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curioussub24 -> Advice (6/4/2007 11:32:28 AM)
Hello! Im kinda new, kinda not. I had a profile on CM for a while about 6 months ago, and chose to take it down and have a bit of a break. I put it up a few months ago, and since have spent alot of time talking to a Dom I had met before my break (we reconnected again this time around). We have deceided to take things further, and I was wondering if anyone had any words of advice. He has around 8 years experience, much more than I. Im a little nervous that I may dissapoint, since there is alot I havent experienced before.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Advice (6/4/2007 11:35:42 AM)
You're both going to disappoint eachother at some point, it's just what happens. You probably won't even mean to. Just be yourself and be open. You both need to communicate what you want, need, desire and think about your future. You both have to be accountable to the relationship and as long as everyone's being reasonable, you'll do fine.

toservez -> RE: Advice (6/4/2007 11:42:47 AM)
Just remember it is a relationship just like all other relationships you have had in the past. Patience and working through issues and problems is important. It is not about success or failure either in the moment or long term but if you two are good for each other and compatible in what hopefully mutually equal goal of what you want out of the relationship. If this was a regular relationship it would not make you this nervous if the man had dated a lot more? Being submissive is not about losing yourself but enhancing who you are. My advice is be you at all times, be positive and communicate your true feelings, the good and the bad, along the way with the other person and do not look at it ever like it is either success or failure. It is life just like all other things.

curioussub24 -> RE: Advice (6/4/2007 1:11:26 PM)
Thank you both for the comments.

spanklette -> RE: Advice (6/4/2007 3:29:33 PM)
Make sure that you let him know about your anxiety and that the rules are upfront. My Daddy has spent less time in the lifestyle than me, but it didn't change the questions that we asked each other or the dynamic. And, after a certain point, in a long term realtionship...time in the lifestyle ceases to matter as long as you are pleasing your partner and you are fulfilled dong so.

octavia -> RE: Advice (6/4/2007 5:38:38 PM)
Don't forget to enjoy every minute of it. [:)] I like to always remember that no matter what happens there is always something to be learned from every person and every experience I encounter. If you don't relax within the first few minutes of chit chat you might try redirecting your focus to this. It has helped me oodles of times on first dates. Have fun! octavia

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