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littlespike -> RE: I need some help (5/23/2005 6:10:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: vishant
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I'm been in many relations where I as a sub was never or very seldom allowed to get off, for a number of diffrent reasons, left at the descresion of the dom, of course. It wasn't by my choice. The problem is now, that I am in a serious long term relationship with my gf. We've been living together for over a year now, (this is by no means a d/s relation. Strictly "love', We're both into the life style, to diffrent degrees, and for many reasons she isn't willing or can't dominate me out side of just bedroom play.) Since i've been out of my past relations, I have not been able to orgasim, under any sircumstance. not through my gf or masturbation. I've come to the conclusion that it is because I was trained no to. dose any one have any advice as to how to deal with this problem as it is becoming very stressfull.
this is her original post in general discussion. she has not bin able to orgasm in any way. After seeing sex Therapists and a number of different things this is conclusion she has come up with. I am trying to help and this happens to be the last thing i can think of to do. But I do not have any knowledge on the subject (for real life encounters). I have tried looking on the internet and I am just trying to get as much information of "how to" as i can.
Hi vishant, orgasim is a very beautiful thing. If she cannot have one by herself then perhaps you could help. Here is a nice book written by a lesbian named Violet Blue; The ultimate guide to Cunnilingus. Perrhaps a weekend afternoon and evening set aside for a quiet meal, sensual massage, and a night of great sex. Cunnilingus and some toys plus an atmoshpere of no distractions. Communication is very important. If she tells you what feels good and not then you can make "it" happen for her.
i can say from experience that providing her with the necessary O would be mutually benefitual.
respectfully
little spike
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