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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 5:37:12 PM

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Just to play devil's advicate, who are you to decide what should or should not be an option for any one else not under your domination?

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Good thread, LadyPact

The following are my personal limits:

2. No animals –bestiality - Should not be an option for anyone!

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 5:59:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Just to play devil's advicate, who are you to decide what should or should not be an option for any one else not under your domination?
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Good thread, LadyPact

The following are my personal limits:

2. No animals –bestiality - Should not be an option for anyone!

FelinePersuasion, while i agree anyone has the right to chose what is "right" for them, i took the comment " Not an option " to mean exactly that. Ive never read a post by anyone saying its okay to play with animals.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 6:04:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Just to play devil's advicate, who are you to decide what should or should not be an option for any one else not under your domination?
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ORIGINAL: TigressFL

Good thread, LadyPact

The following are my personal limits:

2. No animals –bestiality - Should not be an option for anyone!

Interesting that you chose that one to quote. Are you saying you oppose the idea in relation to animals themselves, or with all the items stated???

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 6:11:58 PM

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After reading some of the responses (and thank you all for the input), I realized there were a few things that were on My list that I skipped as well. I actually forgot to say no animals. Oh, heck no animals! (The four legged kind) <chuckle> I also forgot to say no diapers. Funny how We don't think of those things right off the bat.

(Freezes while wheeling in the diaper-wearing lama)
Ohh. Dang!

It all kind of shows how impossible it is to list everything we won't do (I'd never even heard of "flesh hooks" until reading this thread!)... I think I'd have to go with MsKat's common sense method.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 8:01:07 PM

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just in general you know.quote]ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Just to play devil's advicate, who are you to decide what should or should not be an option for any one else not under your domination?
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ORIGINAL: TigressFL

Good thread, LadyPact

The following are my personal limits:

2. No animals –bestiality - Should not be an option for anyone!

Interesting that you chose that one to quote. Are you saying you oppose the idea in relation to animals themselves, or with all the items stated???

< Message edited by FelinePersuasion -- 6/2/2007 8:04:09 PM >

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 8:10:15 PM

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Things that make me go ewwwww..... (other than the standard stuff that everyone has already listed)

Role-playing that involves one person dressing up as a religious person (priest, nun etc) It must be that Catholic upbringing, but I just don't find this a turn on in any way.

Watching other people have sex. Ok, it doesn't really make me go ew, it usually makes me laugh (it's the squishy noises that get me every time)

Being tickled. I am quite ticklish, but being tickled brings out my fight or flight response, so I feel it's best to avoid it rather than accidently smacking someone in the eye.

Being grossly overweight. There is a *big* difference between middle age spread and being immense. (I'm no size 5 myself). If I can't tell you have a wee-wee until you lift your abdomen out of the way, I don't think it's going to work out between us. Or if your man-boobies are bigger than my DD's.

Other than that, I try to keep an open mind and at least observe something before I cross it off my list.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 8:10:23 PM

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Caffeine deprivation?? Safeword! Safeword!

Smart pet.

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i read somewhere about the "4 C's Rule": No children, critters, corpses, or ca-ca

I'll have to remember the 4C's.
Then again, to me this just translate to safe, sane, and with informed consent. On another site another Domme tried to tell me her dog was giving consent because he had an erection. Until such time as that dog can sign a release form stating that he understands the risks of STDs and other consequences, I don't consider it consensual, since it definitely isn't informed consent.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 8:20:25 PM

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I feel somewhat isolated again.

I don't focus on particular activities, but on the person I'm with.

I'm a submissive, I'm with a Domme. We know each other, we trust each other, we have confidence in each other. She is aware of my needs, I am aware of her's. We respect each other. She has defined my role. I accept it and accept her totally.

What she wants she gets. No matter what it is, no matter how I feel about it, what I think about it, I apply myself and she gets it. End of.

She fulfils my needs through having me fulfil her needs. If she wants something that's detrimental to me then it's going to be detrimental to the relationship and to her. In this case I walk, I don't look back and I don't dwell on it. I don't see any point in being with a Domme you cannot adequately or properly serve.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 8:33:37 PM

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Over the years My hard and soft limits have changed which is to be expected but My hard limits which are also those things I will not do because I just don't get pleasure from them are:
Underage
Rainbow (Vomit)
Illegal Drugs (Poppers and so forth)
Sexual Contact with those I do not have an intimate relationship with.
Extreme Forms of Breath Play
Changing Diapers
Most Role-Playing (this includes Fantasy Rape and Incest Reenactment)
"Do Me" and Bratty submissives
Switches
Mentally Unstable submissives
Animals
and finally.....Wasting My time

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/2/2007 8:55:54 PM

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I do NOT enjoy brats. I will try to explain My thinking...

I know that some Dommes find brats to be charming, but I don't. I enjoy proactive submission that is given freely and honestly once I have earned their trust. A submissive who needs to be overpowered (either mentally or physically) turns Me off.

I would also have to draw the line at a "submissive" who gets argumentative, insulting, or pouty when they disagree with someone. God forbid if they develop a victim syndrome. I don't want or need service from that type of person, and whenever I see that behavior, My estimation of them takes a nosedive. If that person is in service to another Dom/me, My estimation of that Dom/me also suffers if the "sub" continues unchecked. I don't associate with such persons.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 1:46:34 AM

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Viloet wands and e-stims......not because they hurt they just bore me....

Needles/knife play......

I just like hard heavy impact i guess

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 6:26:08 AM

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I am "no go" on the obvious biggie ones (kids and animals), as well as scat (ew). I personally don't care for knifeplay, adult babies, furries, and most roleplay -- that's fine if you like those, but they don't interest me. There's probably other things I'm forgetting, but that's what immediately comes to mind.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 7:05:48 AM

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I am not into extreme punishment, scat, animals of any sort, blood letting, scarification, toilet training or immobilization bondage. Also, slut training when it involveds being lent out to otehr people... deinfinate no go for me.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 8:48:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyDominaX

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ORIGINAL: petdave

i read somewhere about the "4 C's Rule": No children, critters, corpses, or ca-ca

I'll have to remember the 4C's.
Then again, to me this just translate to safe, sane, and with informed consent. On another site another Domme tried to tell me her dog was giving consent because he had an erection. Until such time as that dog can sign a release form stating that he understands the risks of STDs and other consequences, I don't consider it consensual, since it definitely isn't informed consent.

EXACTLY!!!!!!
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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 10:19:31 AM

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My hard limits (which haven't changed, nor can I see them changing) include the following:

Anything that goes against my personal ethos (ie beastiality, UM's, etc.)
Extreme forms of play that can lead to death or infection rather easily (ie breath play, necrophilia, etc.)
Sharing.... I don't share well (and no, I'm not the neurotic clinging vine where-are-you-every-minute-you're-not-with-me type)... if you have and STD, I'm not interested you sharing it with me. Nor am I interested in (sexually) sharing my partner with anyone else... but, depending on the play/scene, I don't have a problem with public playing. Go monogamous, or go home with someone else.
Bodily waste products/toilet play/yadda yadda.
Age play. As someone else mentioned, if I wanted kids, I'd have them. Besides, the whole diaper thing falls into scat play in my books.
Micromanaging your life. I have my own to manage, tyvm.

I think that's pretty much it... there's probably others, as some people are incredibly imaginative in what they think up, but for now, it works.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 11:13:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Just to play devil's advicate, who are you to decide what should or should not be an option for any one else not under your domination?
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ORIGINAL: TigressFL

Good thread, LadyPact

The following are my personal limits:

2. No animals –bestiality - Should not be an option for anyone!

I am not sure why you singled out number two when I am made that same statement on several others, however, it has nothing to do with "my domination". I do not know a human being on the planet that does not have just as strong opinions “about something” and it has nothing to do with D/s or being either a D or an s. It has to with the reality that we all make judgments’ about activities that somewhere, at sometime, someone has engaged in. I do not think "murder" should be an option, however, it is an option for serial killers and it happens everyday for many different reasons. Just because I don't think someone "should" do something does not mean people don't. The fact of the matter is that I stand for many things and I stand against many things, it is called being human and exercising my own mind. The number two on my list is simply something I stand against and as a result "do not think it is a "valid" option no matter how anyone would attempt to justify it. I make no apologies for being against anything including that, however, the attempted connection to "my dominance" is ridiculous to me as it is a human thing, nothing more, and nothing less.Good playing devil's advocate though.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 11:18:31 AM

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i would think there are certain topics that almost everyone includes as not an option. im often very suprised people feel they need to state them, im not judging anyone here. Just suggesting that for the most part some thing are never an option for the majority.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 7:55:17 PM

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Poly relationships are not my thing.
I would never be part of a stable.

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 8:06:36 PM

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Poly relationships are not my thing.
I would never be part of a stable.

And you shouln't have to be.

Not a Woman. She's too precious.

But a man, yes. men are better suited in stables. nude. healthy and strong. :)

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RE: What's not your thing? - 6/3/2007 8:32:48 PM

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MistressDolly, I love the way you think.

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