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A question from man for all women.... - 5/21/2005 11:39:58 PM   
newbie4princess


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Status: offline 		I realize i`m speaking for men without asking any or giving a second thought to those who may take offense with their inclusion, but i`ll take an unreaserched guess that 9 of 10 hetro males wonder about the answer. The question-

"Why do you "ladies" get so offended by guys sending pictures of our dicks?"

i can understand if this is the only pic sent. Aren`t we living in an age that women have stood up and made the claim that size does matter? Do you not all check our nose, hands, and feet?

I`m just asking and not looking to offend.....
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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/21/2005 11:51:22 PM   
junecleaver


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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/21/2005 11:52:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: newbie4princess
"Why do you "ladies" get so offended by guys sending pictures of our dicks?"

Okay, I'll be the first...
It's because it's like forcing us to have sex with you before we are ready!
If we've already chat/talked/met, and I happen to have seen you/met you and have talked to you, and happen to have been harboring some lust towards you, that it's great, just additional motivation...
However, if we've never seen/talked nor have I developed any lust for you, it's just crass, unclassy, uncouth, arrogant, stupid, etc. etc. ...because I haven't consented to seeing you naked yet, you haven't courted me (or whatever that means for each lady, I know not everyone wants to be shown same things as I), and shown me that you respect me beyond the physical, and it's rude, it's non-consentual, it's retarded, and unless I ask you for it, it's a turn off! Enough for now, I'll be back. M
P.S. Size matters only if you've already shown you are not a dickhead by showing your dick 1st; once you show dick 1st, generally you're shut down, no matter what size you are, most of time you will be doing yourself, not a lady...

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 5/21/2005 11:55:58 PM >

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 12:13:48 AM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Because they're boring, honestly. I feel the same about girlbits.

If I wanted to see it, I'd ask.

Like Blk said, it feels similar to having someone forced on you.

Ugh.'

(That, and my partner has a rule that I can't look at pink bits w/out perimision. I dislike breaking his rules even accidentally)

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 12:15:13 AM   
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why do some men send cock photos



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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 12:17:40 AM   
newbie4princess


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Status: offline 		funny girl you are june..... for the record i don`t send pics of my dick.

Thanks BTF for your opinion....I agree with the rudeness it portrays. I also know though that brief but polite messages are placed in this category. Is it also rude when one doesn`t respond? All it takes is a simple no thanks. I realize some people have no respect for the word no and have ruined it for those with it, but a polite inquiry says a lot no?

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 12:34:35 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: newbie4princess
Thanks BTF for your opinion.... Is it also rude when one doesn`t respond? All it takes is a simple no thanks. I realize some people have no respect for the word no and have ruined it for those with it, but a polite inquiry says a lot no?

I agree, and if you emailed me and I ignored you, I apologize, it may have been on a day my mailbox was filled with dumbass (I like it as one word) notes from people who don't read my profile or respect my position. M


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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 1:02:34 AM   
LadyShoshin


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quote:

I agree, and if you emailed me and I ignored you, I apologize, it may have been on a day my mailbox was filled with dumbass (I like it as one word) notes from people who don't read my profile or respect my position. M


I agree, even though I do reply to every email I get (except those whose first contact is a picture of a cock).

What people want to do when trying to create a relationship of some sort is to highlight their best feature first to catch the attention of the other person. If a man thinks that his best feature is his cock, I am not interested. I would much rather get to know his wit and intelligence first. Even if I was after a man for the size of his member, we aren't going to be having sex 24/7 for the rest of our lives. We will spend a lot more time talking and sharing interests than we do having sex, so I would rather know if a man is someone I can enjoy being around when we are fully clothed.

I have replied to first contact crotch shots "If you want to meet me over coffee to see if we are suitable, unless you intend to have your johnson laying exposed on the table, I will have no way of recognizing you."

Speaking for myself, if I want to check out your family jewels I will say so, until then keep it in your pants and send me a pic of you fully clothed and a letter letting me know more about your intelligence and ability to carry a conversation.

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 1:32:29 AM   
suberic101


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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 1:54:53 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		I don't like Dick's or Cock's, I find them plain Ugly!
And further more who is to say they are your's!
Even though my profile is Clear, I still get them!

My Domina and myself explore, a lot, to specifically find
strap on's that are as far away from phallic as possible.

But fingers are really the Best, Yes sometimes size matters, but there are always more fingers or even a fist...That's what I want, a Domina to send me a shot of her Fist!!
But...I have to admit.. it would really shock me to have a Domina write and
send me a pic of her toys or even better yet Her Fist!
Get a Clue.

*Brightspot

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 4:19:23 AM   
ElektraUkM


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quote:

ORIGINAL: newbie4princess



"Why do you "ladies" get so offended by guys sending pictures of our dicks?"

.... i can understand if this is the only pic sent. Aren`t we living in an age that women have stood up and made the claim that size does matter? Do you not all check our nose, hands, and feet?




Hello newbie. Snipped your question a bit, and now i'm going to turn it on its head and ask... Why do men send women pictures of their dicks? Haven't they understood that it's far from being the best approach?

I kind of like your point about women having 'stood up' and said what they want... but look, they're telling men what they don't want is an Unsolicited penis pic in their inbox. Now, if they Asked to see it... that's a different matter. What's so difficult about waiting till you're asked..?

Well what's so difficult in some cases is that Men Get Off on waggling their penis (or penis pic) in front of people... and that, as someone already said, is non-consensual.

So... my suggestion is... wait till you're asked.

Also... Size doesn't matter all that much, to be honest.

~ Elektra



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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 6:09:16 AM   
SecretDomme


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Status: offline 		It's an instant turn-off for me. If you were walking down the street and saw a woman, would you take out your dick and flash it to her? You'd be arrested most likely.

To assume that the first thing I want to see is your dick says to me that you wish to start our interactions on a purely sexual level. I also assume that you have nothing else to offer as far as personality, and therefore lose interest quickly.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 6:23:06 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Dick Pic's, ... my favorite pet peave. For me it's like this: If someone sends a Dick pic as a first contact, I assume I'm speaking with a Dick. Let me see *who* i'm chatting with unless of couse the conversation is generated by the smaller brain that is in charge at the moment. It's not that I find them Ugly (they can actually be quite handsome). But when i re-run a conversation that i may have had with you over in my mind, if i know you only as a Dick
i'm surly not going to give much importance to your words. I would much prefer to wonder about the story behind your eyes (plural). I see those that send a Dick pic as being *Dom'ed by their Dick* if they truly are interested in chatting.

Q

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 7:13:35 AM   
Kiaban


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quote:

ORIGINAL: newbie4princess

I realize i`m speaking for men without asking any or giving a second thought to those who may take offense with their inclusion, but i`ll take an unreaserched guess that 9 of 10 hetro males wonder about the answer. The question-

"Why do you "ladies" get so offended by guys sending pictures of our dicks?"

i can understand if this is the only pic sent. Aren`t we living in an age that women have stood up and made the claim that size does matter? Do you not all check our nose, hands, and feet?

I`m just asking and not looking to offend.....

9 out of 10 hngs would wonder...but 9 out of 10 hetros would even have to ask this question?
Tell me it isnt so.

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 8:42:14 AM   
junecleaver


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funny girl you are june..... for the record i don`t send pics of my dick.


Thanks. ♥

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 8:45:01 AM   
darkinshadows


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quote:

Thanks BTF for your opinion....I agree with the rudeness it portrays. I also know though that brief but polite messages are placed in this category. Is it also rude when one doesn`t respond? All it takes is a simple no thanks. I realize some people have no respect for the word no and have ruined it for those with it, but a polite inquiry says a lot no?


To send a picture of a private part of ones anatomy without asking first or being asked is nothing but rude and forceful - and totally non consensual.

Also, for the majority of women - whereas men look at butts and breasts - women prefere a mind - and a mind that thinks a dickpick is appropriate at any time within (for me) the first 6 months would be a mind I would really even want to look deeper into.

To even solicit a request to send, or to offer - would be a huge red flag - because we don't want your dick - we want to know you have something else on your mind - otherwise it just shouts SEXPERT! OR - HNG(horney net geek) - great for a one nighter, but not so good for a ltr.

If I was asked - *would you like*.... I would either, just ignore because as my profile clearl states, thats not what I am on here for - also... because its just not polite to even ask.

If people don't respond to you writing, in any way - not just dick pick offers - then it could be a miriad of reasons.

Too much mail flowing in -
Your mail is dull and lifeless -

Or the best and really legit reason - no one is under any obligation to reply to anyone. You wrote, you were received, you lost out - just move on...

Peace and Love

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 11:52:37 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM
Also... Size doesn't matter all that much, to be honest.
~ Elektra

Elektra dearest, speak for yourself! ...
Okay, Okay... If a guy is absolutely awesome in most other ways, than we overlook his shortcomings.
Is it really honest to tell a guy of 3" that size doens't matter?? I'm sorry people, for crossing over into uncouth zone... M

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 11:58:25 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: LadyShoshin
I agree, even though I do reply to every email I get (except those whose first contact is a picture of a cock).

What people want to do when trying to create a relationship of some sort is to highlight their best feature first to catch the attention of the other person. If a man thinks that his best feature is his cock, I am not interested. I would much rather get to know his wit and intelligence first. Even if I was after a man for the size of his member, we aren't going to be having sex 24/7 for the rest of our lives. We will spend a lot more time talking and sharing interests than we do having sex, so I would rather know if a man is someone I can enjoy being around when we are fully clothed.

I have replied to first contact crotch shots "If you want to meet me over coffee to see if we are suitable, unless you intend to have your johnson laying exposed on the table, I will have no way of recognizing you."

Great advice, and funny, I may have to borrow that reply in the future... Sure sounds simple enough. M

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 12:04:56 PM   
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Unfortunately... I have little doubt you might hear back from one or two.

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RE: A question from man for all women.... - 5/22/2005 12:40:58 PM   
ElektraUkM


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM
Also... Size doesn't matter all that much, to be honest.
~ Elektra

Elektra dearest, speak for yourself! ...
Okay, Okay... If a guy is absolutely awesome in most other ways, than we overlook his shortcomings.
Is it really honest to tell a guy of 3" that size doens't matter?? I'm sorry people, for crossing over into uncouth zone... M


lol you're very bad.

~ Elektra

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