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Noah -> RE: Online vs. In Person lifestyles (6/2/2007 3:14:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife
How in the hell do you push your limits online? Oh, wait, I see.... I'm afraid of heights, deathly afraid of heights. But online I can stand atop a virtual skyscraper and gaze down upon the cyber cityscape and be totally at ease. Wow, I really overcame my hard limit! Now I am going to rack up 50,000 hours of simulated combat experience playing Splinter Cell, then go tell my father what a wimp he is in comparison because of his lesser combat time in Vietnam.
And while you're at it, ask your Poppa how much time the Air Force made him spend getting virtual instruction in a virtual flight trainer, on the ground, before he ever flew a mission. The effectiveness of virtual training had been established beyond doubt for a long while before that little war your dad helped America lose in S.E. Asia. Then if you're still feeling open-minded and inquisitive you can go see how tremendously much more the Air Force relies on virtual interaction as a component of training today than it did in the Viet Nam era.
I don't know which is more pathetic, your intolerance of things you plainly don't understand or the apparent lack of imagination which underlies it.
For shit's sake, people interact profoundly across centuries through literature. Lives are changed. Maybe you are unaware of this. And that's all done with the handicap of operating without two-way interaction. Can you really not wrap your head around the potential power of all the media at our disposal today for interpersonal communication?
For some of us this this isn't a 100% physical thing with no psychological or emotional components, though if you're content with the rewards you find in a single dimension I wish you all the best with it. Or maybe you enjoy the psychological, emotional and even spiritual components of BDSM, too, but happen to absolutely need physical interaction as a means to access those. That's cool. But what license do you think you have to insult people who happen to be capable of doing more with less than you are able to do? I'm not saying they are better than you but rather asking why you think they are worse.
To the OP I'll offer that though power-exchange and S&M played some role in my adult relationships all along, I never had a relationship founded and focused on these dynamics until I did so on the internet. After some months online I met my first such partner and even though as relative noobs we each made some unfortunate moves, the basis we had established with imaginative use of communication served us very well from the very first moment we met in person. I wish you similar good fortune.
Years (and several wonderful relationships) later I'm marrying one of those partners I first met and interacted with--and, yes, dominated--via long-distance rather than face-to-face communications. This fact probably has something to do with my amusement at those who say it simply can't be done.
As a matter of strictly personal preference it is a huge red flag to me to see someone deriding the potential for power-exchange-at-a-distance and personal growth through shared communication. I mean if it can happen face-to-face it can happen from the next room, right? And if it can happen from the next room it can happen from continents away as long as all parties act with sincerity. Note that I say that as a guy who has for some years had another treasured partner living in the upsidedown hemisphere.
It is fine to simply prefer strictly physical interaction. Fine with me, anyway.
Beyond considerations of preference, people who require physical interaction to enforce sincerity or overcome mistrust have just as much right to be kinky as I do, and to do it their way. I wish them the best in finding one another.
That some of these people seem to think themselves superior to the rest of us is what I find amusing.
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