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SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: Strength and vulnerability (6/18/2007 6:15:54 PM)
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These are two qualities I absolutely adore in a man, and qualities that really feed my femdom lust. I'm curious how many other femdoms find these two to be attractive when combined, and how they impact their attraction to a man. For example, I have yet to hear of a femdom who would confess she is interested in "weak, simpering" men or pathetic worms.
As for vulnerability, that's a tricky one. I am really interested in hearing how submissive men view vulnerability.
Well, strength is an easy one. i need to be strong. Not only for myself, but those I care about. If I can't be strong, I can't be the man I want to be. A Domme once told me I was strong for all and weak for one. It pretty much sums it up for me.
Vulnerability is different. I have trouble being vulnerable even to someone I serve.
There are parts of me I fear coming out, or being exposed. There is still shame associated to some of the things I feel and want, so it's difficult for me to discuss and even verbalize them.
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When are you able to feel vulnerable for a woman?
Very rarely
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What does vulnerability feel like?
A mix of shame and strength. It's like a weight has been lifted, but there is still the fear of rejection or something along those lines.
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Are you unwilling to let yourself feel vulnerable to a woman you do not know?
In person, yes. Although I have opened up more to friends I've never met other than online.
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Have you ever gotten a sense that a femdom is attracted to your vulnerability or turned on by it? If so, how do you work to show it - to offer it, to allow it?
Yes, but I'm usually in such a mental pile of goo I can't change the progression or alter how I offer it. Once I'm vulnerable, basically she can control how and where it goes.
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I admit the last two questions are the ones that really have me thinking. It's clear to me that vulnerability is a HUGE turn on. In my experience, some men guard themselves (moreso vanilla guys) and getting them to a place of vulnerability is a challenge. Others, when they see that it turns me on, allow themselves to be more vulnerable.
It sounds complicated but it's so simple in many ways. When I was just a teenager dating, I was so incredibly turned on when a guy was nervous on a date with me. If he was shy or uneasy or afraid to make a move; that, to me, was a type of vulnerability. I don't want to get into a long talk about what "vulnerability" means, but I do find it to be incredibly interesting....and arousing.
It's interesting, even in the few dates I've had with Dommes in vanilla settings, i'm still the calm, suave, debonair Billy Dee Williams cat I always am.
It's not until the dominance is exerted that I get nervous.
Then I'm an f'in retard.
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