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Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:34:55 PM   
possom


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Status: offline 		Hi all

I'm curious to know how many of you practise safe sex with play partners, whether it be casual play or D/s.

The reason I ask is that I have been approached by a couple of Doms who do not use any form of protection with their play partners.  For me, safe sex is ESSENTIAL. 

Am I missing something here?
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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:37:42 PM   
lilsubl


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Status: offline 		some people practice safer sex, some don't...what really matters is that you do what it is that's important to you to do...if you want your play partners to use some kind of protection, don't play with the ones who won't....simple

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:37:57 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Nope, plenty of people in the scene do not use protection of any sort.

But like everything, you decide for yourself what you will and will not accept in your life.

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:38:55 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		NOTE:  This is NOT a snarky reply.  Please take it at face value.

What you're missing is that only your opinion matters.  What 'we' do, or think, is of little relevance since it isn't 'you' that we're infecting or not.

Jeff

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:42:02 PM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: possom

Hi all

I'm curious to know how many of you practise safe sex with play partners, whether it be casual play or D/s.

The reason I ask is that I have been approached by a couple of Doms who do not use any form of protection with their play partners.  For me, safe sex is ESSENTIAL. 

Am I missing something here?


No, you are not.  However, the DOMS are missing something, their condoms :)

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I'm not inflatable.


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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:43:14 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I have two people that I currently play with and sex is a big part of play.  Safer sex is a mandatory practice for me.  I would not like to see any of us hurt needlessly.

Good luck and don't compromise on your values.

Psy

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:43:46 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: possom

Hi all

I'm curious to know how many of you practise safe sex with play partners, whether it be casual play or D/s.

The reason I ask is that I have been approached by a couple of Doms who do not use any form of protection with their play partners.  For me, safe sex is ESSENTIAL. 

Am I missing something here?


Dominant or not, no man is hitting a home run until he agrees to wear a condom. And I hate the damn things. Valyraen and I only stopped using them after we had been dating for several months and we both passed full STD testing. Honestly, I don't recall anything else ever being an option.

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 6:49:42 PM   
possom


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Status: offline 		Yes.. thank you all  =)  Tis not something I am willing to compromise on either.. maybe I need to add it to my profile...

No glove.. no love  ;P

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/3/2007 7:01:52 PM   
YourShyPet


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Status: offline 		<takes off her kittin ears momentarily, and puts her fairy wings on... tosses handfuls of condoms in every direction... and in her best Fairy Condom voice says.... "Please glove up, before you love up."


kittin

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/4/2007 12:04:03 AM   
HeavansKeeper


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Status: offline 		Personally, I'm paranoid of STD's.  I have gotten full blood work after each partner.  My answer will be one extreme, the safe one.  Unless you're a fluid family, I would suggest always practicing safe sex.  Assume every person you ever get near has HIV, Herpes, HPV, The Clap, and The Crabs.  =P  This will ensure you take the preparations you need to when your number comes up.  TV said "most people contract herpes from their partner who had no signs of an outbreak."

Some carnal pleasures are not allowed in strict safe sex.  No tasting cum, no unprotected oral, no water sports (although I'm 90% sure urine is sterile), blar blar blar... Personally, I think nothing replaces unprotected oral fun, but I have a major oral fixation.  I wouldn't endanger myself for the fun, but if I was 100% sure (trust is not enough, blood/urine/saliva tests are) my partner was clean, then the game is on.

Outside of fluid-families, I would say anyone having unprotected sex is simply a gambler.  My profile lists me as an expert gambler, and when those are the stakes, the book says fold every time.

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/4/2007 6:06:22 PM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		I think its an interesting issue because many men generally dislike condoms and have no problem using emotional blackmail to persuade you not to use them. I always have done, but have had an sti before, it was one that my aunt suffered with and it made her infirtie, i am super safe now i have regular checks and still insist on condoms, an argument is that it disjoints play. Well i always suggest encorperating it into it, either way i would never have sex without a condom unless i was very very serious about the person. and as a lot of people have said it is your decision

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/4/2007 8:16:21 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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From: Cali
Status: offline 		The ONLY safe sex is no sex, since all sex carries risk.

Yet, if you are gonna have intercourse, protection is a MUST, a condom gives great protection, and with so many pretty colours, styles, flavors, sensativities, etc to choose from, get a small variety and let him pick one, kinda like that scene from Pretty Woman where she gives him the choice of 3 different ones.  

Considering that I had to stop ALL birthcontrol, pills, etc due to health reasons, my form of birth control IS condoms, my partner knows that, so if we both have been 'cleared' and he still doesn't want to use one, and its monogumous, he risks me getting pregnant, and trust me, if it happens he WILL be paying child support; with that thought, most men will use a condom, the alternative is pregnancy.

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/5/2007 1:27:10 AM   
Guilty1974


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From: Den Haag
Status: offline 		No condom with my life partner, a condom with anyone else. Plain and simple.

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/5/2007 3:19:50 AM   
teachu2bgood


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Joined: 3/28/2005
Status: offline 		It is my feeling sex should be part of negotiation before playing. If the people you are playing with or having sex with are not your life partner they should understand that. Never compromise your personal feelings, wants or needs if you are NOT in a committed relationship. If they wanted to do another form of play that was a limit would you compromise? Probably NOT. So why with sex. The bottom line is the choice to have safe sex is yours.   Good luck and stay safe. Teacher

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RE: Question on Safe Sex - 6/5/2007 3:47:15 AM   
MrrPete


Posts: 614
Joined: 11/7/2005
Status: offline 		If you asked me to use some protection I would - for MY protection.
I know my status but not yours. I can't get a woman pregnant either.

In the early 60's I was home ported in the STD capital of the Phillipines.
Subic Bay. It was stupid but I rode bareback anyway and never caught
anything. I was damned lucky.

These days I'm a bit more picky who I sleep with and generally get to know
a prospective partner well enough that it's not a BIG issue.

If you ask for it I'll do it but you supply it and you put it on without using your hands



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