainly don't want to chase away potential Dom's if they are the type of Dom I would want to be sub to in the first place.  I guess I just need to be reminded, that the Dom I am waiting for will want me to be myself.  [:)]

Still trying to figure out the block/hide dynamics.  Anyone willing to help me experiment with the options?  Someone let me know ahead of time and block me etc then I can try and contact and see what it looks like from the blockey percpective, then vise versa. 
Cheers!
oct



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