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DanskinSub -> Enemas (6/3/2007 8:19:30 AM)

My question is, how does a sincere real Sub go about trying to find a REAL Domme to explore this area? Many list the area as an Interest and never return e-mails or inquiries so it makes you wonder who are the fakes and wannabees at times.



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:27:15 AM)

So if they're not interested in giving you an enema....they're not REAL?



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:29:33 AM)

That would be my question as well.  Are you asking to see if you can find a non-pro into your kink as you are? Or are you insinuating that those of us who find enemas and the like to be a turn off are not REAL dommes?

DV



DanskinSub -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:30:49 AM)

You misunderstood the question......Which was why do Dommes list this area as
a subject they wish to pursue then no one will reply to very polite inquiries and this has been a trend not an exception. Why list the activity if in fact its not something they wish to do



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:40:08 AM)

So is your real question why aren't Dommes answering your emails?



chiaThePet -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:40:24 AM)

They're just playing with your head bro, part and parcel of the journey,
keeping a boy off balance is a good thing. OR, they're just not interested
in you, (sigh) another part and parcel of the journey. Doesn't necessarily
make them fakes or wannabees, (been trying to catch one of these at the
hive but have had no luck at all), simply makes Them selective, of which
They have a right to be such. Don't be so "full of it" :)

At MystressWorld, my Dearest Mystress shares that when displeased with
a boy, She will apply a chocolate custard enema to his attitude, then send
him on his way. Must make for quite the walk home. Squish, squish.

ch ch ch chia* (the pet)



DanskinSub -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:44:49 AM)

Thanks for absolutely nothing........This is typical of what you normally find and why many of the REAL people that are open minded enough and mature enough to pursue new Areas get turned off and just walk away. And oh by the way Sonnet Marwood your not a native of the Eastern shore and it shows in your arrogant obnoxious tone



SadisticMan -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:48:00 AM)

 Just because one may list enemas as an interest, I wouldn't start off the conversation
wanting my ass filled with liquids.  Personally it's not for me.
If you desire to experience that just go see a ProDomme who will do that for you.
Why not.... instant gratification, and overall, you'll spend that much in dating someone
before you ever get to that point. 
Even if I was into enemas, it wouldn't be at the top of my list of things to do quickly you know.......



hereyesruponyou -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:50:04 AM)

Are your mails asking just for this? A person may list that as something they enjoy doing as part of the whole process, but that doesn't mean they want to work with someone whose sole interest is using thier knowledge of enemas. Are you offering anything in return? Your way of phrasin even on here sounds much like a "do me" sub. "I want to try enemas. You say you liike them. Therefore if i write to you asking about it you should fall on your knees and beg to play with me".  YOU don't even list that as an interest in your profile. And your profile also sounds demanding. Not criticising, just saying if you mailed me, i would have looked at your profile and sent a no thanks

I happen to greatly enjoy enemas with my partner. I look forward to introducing that play into the training of a sub i am hoping to take on soon. But in both instances it will not be the main focus at all. 

The only REAL Domme that allows you to show up, get only what you want and leave is a Pro. Don't get mad at everyone else because we want something other than money.



chiaThePet -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:50:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DanskinSub

Thanks for absolutely nothing........This is typical of what you normally find and why many of the REAL people that are open minded enough and mature enough to pursue new Areas get turned off and just walk away. And oh by the way Sonnet Marwood your not a native of the Eastern shore and it shows in your arrogant obnoxious tone


Come on bro, you give up much to easily, never gonna realize success if
you just get all "tight assed" about it. Really, think about it.

ch ch ch chia* (the pet) 

edited cause i'm on my fourth mamosa 



SadisticMan -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:52:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DanskinSub

Thanks for absolutely nothing........This is typical of what you normally find and why many of the REAL people that are open minded enough and mature enough to pursue new Areas get turned off and just walk away. And oh by the way Sonnet Marwood your not a native of the Eastern shore and it shows in your arrogant obnoxious tone


well, I don't need to wonder anymore why you don't get responses



chiaThePet -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:53:58 AM)

edited the "whole" thing out as i had a sense of deja vu

though the "tight assed" comment is worth repeating. :)

ch ch ch chia* (the pet) 



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:54:09 AM)

LOL I do indeed believe there is life west of the Bay Bridge, and I'm proud of that.

If you see trying to get to the heart of the issue as being obnoxious, then my sympathies to you and I wish you luck in trying to hold conversations online with people. 

There are multiple threads online about why people don't answer emails - it's just the way the internet it.  It could be the way you're approaching them (focusing on whether or not they'll do a specific activity to you is usually a good way to not get a reply), it could be they don't like your profile, it could be they just don't feel like it because they get a lot of emails from subs.

If someone lists something as an interest, their lack of response to an email doesn't mean they're not interested in that activity.  What it does mean is that for whatever reason, they're not interested in replying to you.

Male subs, particularly those with limited experience, being in the majority online, have a rough time getting replies.  There are a lot of ways to help stack the deck more in your favor, and distinguish yourself from being one of the horny masses.   Standing in judgement of who is TWUE and REAL isn't one of them.  Good luck with that.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:55:32 AM)

If the question is why you are not getting emails back, then perhaps it is becasue, though enemas are among the interests listed, it is probably only one of many things they are looking for from a prospective sub. I know personally, someone who expresses interest in only one ofmy interests is far less likely to get a resoonse than someone who makes themselves sound like a multi-faceted playmate.  Granted, I have no idea what sort of introduction you are sending to those who are not responding to you. However, remember you have to get someones attention, and going from not knowing them at all to wanting them to consider you for an act like that is not likely to garner much interest.  As with most activities in the lifestyle in general, you ahve to lead up to it.  I have many interests listed, that doesnt mean someone who shares them with me is necessarily going to be asked to come serve.

If youd like help with your introductory email, contact me on the other side and maybe we can find your difficulty.

DV

PS if you ask something, be prepared for snarky comments when you word it certain ways. When you start out sounding like you are accusatory, you will get the same in response. Work on your wording, you'l have more success.



Majik -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:56:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DanskinSub

My question is, how does a sincere real Sub go about trying to find a REAL Domme to explore this area? Many list the area as an Interest and never return e-mails or inquiries so it makes you wonder who are the fakes and wannabees at times.


Could the reason we don't answer is because alot of us do have jobs and families outside of CM? Or could another reason be we get so many emails a day that sometimes it is just to overwhelming to try and answer them all? I for one do not asnwer every single email I get. If I did I would never be able to get into the boards to post occasionally. Another reason could be that the Ladies you are emailing could already have a sub/slave and don't see a reason to answer. Think about it. The world does not revolve around you.

As to your question about why I personally list this as a preference. I happen to enjoy giving my sub enemas as much as he likes recieving them. I could go on and on as to why we enjoy it but rather not provide more wank material that necessary for all our trolls out there.[;)]




hereyesruponyou -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 8:57:12 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DanskinSub

And oh by the way Sonnet Marwood your not a native of the Eastern shore and it shows in your arrogant obnoxious tone


What the hell is that supposed to mean?  You think there are only chicken farmers and white trash here? Grow up



KaramelGoddess -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 9:01:32 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DanskinSub

Thanks for absolutely nothing........This is typical of what you normally find and why many of the REAL people that are open minded enough and mature enough to pursue new Areas get turned off and just walk away. And oh by the way Sonnet Marwood your not a native of the Eastern shore and it shows in your arrogant obnoxious tone


Hmm.  Mystery solved.



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 9:02:04 AM)

LOL Yep, hereyes, that was an amusing comment on SO many levels...



kc692 -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 9:06:12 AM)

Just because it may be an interest of one of us, for example, I think it's listed in my profile, does not mean that is all we are interested in.. I can only speak for myself, but I have to know you a bit before I am interested in filling your ass up.  No offense, asses are less than a dime a dozen, and take it from me, you have REAL dommes answering you on this thread, so maybe the other ones that are not interested are REAL too. 

It has been my experience, if there is a group of people, and only one is having the problem, then that one needs to examine the POSSIBILITY   it just may be them.  Noone is saying you aren't REAL, unlike your comments, just that you are a little one dimensional for most tastes.

edited to add: I am not from the East, I am from the South, before you notice.

edited to add yet again:  I just went and perused your profile(s).  May I suggest picking a side, dom or sub? Or do you know where your REAL side lies? 



MsKatHouston -> RE: Enemas (6/3/2007 9:57:22 AM)

Dommes do not want to be approached with something akin to "will you do x with me".  We like to be approached in an effort to get to know us.  We want a submissive to want us for who we are not what we can do for them.  So, if you are approaching in that manner, this may be the reason your emails are going unanswered.

If your tone is anything like your responses in this thread, I would think that might be another reason.  Being polite, especially when you have received valid, albeit not what you wanted to hear, answers to your query.



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