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FreeSpiritSpero -> Help please (6/8/2007 5:27:53 AM)

I have an online Master who lives across the pond, i am in London, he is in Florida.  The trouble is i never know when he will be online.  I worry that something will happen to him and I will never know. I emailed him last Sunday but he has not responded? have i stepped out of place?

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MstrssPassion -> RE: Help please (6/8/2007 5:36:58 AM)

people go *poof* all the time
they get what they wanted out of the cyber-interaction & off they go

based on the extremely limited information you provided here, there is no way to determine if you "stepped out of line"




nighthawk3569 -> RE: Help please (6/8/2007 5:47:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FreeSpiritSpero

I have an online Master who lives across the pond, i am in London, he is in Florida.  The trouble is i never know when he will be online.  I worry that something will happen to him and I will never know. I emailed him last Sunday but he has not responded? have i stepped out of place?

Please help

     First, you accepted this Master in a reletively short period of time...you couldn't have known much, if anything, about him. Hopefully, for your sake, he's on the up-and-up...just not able to be online very much, at this time. Even so, he should have made that clear to you.
     Second, as Master, he should have worked out a schedule with you, as to times both of you could be on. The time difference does make it more difficult, but that can be overcome, with a little planning and effort.
     I don't see you as 'out of place' for emailing him...my question is: did you receive a reply?
 
                                                                             'hawk



windchymes -> RE: Help please (6/8/2007 5:49:46 AM)

If you stepped out of place, if he was any decent sort of Master, he would let you know.

It is true that, if anything happens to online friends and they haven't left instructions behind in a will or a desk drawer or someplace to notify their online friends if something happens, then no, you will never know.  It's one of the realities of internet friends/relationships.

It's also true that a LOT of people play cyber games online with other people's hearts and then disappear when they either get tired of playing the game, or get discovered by their significant other or spouse.

Internet relationships carry their own set of risks, and you have to accept that if you're going to participate.  That's why it's best to keep your heart and soul intact until you know for sure. 



octavia -> RE: Help please (6/8/2007 6:31:15 AM)

I have a few friends who live in various places around the world and it is strange when suddenly you don't hear from them.  I always wonder if they have been in an auto accident, or was there an earthquake.  A few months back, my Aussie friend just "poofed" on me, it was so unlike him, that I started searching the net for local news to his area.  I was really worried!  He turned out to be fine, change in work schedule, but still.  I think it's important to note as well that I had known him for almost a year at this point and our contact had grown to just about daily.   I have never had a full on "cyber " relationship, so i can't speak to the expectations in place for that sort of thing, my guess is, that I would want to have some form of follow up contact options for just such an event.  cell phones are brilliant for that sort of thing.
best of luck,
octavia



FreeSpiritSpero -> RE: Help please (6/8/2007 7:10:26 AM)

Thanks for the advice, i guess i'll just wait to see if Master replys this weekend.  I just hope he hasn't abandonned me, or he is ok



proudsub -> RE: Help please (6/8/2007 5:35:16 PM)

When you do hear from him again you could ask him for an email addy of a friend of his that you could contact in the future if you are worried.  Do you have his phone number?  If so why not just call him, if not ask him for it.  If he won't give it he may be hiding something, like a wife.



FreeSpiritSpero -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 2:08:59 AM)

have asked for his phone number before but not allowed it.  i will ask for a friends email next time i speak to him.



windchymes -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 4:04:23 AM)

That's a major red flag right there.  I know some will come along and say maybe it's part of his domliness.  Maybe.  But I'll stay with the overwhelming odds.



Areflectionofyou -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 4:30:02 AM)

when i asked for my Masters number i was given 3 after our first conversation..his cell, his home and his work...Red flags arise without even one phone number.



SadisticMan -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 4:41:16 AM)

I'm sorry, I don't get into the online Master and slave thing.  Mainly because
of this type of thing.  Online has no feelings or affection and you have no idea
of what is REALLY going on in their life.
Maybe the warden changed his recreation time ...  right, he could be in prison
and you wouldn't even know.....
Why not find a realtime relationship and do away with cyber heart-breaks ?



SadisticMan -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 4:43:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FreeSpiritSpero

I have an online Master who lives across the pond, i am in London, he is in Florida.  The trouble is i never know when he will be online.  I worry that something will happen to him and I will never know. I emailed him last Sunday but he has not responded? have i stepped out of place?

Please help


Funny, he was online yesterday, look at his profile, "MasterMichael54" right?
 



adoracat -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 1:39:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SadisticMan

quote:

ORIGINAL: FreeSpiritSpero

I have an online Master who lives across the pond, i am in London, he is in Florida.  The trouble is i never know when he will be online.  I worry that something will happen to him and I will never know. I emailed him last Sunday but he has not responded? have i stepped out of place?

Please help


Funny, he was online yesterday, look at his profile, "MasterMichael54" right?
 


just from my own experience....i dont log off from the forums i'm signed up to.  this one, and a couple of others, show me as logged on 24/7 no matter if i'm actually "here" reading the forums, or if i'm sleeping and the kid is on the computer.

just my two pennies
kitten



slaverosebeauty -> RE: Help please (6/9/2007 11:15:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FreeSpiritSpero
have asked for his phone number before but not allowed it.  i will ask for a friends email next time i speak to him.


He won't give you his phone number, BUT, you are in a 'relationship' with this man?! I see BIG RED FLAGS. After a few emails and IM conversations with somone I get a number, cell or home or both, definatly before I say I am in a 'relationship' with someone. If he won't give you his number, then what makes you think he will give you his friend's email addy?!



Kirata -> RE: Help please (6/10/2007 12:49:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FreeSpiritSpero

have asked for his phone number before but not allowed it.  i will ask for a friends email next time i speak to him.

Whether he turns back up or not, I have to agree with the people who've raised a red flag on this one. Please be careful with your heart (and the rest of you).
 
K.
 



FreeSpiritSpero -> RE: Help please (6/10/2007 1:40:43 AM)

[;)]Have already decided to leave him, i fell in love with a gorgeus bloke last night.  He helped me talk through my problems and told me to just be me!



Politesub53 -> RE: Help please (6/10/2007 3:22:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SadisticMan

I'm sorry, I don't get into the online Master and slave thing.  Mainly because
of this type of thing.  Online has no feelings or affection and you have no idea
of what is REALLY going on in their life.



i cant agree with you here. If both parties are truthful and chat regular then feelings certainly do come into play online. There will be many people on the net who can attain to that, including me.

I see it as an intitial stage of getting to know someone, but it doesnt make the feelings any less real because it is online.
[;)]



windchymes -> RE: Help please (6/10/2007 4:28:41 AM)

Oaky, let's start again.  You just met a "gorgeous bloke" last night and you've already "fallen in love" with him.  Please tell me it wasn't online. 



KatyLied -> RE: Help please (6/10/2007 4:41:57 AM)

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Please tell me it wasn't online. 


Come on...you know it was.
How long before she comes here whining about him poofing?



AquaticSub -> RE: Help please (6/10/2007 5:44:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FreeSpiritSpero

have asked for his phone number before but not allowed it.  i will ask for a friends email next time i speak to him.


Not a good sign.



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