Griswold
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady This is also a General Reply First of all, the average SINGLE food stamp recipient in NOT receiving $94 a week. Food Stamps is a Federal Program, so one county will not be "cheaper" than another county is what they will provide. In December of last year, the timing belt went on my car. For those who don't understand the impact - it would cost more to fix the car than the car was worth. I was able to get rides to work for a while, but when that became a problem, I lost my job. So now I am living in an area where the nearest bus stop is more than 5 miles away with no transportation. Consequently I became homeless in January. Literally. Social Services "placed" me in a boarding house that was, luckily, in "town". I had a roof over my head, but it was against the rules to have any type of cooking appliances in the room. The boarding house (which ironically was over a restaurant) did not have ANY kitchen facilities at all. I received $154 a month in food stamp benefits, and $140 in "general assistance". From the general assistance $75 a month was taken to put towards the room in the boarding house. Toilet paper, shampoo, femine hygeine product, tooth paste, etc. are NOT able to be purchased using food stamps. I managed to get Social Services to help me get into an apartment, my cousin gave me a car. I live in an area where if you don't drive, you are not going to be able to work. I was not trying to live off the system, although I saw many in the boarding house who obviously were. It was extremely difficult to convince them to help me get my own place, but I managed to do it. I have a very small one bedroom apartment that costs $750 a month, which is dirt cheap for the area in which I live, but is also 20 minutes from the nearest grocery store. I am getting back on my feet now after the most dehumanizing, humiliating experience of my life. The majority of people who are collecting who do not have children living with them are not looking to sit home all day "living off the system". If one can live extravagantly on the amounts I listed, it would be a miracle. SSI is not reduced by child support. Child support is reduced by SSI. SSI DOES take into consideration the income of the parents in conjunction with the disability of the child. The co-worker is bilking the system and I sincerely hope that she gets caught. It is a felony offense and could result in imprisonment, but always results in repaying the funds. Is it possible to food shop on $21 a week? Depends on where you live. Northern NJ does not have a whole lot of discount grocery stores. One can only buy in bulk if they have the space to store it. I have a college education and used to work as a professional wearing a suit to work everyday, and having a job where the work I did and the decisions I made could "make or break" the lives of others. Now I wait tables. The work and other personal tragedies in my life have caused me to suffer from generalized anxiety disorder - translation, I get panic attacks. I have had the disorder since I was in my mid 20s (coincidentally started when I met my ex husband, hmmm), but they were under control for 15 years. Now they aren't under control. Waiting tables, for me, is a no stress kind of job, yet affords me the ability to keep a roof over my head. Just barely, but I manage. I save on food by working a lot. One of the few perks of the job is free food. So what I keep at home is typically convenience food. I bought a week's worth of groceries for 10 bucks. Frozen pizza (less than a dollar each) and some mac and cheese. Ok, so I am rambling. Lack of sleep will do that to you. The point is yes, one can survive food wise on $21 a week, no it isn't easy. The attitude of saying just go to work doesn't really fly. Too many employers don't pay their employees a living wage. Move up the corporate ladder at Walmart or the local supermarket? They won't even hire someone full time, because then they would have to pay benefits. I am lucky in that I do have skills. I do, on occasion take on freelance work from my previous career. Most people collecting welfare have no education. The existing programs to teach them skills are less than adequate and really don't qualify as a stepping stone. Go back to school? If the system has decided that you need to work, they will stop your benefits if you decide to go to school. Financial Aid and Grants pay the tuition, not for books. Sitting up on the mighty throne and saying that it is not that difficult should try it. A woman named Barbara Ehrenreich did and wrote a book "Nickel and Dimed: On (not) getting buy in America". The guy who used to do the FX show "Thirty Days" tried it too (forget his name at the moment). They started with the same idea as you "soapbox sitters". Then they got a rude awakening. Having read Lafayettelady's prose, I can only apologize. Having found a rather massive supply of tremendously enjoyable plume while moving things during a remodel...and having indulged in same just prior to my more than indulgent copy...I can say that, again, having read her sonnet...it's pretty obvious that a) my writings were those of a deranged asshole...and b) not all is at it appears to be. I believe you can live on less. I've done it. My comments were originally to support the OP...having read what I wrote, I'm not entirely convinced I succeeded. Nevertheless... I actually don't know if you can do $21.00 a week today...us 48 year olds are starting to remember shit based on 15 years ago (sue me!!!...gawdammit...some parts of this growing old shit totally fucking sucks!!!!), whether for a single person or a group of more. RealOne...(as much as I hate to admit it) was correct in his assumptions (but that doesn't excuse those that could...but choose not to)....however, I will say this.... I've done it for less (than most would believe possible)...as a single person, as well as...as a couple...and we never starved, in fact, we ate quite well. We even ate out. It was those decisions that allowed me to find other ways to do things (all things) for less, and by virtue, fear less, my economic future. Admitedly, I was much younger then, and we didn't have HDTV's, computers, cell phones, etc., staring us in the face either... But my grandparents didn't have black and white TV's, houses that cost more than $3,600.00, or cars that didn't have FM radios either. Things change....I'm in the middle of this current transformation...but your time (if you're younger) is coming too. Many would believe that living on this ($21.00 a week) income level would define you as wanting. Nothing could be further from the truth. (But it ain't gonna be easy). Amy Dacyczyn, the originator of "The Tightwad Gazette"....a subscription I paid 12 bucks a year for when I was broke in the early 90's, for 3 years running...12 monthly issues (now, I'd presume, in paperback....no I don't get any money for this, she hasn't published for years) http://www.context.org/ICLIB/IC26/Dacyczyn.htm This woman raised 4 or 5 kids on damn near nothing (don't quote me on the particulars because I'll probably get them wrong...but for the following...assume my numbers have some relational value), her husband was some kind of carpenter extraordinaire, and she could make jam like nobodies business...(along with sew clothes, get appliances damn near, or in fact.....for free....she could turn a T-Shirt into a Vera Wang wedding dress that Entertainment Tonight would cover....and it goes on....). And on something quite akin to whispers or fumes...they bought a house for next to nothing....fixed it up with shit they got for free....mowed the lawn, made sandwiches, opened windows when it was hot....put plastic on them when it was cold..and largely made every penny they found jump to attention and scream "HOLY MOTHER of Fucking GOD!!!!!" every time they considered (and very likely debated for days) spending that very penny. It can be done. (That's actually what I meant to say before I decided to go entirely insane). You can have (much) more if you consider the above. As per LafayetteLady whom I'm responding to...whom I am more than thankful for writing as she did...without address to "assholes" (thankfully), she's correct. I learned (a lot from) your post. I'd like to say it was humility...but that would probably be a stretch...nevertheless, it's absolute... (I'm a little bit less of an asshole tonight because of you....I hope). (Thanks).
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