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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/4/2007 12:31:59 PM

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I frequently wish I could have that sort of relationship with the anger management class drop-out I was married to.

Unfortunately, the only relationship she wants to have with me is mortal combat, a phyrric victory where all relationships, her children, her life, and everything else, are things she is willing to sacrifice to "win," whatever
that means to her.

It only takes one to try to start a fight, and sometimes the only reasonable solution when one is attacked is to go somewhere else.

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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/4/2007 12:56:35 PM

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Not very long ago my best friend, an ex, died. Losing her and her friendship was far more painful than the end of our relationship was. A few months later I lost another friend that was a potential relationship in the works. If such a thing as soulmate does exist, she was most definately mine. It was a very difficult year.

I have only had a small number of "relationships" in my life. Even the worst relationship was with a person that deserves better than being treated badly simply because, together we could not make a relationship work.

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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/4/2007 2:12:42 PM

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As I was taught - there is their side, your side, and the truth is somewhere down the middle.

It takes two to make a relationship work, it takes two for it to come apart.

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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/4/2007 2:27:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Wow, we need more members like SlpBeauty. Very wise!

Thanks Lord and Master. I probably picked up such wisdom from one of my exs :)

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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/4/2007 2:52:51 PM

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As I was taught - there is their side, your side, and the truth is somewhere down the middle.

It takes two to make a relationship work, it takes two for it to come apart.

Exactly!

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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/4/2007 4:51:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: bliss1

As I was taught - there is their side, your side, and the truth is somewhere down the middle.

It takes two to make a relationship work, it takes two for it to come apart.

It only takes one person to attack or ambush another.

Spiritually, physically, emotionally, militarily, whatever.

I spent four years of my life doing everything I possibly could to not let her drag me into conflict, with
limited success. I knew it was hopeless when the conciliator for the divorce court tried to convince me to
file contempt charges against her, and offered to be a witness.

I told him it would not teach her to modify her behavior, and my children would end up the losers, so I
turned the other cheek and refused to engage in a fight with her.

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RE: Value placed on past relationships... - 6/5/2007 11:20:56 AM

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I have learned that for someone to cause us harm, to have it affect us negatively, we have to allow it.

There have been bad moments in past relationships that were agony at the time. In retrospect I realize that I, as much as the other person, helped create that moment. I have to take responsibility for that. In addition, I find that in all bad moments there has been some nugget, however small, of something good. A lesson learned, a strength gained, always something.

Even the most difficult relationship, the most painful of times, I am thankful for. They have helped me get to where I am now. Where I am today is a pretty damned wonderful place.

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