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Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/27/2005 4:51:42 PM

fastlane

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I am very serious about this and would love to hear from all of you. I've been into the lifestyle for three years now. I have had two subs serve me and currently have a trainee. However, I am 44 years old and wish to be served and to train someone much younger. Why, maybe a mid age crisis, maybe I'm mentally younger than my current sub., maybe because I like the idea of having someone so dependent on me that she can not stand up for herself, like middle aged subs.
I would really like to know many things about this topic and am encouraged by the Daddy/Doms that reside here.
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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/27/2005 6:08:11 PM

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It sounds to me like you think that a young sub would be easier to fool into believing you are a Dom than a middle aged one? The problem is, most young subs would think you are an old fart. Which you might be...

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/27/2005 6:46:38 PM

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Thank you for your reply, which was rude and uncalled for, but then again, from your pictues I can understand why.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/27/2005 7:36:47 PM

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Eloquent as usual Estring............ Q sends hugs

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 5:06:25 AM

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So someone say my age, 45, does not have that desire to be "dependent" of someone? To me this just sounds like someone my age would never give up her mind, body and soul to one person because she can stand up for herself? Sorry am not trying to be rude, just trying to understand why a younger person, in your mind, can be this way and an older person, as myself, could not. Just my opinion and as i am reaching my 46th birthday it just depresses me to know there is yet another fault that i have to contend with.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 7:02:05 AM

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I think you don't realize that the term "daddy dom" is not synonomous with just being a dirty old man wanting to molest the young chicks.

This isn't an interest of mine, but as I understand it age play and being a daddy dom can involve a sub of any age. That kink involves the sub acting like a kid, maybe playing hop scotch and coloring in books with crayons and the daddy makes her feel safe and all that.

That dynamic has little to do with what you described, and your cluelessness is what e-string probably picked up on. Though you may think his reply was rude, it looked about on the mark to me as usual. Now, I can't knock being a dirty old man because I can certainly relate to that, but I'd suggest you don't continue trying to sell it as daddy dom because you'll just end up looking like a fool . . . again.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 8:22:18 AM

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Thank you for all of your input and it is appreciated. Perhaps I have mis spoke and my intentions were misunderstood. I visited www.adevotedslave.com, Dierdre's site, who also post here. I saw the lifestyle she leads, with her Master, who she referred to as Daddy Dom. He is 51 and she is 26, but their relationship together is beautiful to witness. I have yet to meet my lifelong slave, but those two found each other and I found myself wanting to search for a relationship like they have. I enjoy the BDSM lifestyle, but do not consider myself a pervert just looking to fuck a younger girl. I look at myself as one who would like to train a younger submissive to serve me 24/7 and build on the relatioship of trust and care, while teaching her the lifestyle.
Again, thank you all for your input. An old Dom can learn new tricks

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 8:37:08 AM

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The actual age, as someone else already pointed out, has nothing to do with "Age Play" in a DaddyDom relationship. I know of many who do such age play where the sub is actually older than her Daddy. If you are looking for a lasting relationship with that dynamic, you need to look for someone who has the interest and is compatable with you - not an age.

I'm honestly quite offended by part of your first post as well ....

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maybe because I like the idea of having someone so dependent on me that she can not stand up for herself, like middle aged subs.

Who the hell are you to say that someone my age (27) cannot stand up for herself??? I know plenty of people my age who are quite independant, but who CHOOSE to submit to someone - it has nothing to do with their ability to "stand up for herself" (or himself, of course).

This thread brings to mind the thread that LA started about the Pygmalionesque approach that so many Doms seem to use that most Dommes have no interest in. That is what you seem to have in mind - and as I said in her thread, there is a huge difference between the mindset of someone who feels that he/she has to "save" someone, or "fix their problems" and someone who enjoys the DaddyDom dynamics. You seem to have the mindset of the former, rather than the latter ...

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 9:52:28 AM

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I can understand a preference for someone based on age--I prefer my partners to be my own age.

What I can't undersatnding is wanting someone based almost -solely- on age. I get this some, still. It makes me feel like I am an object not because of my submissive nature but because of my age. I have no problem being objectified based on the first, but based it on the second and it makes me mad.

Still, go with the dynamic that works for you, but as Sweet said, do NOT think that those of us, at 19 or 22 or whatever are unable tos tand up for ourselves. Nor, I think, is it wise to seek a dynamic which includes a helpless party. That comes pretty dang close to a huge violation of consent in my book.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 10:08:41 AM

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Sweet......and .....Perverse, you both make valid points and this Dom is getting very tired of apologizing, but will once more, for being so closed minded.
This Dom is never a bottom, but for once, "just whip my Ass and let's be done with all of this, once and for all!"
Fastlane, retreats and will choose his words more carefully on future threads.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 1:21:45 PM

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you know there is nothing wrong with owning an older sub and desiring to fuck a young succlulent one..... for whatver reasons you choose.... My daddy does so...and i will never stop lookin for the one i feel is appropraite for him ....

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dont let anyone tell you your desires are not approriate.....

Daddy knows i love to fuck younger men ....so he gives me the freedom...
its is truly what ever floayd your boat!!

When you begin to let others to limit your desires. you compromise them...dont ever compromise who you are and wha you desire.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 4:35:20 PM

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It's great that you and your Daddy have a good relationship. But the flak that fastlane encountered was because of his denigrating of middle aged and younger subs. That the slight was not meant is evident now with his later postings. Nobody was trying to limit his desires as far as I can see.
As you so eloquently stated: whatever floayd your boat.

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RE: Daddy Doms and the odds? - 5/28/2005 5:51:46 PM

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Thank you slavedesires for understanding and to E, who was right on the mark, before re-instated my intention, or atleast clarifying it? That is why this Forum is very informative to me and I am always learning. A wise Dom is a good Dom.
Or in other words an iquiry Dom wants to know!

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