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slaveluci -> RE: "Us" against "Them"...strength in numbers? (5/30/2007 12:51:05 PM)
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ORIGINAL: susie
DISCLAIMER: i do not know susie and am not posting to defend and/or validate her opinions. She is not my buddy, friend, or crony and i'm not adding my 2 cents to try to bolster what she has said[8D]. With that said............
I do not know anyone here personally. Master and I do not really mix with others
Same here, susie. The number of people from the forums i have messaged with on a regular basis can be counted in a single digit.
When I post I post my views on the subject being discussed and it does not matter who is posting I will respond in the same way no matter what.
Ditto. There are posters with whom i regularly agree and, oftentimes, i will do what i have done here and quote someone as a jumping off point to express my own opinions. i don't do it to just pipe in with a "me too" thing as was mentioned earlier - not that there's anything wrong with that. There are so many people posting here that that's bound to happen. Usually by the time i get around to posting, the usual suspects have already answered and given the definitive answers[;)]. If others couldn't occasionally say "ditto" or something similar, they'd never get a chance to opine on anything.
I have seen the clique thing happening
there are certain people there that you cannot disagree with or you will be jumped on by many for having the "wrong" point of view
Yeah, but as long as you realize that's total bs, you'll be fine[:)]
If I post anything here in support of anyone it is because I am supporting their viewpoint and not the person
i agree totally.
i'm not sure when it became so absolutely unacceptable to "defend" someone of like mind. Sure, they're adults and don't need someone else to speak FOR them. But if they are making what i consider a valid point and are being basically "ganged up on," why is it so wrong to come along and offer encouragement and attempt to help them make a good point? And, even if they aren't being ganged up on, but you have something to offer that helps make their point, why not offer it and try to help them out?
A lot of people also tend to have a problem when friends or partners routinely "defend" each others' points. i also don't see why that's an issue. i'd hate to think they wouldn't. Yes, if one of them consistently "starts something" and then the other steps up to "finish" it, that's not too cool to me. But, in cases like juliaoceania and Sinergy - a couple who regularly gets jumped on for "tag teaming" people [:D] - they are both very capable individually of making a well-thought out argument. They don't have to depend on the other to do it for them. However, they agree and often come together to make a unified argument, as it were. What is so wrong with that? If i were to meet with them for dinner, for example, i wouldn't find it odd if they agreed and worked together to make an argument/point. Why should they feel they can't do that here?
A final point: i said it the other day and i'll say it again. WHY is it so wrong to want to feel validated? That term is tossed around on here like a 4-letter word! It's not a bad thing, folks. Merriam-Webster's online dictionary say it means:
to support or corroborate on a sound or authoritative basis <experiments designed to validate the hypothesis> b : to recognize, establish, or illustrate the worthiness or legitimacy of <validate his concerns. i'll take all the validation i can get when i feel i'm making a worthy point[:)].
i think several others have said it well: i don't regularly "defend" the same people but i'll always pipe in to "defend" what i feel is a worthwhile point......................slave luci
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