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sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 3:55:13 PM   
lippyangelicsub


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sorry if this sounds a bit thick but i just wanted to know, are there such things as Masters who want a submissive or slave but nothing sexual involved or is it all tied in together so to speak?
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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 3:56:34 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		If you can imagine it, rest assured that someone is doing it.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 3:58:10 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		I have had a few relationships where sex was NOT involved; I have plenty of friends who JUST have 'play partners,' no sex.

BDSM is not about sex, sex is brought into 'things' by those concerned.

Personally, I want a well rounded, all inclusive relationship, so sex has GOT to be part of things.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:03:04 PM   
onmykneesforhim


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Status: offline 		Hi lippyangel
I think BDSM is sex in itself. One can orgasm from being tied and spanked, I have anyway. But then if defining sex as penitration, then by all means, sex is not for everyone. Is this deeper than what you are asking??
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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:07:12 PM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: bandit25

If you can imagine it, rest assured that someone is doing it.


True enough.

It all depends on how you explain what you are looking for and what you can offer AND who you then choose to pursue things with.

If you don't want X activity or Y dynamic do not pair up with someone who does what those things.

I'd love another slave who could function as my personal research assistant and secretary. Sex is unnecessary in that relationship in my household. However it would require a rather specific educational background.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:10:07 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Actually, tammyjo, I just wanted to get that in before LA!  But it is true.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:19:40 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		What does sex have to do with orgasm? You can have sex and NOT orgasm, as well has orgasm or cum without sex.

Sex is just intercourse, in its most basic definition. Play not intercourse, easy enough.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:24:20 PM   
dawntreader


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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Actually, tammyjo, I just wanted to get that in before LA!  But it is true.


ROFL!!!!
 
And to answer the OP...yes

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:48:49 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		My girl and I aren't a sexual couple. I know many, many Master slave couples who aren't. Most aren't because they are not even of the same sexual orientation. If you don't want sex in the relationship, keep looking! We're out here.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:55:42 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		I agree....especially with beauty regarding what sex is and is not.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 4:56:22 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Angel and I are not sexualy involved, though he has been my collared slave for nearly a year (Sept 13 is our anniversary) It is possible, though the dynamics of a non-sexual relationship are usualy far different than those of a sexual one. Just keep looking for what you want.

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 5:29:33 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: bandit25
Actually, tammyjo, I just wanted to get that in before LA!  But it is true.

ROFLMAO

I was totally going to demand credit for it as well :)

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 6/6/2007 5:30:34 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		LOL!  I figured as much...that's why I named you in my post :)

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 7/9/2007 12:47:48 AM   
Runs2deep2002


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Status: offline 		"Sex is just intercourse, in its most basic definition."

Ah, you've been hanging around with that Clinton fellow again haven't you?

< Message edited by Runs2deep2002 -- 7/9/2007 12:48:29 AM >

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 7/9/2007 12:59:03 AM   
MistressAsher


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ORIGINAL: onmykneesforhim

I think BDSM is sex in itself.

Exactly!

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RE: sex and the submissive/slave - 7/9/2007 1:05:58 AM   
HardnRuff


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Status: offline 		My view is this ... BDSM is not all about sex , But I think sex is what atracted the vast majority of us to it . What if I were in a car wreck and say got  messed up and could not perform sexualy any more and you were My slave . Would you leave Me or stand by Me?.. If something like that ever happened what do you think Id just go back to being vanilla again ? I Most def wouldnt.... I Know alot of folks who play with no sex involved at all . In fact most kink clubs sex is not permitted in public anyway.... But I do like to take Mine back to the room to * Use* after playing in public, Is sex the main thing for Me ? That answer would be  NO. Do I love sex as much as the next ?? YES and maybe even a little more if that is possible...I Know many who are only into the pain side or the Ds side or bondage and never have any sex with the person .. To each their own... Thats the beautiful part of this life .. Nothing is set  in stone .. what works for you and yours May or may not work for another !

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